I have a wee story for you. We (me, OH, son (15) & daughter (13)) have just been away in our caravan for a few nights between my chemo treatments. Anyway this morning I went off down the campsite to the shower block for my shower, smiling and saying “Good Morning” to all the people I saw, only to find that when I reached the shower block and walked past one of the mirrors that I had forgotten to put my prosthesis into the bra shelf in my camisole top that I was wearing!!! (I had my mx in April this year). I very definitely had that lopsided look to go along with my very fetching beanie hat that I was wearing to cover up my nearly hairless head!!! What all the people must have thought at the sight of me I dread to think. So, did I laugh or did I cry? Well ladies – I laughed.
I have not posted this just to tell you all what a prat I made of myself, but to remind you, particularly those ladies who are just starting on their breast cancer journey, that despite sometimes everything seeming dark and despairing there can be laughter at some points on your journey. They may not be where you expect them; if someone had told me before my dx that walking about breastless and hairless in public would be funny I probably would have thought they were slightly sick in the head! It was a beautiful sunny morning; I was with my lovely family and on holiday so despite the bc I was happy.
Life is too short with or even without bc to miss out on making the best of the good times and I hope that all of you can get some laughter in at some time on your journey, even if it is at your own expense!
Well done Sil,
I have workman in because I am having a new kitchen. It’s the last stage, painting. He is a very nice man, but we could not get the colour of the windows to my liking, he called me to see his final proposal and I had been busy clearing up my son’s room. Well it’s hot and I had taken off my wig because I was too hot, and I rushed down. We discussed the pros and cons of the new colour before I realized I had no wig, but he had not batted an eye lid. So I will laugh too.
Hugs to the hairless
Maria
You ladies did make me laugh, just what i needed,
I would love to have been there.Glad you could both have a laugh at your own expense.Good on you, that’s what i say, ha ha ha ha ha
Take care, Sandrae x x x
good stories! I laughed when i had an appointment with worlds most useless psychiatrist and he asked me about my feelings if i were to lose my hair…so i whipped off my wig and said i wasn’t that bothered really!
Just to add to the wig stories - my friend lost hers…she was really puzzled as she remembered putting it on the living room table…she found it later that day …in the dog’s basket! It was unchewed, we think the dog just wanted a little company in bed!
Heres my funny:
I was pottering in back garden wearing a 'boob tube to get the sun. Id pinned my softie inside as I dont have a good strapless bra.
Doorbell goes-window cleaner wanting paid-I reallised after a chat bout weather etc that the boob tube had swivled round an the softie was sticking outa my back!
I giggled all afternoon!!!
I decided to go bareheaded for the first time the other day. I also decided to dress up and wear fancy sandals and a flowing dress for the first time. I confidently told my other half that our 11 year old retriever would not need a lead to walk the 100 yards to the car. The dog had obviously been reading my " how to be assertive " books because as soon as we opened the door onto the street he took off towards the park ! I chased off down the road without hair and tripping over my sandals. What a sight. A woman in an open top sports car thought it hilarious. I could have slapped her, not for laughing, as it was funny, but because she had lovely long blonde hair which was blowing in the breeze ! Six months ago I would have cried but now I’m just happy to be here and enjoying ( ! ) the moment.
As one who went lopsided for years (through choice), I’m not sure why it should be a laugh or cry situation. I had had a mastectomy as I needed one, and saw no reason to disguise the fact. I certainly didn’t flaunt it,nor did I wear low cut tops, but I was happy to wear tshirts/blouses etc. I wasn’t awaare of people laughing at me (although I got some curious looks, people quickly figured out what had happened, and certainly didn’t laugh)I’m a bit perturbed at your line, “what everyone must have thought at the sight of me, I dread to think”. I would hope that they saw someone who had had a problem, and dealt with it-being a different shape to the majority of females doesn’t make you “a sight”.
A rather drunken man kept on bothering a woman in a bar and saying how beautiful her hair was. He made several approaches during the evening and when he said " I would love to run my fingers through your gorgeous hair" She, a BC lady, whipped her wig off and said
A couple of weeks ago. I was giving myself my first granocyte injection. I waited for everyone to leave for the day and set everything out on the sofa. I picked up the needle grip my skin and just happened to look up to see two window cleaners staring at me through the conservatory windows. I thought for a moment smiled shrugged my shoulders and stuck it in. Not a word from them when knocked at the door for their money. Was tempted to say it was good stuff, but was too much of a coward. Dx
i do enjoy these stories so am bumping it up in case there are any more that anyone may have.
I have another, of sorts. My eldest son had his last reception class assembly last week and in front of lots of parents he said mummy you’ve got your pretend hair on again. Thouhg a bit of me inside cried and nearly curled up in horror, most of me was able to see his innocence and congratulate myself for him staying on an even keel despite whats been a very hard 4 months and not being remotely bothered. Plus today he got his first report which was excellent on every section, so am v proud of him and us today.
I don’t have any stories, but I go running without my prosthesis and don’t give a flying fig what anyone thinks of me! I wear it during the day, but it comes out as soon as I am home - any visitors get me lopsided.
Never be ashamed or embarrassed. I mainly wear mine just because it makes clothes look nicer and stops strangers asking questions or giving me looks I can’t be bothered to deal with.
At a conference right now, an annual event, and only one woman has been unable to look me in the eye because she was too busy looking at my incredibly short hair! So I’ve decided not to tell anyone anything - they can all wonder and gossip, I don’t care!!!
Hi, I just would like to add what a small minded world if we cant laugh… I worked in a hotel for mainly physically disabled people before the cancer and my god what a great sense of humor they hed thank god!
My funniest was once i lost my hair, only wearing a bandana when a rather so called toffee nosed couple who I knew and dreaded approached me an said Oh dear I See You Have lost Your Hair Then… With THat I screamed Grabbed My Head and Replied Oh My God It Was There This Morning When I Left The House…
I know I shouldn’t but the look on there faces of sheer horror was worth every bit…
Hi
I think these stories are great…it’s good to keep your sense of humour.
I haven’t really got a funny story…but if I tell the kids off they make me laugh by telling me to keep my hair on …it’s hard to stay cross at them when your laughing lol
Keep laughing
Chris xx
Ooo I like this thread! I have a story that only happened yest! I was in town with Toby age 4 and went to grocer. The veg outside that I wanted was down on the ground level so I bent over and there was this gale force blast coming from an extractor grate thing and my wig was going mad! I was trying to grab peas in the pod and there were other customers beside us and Toby shouts ‘mummy quick go in the shop before your hair comes off’ and a lady next to us said to him ‘oh don’t worry sweety that won’t happen’ and he quite bluntly replied ‘mummy has pretend hair and hangs it on the stairs’ lol gotta love em! I did explain but poor woman nearly died x
This thread is absolutely brilliant, I’ve never had a wig (yet!) but I did various different prostheses over the years and about ten years ago I was at a Company party and staying overnight at a hotel. I had taken my cousin with we and we were sharing a room. We both rather overindulged with the vino and when we got back to the room I handed her my ‘falsie’ to put on the dressing table. I forgot to mention that it was a stick on type, so the next morning when I staggered out of bed, I had to peel it slowly off the top as she had stuck it sticky side down - it was never the same again!
I totally agree with all you ladies who say ‘sod em’ when you go out without your wig, although I think ElaineD rather missed the point of the line “what everyone must have thought at the sight of me, I dread to think” - It was meant to be lighthearted Elaine, that’s what this thread is about.
Take care of yourselves everyone, hope you’re all having a happy day. Lots of love, Dianne x x x