Hi, I have no idea what say on here. I’m 34 I’ve been married just over a year and have a beautiful 10 month old daughter. I was diagnosed on 6th May and start chemo on Thursday. I’m triple negative and it has travelled to my lymph nodes-that’s actually where I found the lump. I have no idea how I should be feeling, I don’t feel poorly and sometimes it doesn’t feel real. I think I’m hoping it’s all just a bad dream! I have an amazingly supportive husband and family-I think I’m just looking for anybody similar or any advice! ? I’m really upbeat and positive and I don’t want to loose that when my chemo starts.
Hi NMT_1
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Oh love I just don’t know what to say, life is just unbelievable at times and makes no damn sense at all, I’m not in your situation as I’m 47 and am having rads and no chemo but there are a couple of ladies on here around your age going through chemo and one of them is pregnant, I will see if I can find them through some of my old threads and try and link you up, it’s a bit of tricky site to find your way around at first, you hang on to your positive thoughts and you will get through this love xx Jo
Hi NMT_1. Sorry you have found yourself in this position, but welcome to this great forum. There is so much support on here from people who have been through exactly the same thing. There is a June 2015 thread for ladies who are starting chemo this month - the monthly threads are really helpful for comparing notes and sharing experiences. I also found a lump in my armpit and was diagnosed on New Year’s Eve. I am ER negative and HER2 positive and had FEC-T chemo, which finished last month. I’m awaiting surgery to remove all the lymph nodes from my armpit and I’m having Herceptin until next Spring. It’s great that you have such a positive attitude and lots of support from your husband and family. Chemo is not a walk in the park but it is doable, and it’s a big help having such great support on the forum. I completely agree that it feels unreal - the waiting for results is really hard, but once the treatment starts it seems to pass quicker than you’d think. Wishing you all the very best for Thursday xx
Hi hun,
Im 38 - mum to three - 6 yr old and 2 yr old twins - i was diagnosed at easter - mine is a grade 3 hers 2 positive - had a 24 mm lump removed and one of two nodes had small traces of macromatisis- I haven’t been given a stage as I was told it’s early stages and not to get too caught up with it what ever that means!
I’m due to meet my oncologist on Thursday- been told I’m looking at chemo, rads, herceptin and hormones - looks like I’m having everything thrown at this but that could change come Thursday.
Just wanted to say your not alone- I started off as being down felt like the end of the world but as I’ve moved on with treatment so far and been given more info I’ve been a bit more positive.
I’ve found thT everyone’s experience of chemo is different - I’m dreading it - from all this I’ve lost the plans for my year, my job ( they laid me off on diagnosis) - I won’t allow it too take my hair and that’s my biggest fear in all this - I said right from the beginning can take my boobs, ovaries but plz leave my hair! Xx
Thank you all for your replies, I had my consent meeting today. How soon after the chemo did people start feeling unwell?
Hiya, to be honest I’m not bothered if I loose my hair/boobs/ovaries I just want to be around to see my daughter grow up.