Hi There
I am new to this site and feel that after reading some of the other posts I would find some understanding support out there.
My mother was diagnosed with breat cancer in May last year and after a double mastectomy and gruelling chemo and radiotherapy we thought that we were out of the woods. However we have recently had the devastating news that the cancer has returned at the original site with a spread to both her lungs. She had an appointment yesterday and was advised that there is no cure for her the best that can be offered is an attempt to control her symptoms with regular checks. She therefore begins chemo again in a couple of weeks.
Has anyone out there had a similar experience? What can we expect in the future. It is very hard not to think the worst but I am being as strong as I can for both my parents and family. Mum is devastated and I wish I could say something that would make it better but I don’t know what.
I will be grateful for any support.
Thanks
Hi annelou,
What terrible news for you all, after all you have endured. My heart goes out to you all.
Please try not to think the worst, you are doing your best to be brave and strong for your Mum.
Your mum must be very proud and grateful to have such a loving and caring daughter.
Nothing you can say will make things better, your actions and love will help your mum through the hard times ahead.
Never let go of the HOPE… I believe Miracles can happen. I have just been diagnosed with an high grade invasive bc, I know what my children must be going through.
The love you give is the best medicine…
You will be in my prayers and thoughts…Sending you love
Rosamund x
Thanks Rosamund
And likewise you are in my thoughts. I think as you say love is the best medicine and with myself and my 3 brothers and sister as well as our own families that won’t run short.
Good Luck
Anne Louise
Hi annelou,
so very sorry to hear about your Mum’s secondary diagnosis - but don’t give up hope - ever! My inspiration through the awful journey of breast cancer has been a male friend in Florida. He was dx with a non-small cell lung cancer some 7 years ago - had his right lung removed. He didn’t seem to get better after some 6 months and his wonderful wife (my best friend) researched hospitals in Florida and found the Moffitt Cancer Hospital in Tampa, where she had him transferred. They found the cancer had spread to his left kidney, and they removed it. He has had many different chemo treatments, and is still here today, at some 78 yrs old, although he has a “hot spot” on his remaining lung, but a recent Catscan showed it to be slow growing, and he will probably die of something else, hopefully in his 90’s. He is so thankful that he has had some wonderful 7 years of extended life due to new medications, regular scans. He has travelled from Florida twice to see us in England, and twice to Spain, where we all met when newly retired some 22 years ago.
I know it is an old cliche, but one I believe in : where there is life, there is hope. I know absolutely, without his wife’s research and caring, he would not be here today. So. do whatever you can to find out the best doctors and treatments for your Mum. She is truly blessed to have a daughter like you.
Take care,
love, Liz.
Hi Annelou,
I’m so sorry that it has returned so soon after her original treatment - your mum is so lucky to have such a good close family surrounding her.
I was dx in Feb this year and i do worry that it will return after treatment although I would expect to have at least 5 years clear but with this illness it can strike at any time. I would suggest that you read the posts of people with seconderies as they ahve given me so much strength as they show me that there is still a good life to be had when faced with seconderies and their lives are continuing for years - i had always thought that when you get seconderies I would only have months left but this site has soooo proved that to be soooo wrong. I hope you find some strength from reading these threads
xxx