Sister
Sister Hope its ok I just need to rant, I am finding my sisters reaction to my illness increasingly annoying. I was diagnosed in July 06 and after a very difficult phone call from my sister I told her to call me when she had calmed down as I couldn’t deal with her hysterics, I am still waiting!! I have seen her twice since diagnosis and not at all during chemo and at no time has she asked me how I am coping. How long can you “not handle it”, I have always been there for her and at a time that I really need her she was nowhere to be seen. Thank goodness for friends and my mum. I feel better now I’ve got that off my chest and she will just have to get over herself, I just hope that she never needs me in this way.
You are not alone Hi AnneF
I have experienced similar situations with my brother and sister. I have no idea what goes on in their heads, my brother has not telephoned in months and sister drops in for a while and then rushes off saying she has to be somewhere else. I know its difficult for them but have they any idea what I have to go through.
I feel at times very unloved and unsupported, like you thank God for friends and this website.
I think you have to look after yourself and if some people are not around, as hurtful that may be. you are the main proirity now, take care of yourself.
Its at times like these you find out who you can rely on and its not always the people that you first thought of.
Rosiexx
Anne it happened to me too. Your sister may well be in a cold sweat that it’s going to happen to her too, which is no help to either of you.
We all end up having to depend on those who are capable of facing up to our probs- and what a blessing they are!
In the end the only ladies who know how you feel are those who had br ca before you/with you. So it’s always good for br ca gals to network and support each other plus this has the benefit of the the info swap shop- loadsa info about what to ask for and who to ask for it.
Don’t break your heart over those who simply can’t face up to what’s happened. Best wishes, dilly
My sis works abroad, but she was here when I was diagnosed last year. TBH my OH and me have given up on her. I’ve been dreadfully sick all week after the first Taxotere I had - I emailed her to tell her and got one back to say she has got a bad back and had we received any mail to forward on to her.
She’s supposed to be coming for a week in July - normally she would come for 3 but we can’t put her up as I need the spare room and she doesn’t want to shell out for a hotel (yet she’s in the ME and has tax free earnings!!!). I get my last Taxotere first week in June and she said on her email it would be great when she comes over as I will be “back to normal”. Never mind the fact I haven’t been out of bed for 7 days and I’ve got 13 cycles of Herceptin to look forward to. I tgink she assumes it’s like going to the Dr and getting 2 Nurofen.
OH reckons he’s going to fall out with her as he’s getting really cheesed off. She’s even said if she buys a flat here to rent out she wants us to look after it for her. That will be right…