thanks for all the advice, you sound like you are being very supportive towards your mum. hope that the first chemo went as well as can be expected. we are in very similar positions and the way you describe how you are coping sounds just like me, you and the others support really means a lot to me don’t know what i would have done without this site. i am really really tring to be positive buts i am still finding it so difficult, think at this moment in time i am taking 2 steps forwards and 10 back, anything seems to upset me, in turn i am upseting my close friends as i am being a total C*w to them, just can’t seem to help myself.
it would be great to keep in touch it is good to know that someone else is gong through the same thing.
We had the first chemo yesterday and if I’m honest, it was horrible. The nurses did everything they could to make it more pleasant and the actual chemo wasn’t as bad as I thought, although not pleasant. But by the evening she looked so ill, had very bad nausea and sickness. She was staying in hospital anyway and having spoken to her this morning she’s not had any sleep and is still feeling as bad. I just can’t deal with it though. I keep wanting to cry and I don’t know how I am going to cope later. I’m going to pick her up and stay with her tonight but I’m so useless with people when they are ill, especially my Mum because i just can’t handle it. This sounds silly but I actually have a phobia of sickness that sends me into a panic attack so I’m trying to keep that under control too.
I just can’t believe that 6 weeks ago everything was normal. This is all just so unfair.
sorry that yesterday wasn’t good. thats my mums hair staring to come out now and i fell terrible its funny how a thing like hair makes a peroson, and without it they seem so different. i know how you feel regarding the 6 weeks ago everthning was normal and now so much has changed. hope your mums sickness is easing, you should make sure that she takes the anti-sickness tables as regular as possible even if she feels that she doesn’t need them, as they can prevent the sicky feeling, also encourage her to drink plently of water, this will help it flush through her system (advice from this site). i know it is easier said than done but try to keep focused and tell yourself the sickness.
isn’t forever, don’t now how to stop yourself panicing about the sick though. remeber your mum will probably look worse as she hasn’t had any sleep. keep your chin up.
I know exactly what you mean about the hair. Obviously that hasn’t started with my Mum yet, but we went shopping and bought two wigs last week so we are prepared. They look really nice too!
She’s on a mixture of anti sickness drugs for the first three days so I’m hoping she’ll feel better today after taking them all. I did just text her saying ‘water, water, water’ which is an ongoing joke we have as I am always reminding her, and I got one back saying ‘wine, wine, wine’!! So it’s good that she still has her sense of humour! I bet she can’t wait for a glass! Do you know if it’s OK for her to have it inbetween treatments?
I’m in the process of planning our spa day, gives me something to plan and will be a nice surpise for her too!
I hope you are well and your Mum is getting through OK.
Hi Michelle, what a lovely daughter you are xxx i was very lucky, didn’t have to have chemo, but still a lot to go through then and now, if your planning a surprise spa day for your mum, see what days she feels best on in between chemo, it has a habit of hitting people mid chemo cycle, plan for a time when you know your mum will really enjoy it, my son planned a meal for me, a week after my last op, it was so lovely of him, just him and me, but i felt so poorly, and i didn’t want to let him down, a lovely meal, but i could hardly eat anything! us mums know that our kids love us, you don’t have to do anything but just be there and support, any mum is truly happy with that