Hi all
Just wanted to say that I’ve been reading this thread with interest and will certainly mull over what you’ve been saying.
It’s tricky to balance the needs of all forum members, particularly in a public forum, but we’ll definitely think about the suggestions made here, so do keep commenting.
But for the moment, please do continue to stick to the agreed guidelines, which cover the whole of the forum.
Best wishes and thanks
Leah
Hi Leah, thanks for considering this, I know it’s a tricky one, but titled correctly I think it would be great., hopefully if your the type of person to take offense they won’t read the threads…
Anyway, thanks for looking into this… x
I, personally would find it offensive, although respect your right to express yourself however you feel. I swear occasionally myself, but despise seeing it in the written word or hearing it on tv or film etc.
It would be terribly sad if someone, new to this forum and bc clicked through to a thread full of obscenities. I know that I only ever look at threads through the ‘Latest Postings’ link and so inadvertently stumble onto threads that are meant to be exclusive to other groups.
Just a different perspective.
I would love such a forum…
BRING IT ON!
if you dont like it please dont look at it ! easy
A ‘steamy’ forum could easily be kept private, away from the ‘latest posts.’
Quite a while ago there was some discussion about those with secondaries having a private forum.
I use swearing and some black humour as a safety valve…it helps me.
I believe there is a need out there for this as previously stated, I was wondering if this type of Steam Room forum could be one that once you have joined this forum, the steam room would be signposted stating what it is and then if you wanted to ‘join’ you would sign in. That way you would be forwarned before coming across something that may offend.
just a thought
Jenny
I would join. And post. And read. And post some more. In fact I have pages and pages of on topic posts already drafted in my head, back catalogue to 8th march 2010, the date I was dx.
Vicky, You do make me laugh… Well keep posting ladies, Leah’s interested and the more we get posting the better chance of a Steam room…
xxx
I think it is healthy to let rip. If you are angry and repress that anger that can only be a bad thing. So if some people need to explode, then a safe place to do that seems good. Just so long as it is clearly labelled, or needs to be deliberately accessed. I am sure no one would want to offend those of a delicate disposition. Debx
Deb, I think your husband may disagree as he said you let rip so much on Chemo that the methane levels at your house were a fire hazard.
Yes no naked flames in our house- ker- boom. : )
oh heck…safety goggles please…with wipers attached to deal with all the steam.
x
I love the idea. I do occassionally have a rant but I always feel I need to apologise for it and I think having a place to go that embraces the rant may be very empowering. I also think if I had of been happy to rant more I might have been less of a b*tch to my husband during chemo! So whilst I wouldn’t want to offend, hence the constant apologising for the rants I do think sometimes it does you a whole lot of good to let the anger out, and I know Shaun would have been very happy if I’d have released my anger somewhere other than with him. Joxx
Hmmm, there’s also the issue of an early menopause coming on from treatment to those of us who are pre-menopausal at time of dx… surely that gives us even more of a need to be disgustingly vile??? Much though I wouldn’t be sad to say goodbye to periods, the thought of becoming more hormonal on top of bc, and all the physical changes it will wring… AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGHHHHHHH. Please, please, please can we have a steam room!!!
Hey Ho, I know that feeling Pre menopausal… I live with 3 grown Men, OH and 2 sons aged 22 and 24yrs… Poor things I put them through hell and back…
Being thrown into the change is NOT GOOD…
So yes, I swear, and want to swear frequently…
I think someone said about the forum being something you have to sign into, so you cannot enter by mistake… Good Idea, then we all get what we want! We get the Sweat Room without offending others…
OKay, At this moment in time I could really do with a STEAM ROOM…
Bloody Life stinks at the moment… xxx
Hi,
I enjoy a good rant, wouldn’t be offended by other people having them and agree that there are simple ways to make sure no-one stumbles into one by accident.
One little word of caution though. Swearing can be quite cathartic and humorous but I’m not sure that a whole forum dedicated to it wouldn’t be quite depressing!! Just a thought.
Still no harm in trying it.
Jan xx
I don’t think the language will be too blue !!! Just the fact if you need too you can, I think sometimes it good therapy just to let it all out, and certainly my poor OH would agree… lol… xxx
I think this is a great idea. It would allow us some freedom of expression and to use the kind of language that really expresses what a crock of ^^^ having this disease is. Bloomiung marvellous idea!
Hi,
I’ve seen this idea on another forum I used to go on and it went down well.
You can come on and post, have a good old rant aand moan…no one tries to make u feel better, just leaves you to it. If you want help you go on the other threads.
Good stuff!