hi all hope you all had good xmas,mines was very quite got some great presents.but the one thing i didnt want was for my depression to come back ,but it has big time .i was suppost to get my wig last saturday went all the way into town only to find the place shut with note pinned to door to call back on the monday which i did but it was still shut and now i feel totally let down my hubby keeps telling me that it dont matter iam still the same person that he loves but to me iam not i feel incomplete i hate myself i hate feeling like this i know i got alot to be grateful for but i hate being let down i feel no one understands what iam going through is this normal or am i just being selfish cow? dot
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Hi Dot
Sorry to hear you’re feeling so down. It’s quite normal, I’m afraid - you have a lot of healing to do emotionally as well as physically. We have had a major life-threatening disease - and that takes some getting used to. I don’t know if you’ve had treatment for your depression in the past - it’s important that you do seek help. I called the helpline like Lucy suggests - and it was brilliant. I then got counselling from our local Maggie’s Centre and it really helped me. I still have wobbly days sometimes, but they’re less often and less intense than they were.
I’m sorry to hear about the problem getting your wig. I found the whole process of getting my wig really emotionally draining and I don’t think I would have coped if i’d had your setbacks. I don’t know if this will help, but there’s a brilliant charity called Wig Bank which was set up by a woman who had BC. They have contacts all over the country www.wigbank.com and it might be worth trying to get in touch with the nearest one to you - they will understand all too well what you’re going through.
About your husband - I know exactly what you mean. If my husband still finds me attractive (he must be mad), then I just try to be grateful instead of looking to spoil things. Doesn’t always work, but it’s worth a try!
I do hope things start looking up for you soon.
I am so sorry you were let down by the wig place. These things happening at a time like this always seem so much worse than later on after you have ‘coped’ with all that has been thrown at you.
It is perfectly reasonable and even likely that some sort have incident has happened in the life of the ‘wig person’, but you are, and need to put you first.
When I was at your stage I would have felt exactly the same but I was very lucky and my wig fitter was there in private, and was so sensitive.
Can I suggest you ring in advance next time to avoid another disappointment.
Losing my hair caused me to be very depressed and this is pefectly natural, I would be surprised if most people didn’t agree.
I hated my wig s and mostly wore hats, have you tried any?
Take care and try to not focus on the hair thing that is causing you so much sadness, easier said than done I know.
hi just want to say thanks for all your help especially rareybird i took up your suggestion and now i have 2 wigs and i have my positive attitude back ,so now i can face my chemo on weds.i got 1 sensible wigs and 1 crazy wig and the fun ive had with that 1 is great people walk byme in the street not realising its me my hubby thinking iam crazy(whichiam) but iam having fun and i feel great so a BIG THANKS rareybird take care all.lots of hugsxxxto you alldot