Hi,
I was diagnosed in March, had wle and reconstruction in April and started chemo in June ( I’ve had 2 lots of TAC so far, 4 more to go then 5wks radio).
I jusy wondered if there are any other single mums out there willing to share ideas and experiences.
Hope to hear from you!
Starlight67
if you ring the help line (probably closed now til monday) they can put you in touch with people like you to chat to on a one to one basis. Dont know how many single mum volunteers they have though.
sorry to hear you need to be here, young single mums have enough to contend with anyway without BC
BUMPING this up for you starlight there are many single young mums here also a young womans forum too
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all the best to you
Mekala x
hi starlight i am a widowed mom but my kids are older 24,20,18 but i know how daunting this can be and even more with younger children am sure someone else will soon be along too, how old are your chidren ? xxx
hi starlight,
i dont often post on here anymore but i spotted your post and it does seem us single mums are in the minority.
i was dx april 2009 age 35, my son was 11. it was kinda tuff sorting out babysitting for both me and him as i was going thru treatment and trying to keep things as ‘normal’ as possible.
in the latter stages of treatment i sometimes felt i was taking some of my frustrations out on my boy as there was no hubby to help out with the housework and emotional roller coaster of hormone therapy. However, hearing some peoples stories it seems having another half can be more of a burden than a help half the time!
so i guess we can count ourselves lucky. Two years on, still single and we r out the other side stronger than ever.
best of luck to you.
pixie
Hi everyone and thanks for your comments.
I’m 44 and my sons are soon to be 10 and 12.
I’ve found it hard having the chemo and trying to keep things normal for the children. For a couple of days after each chemo I’ve literally been stuck in bed, so although I’d tried to organise stuff in advance I felt as if I was shouting orders (empty the washing machine / feed the cats / wash up etc) from my sick bed. The boys have been great, but I realised I need another adult in the house so have made arrangments for future chemos to have people here or stay with my friend while the boys go to their dad’s.
I also found that when I was ill and wanted to phone the hospital it didn’t happen as I couldn’t be bothered and my children were too young, so another good reason to have an adult around.
Pixie, I’m pleased to hear you’re better and feeling stronger than ever. Gives me hope. I sometimes feel that first my children went through our divorce and now they’ve got to watch me be ill - they’ve been through so much.
I will give the helpline a go, thx for the tip.
xx
I still count myself as a “single mum”, as although I have a long-term boyfriend we don’t live together, and sometimes I go from one week’s end to the next without seeing him for more than five minutes.
How old are your children? The needs of teens (my youngest is 13 next week) and littlies can be very different.
Hi Starlight67
I’m a 42 year old single mum of an 11 year old daughter. I finished my chemo at the end of May and am now taking tamoxifen. If there’s anything specific you want advise on, please feel free to PM me.
Hope you’re ok.
Deb x
Be open and honest with people about how difficult it is - then accept all offers of help! The ‘novelty’ of offering to help quickly fades if you do not take them up on their offers.
Maybe have the kids on a sleep over for the first few days, get someone to bring meal around or even do a bit of housework. Mine (7 year old twins), wen to their fathers for the firs night or two.
And be honest with the kids, it will probably make you all closer and make them more compassionate children. Kids are resilient.