My mum passed away earlier this year and i have struggled up and down.
I started counselling but i dont think its going very well, i dunno, it just feels a bit like a chit chat.
Any advice to help me get through it, espically time year thats coming up.
R.x.
Hi Rach
I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your mum. Counselling can be a good idea but it doesn’t work for all and also the counsellor needs to be right for you too. Counselling is very much about you talking and expressing your fears, feelings, emotions etc without being judged and without somebody telling you what to do - it’s about you getting things off your chest and maybe working things out. I really feel for you and cannot really imagine how bad you must feel. I do know what it feels like to really hurt when somebody you love and care about very much is ill and the feeling of desparation if anything was to happen to them. I know this time of year can be really difficult for people who have lost loved ones and there is nothing I can say to make it any easier. There are plenty of people on here though who will help make it that bit easier for you by just being here and listening to you so keep on posting. Sadly there will be others who can totally sympathise with what you are going through now and hopefully will chat with you.
Sending you hugs
Ruby xxx
Hi Rach,
I know how you feel. I lost my Mum on the 15th Oct this year and I’m finding it very difficult to deal with. I saw her take her last breath. I am dreading christmas this year but have to try as I have a 16month old daughter.
She battled this disease for 25 years. The last 12 months were awful.
I just don’t know how to cope. Where do you live, i am in Wigan.
You can send me a private message if you wish and we can keep in touch.
Holly xx
I am so sorry to hear that you have lost your mum. i lost my dad in October very suddenly and am very up and down with it. As you say christmas is such a hard time for those who have lost someone as they were part of chrisitmas themselves. In live in Hampshire. I don’t have any answers but go easy on yourself. The pain will never go away but I am hoping it will become easier to live with as time goes on.
Rachy xx
Hi Rach
Just wanted to say that i know how you feel
My wonderful mum died suddenly on 28th November, never a days illness in her 75 years
Each day i wake up, thats when i manage to sleep!, my heart breaks all over again
Everyone says time is a great healer, i hope thats true, as the pain is unbearable right now
She was strong for me through my breast and kidney cancer diagnosis and treatment and I
dont know how to cope without her. She was my best friend.
I hope for all of us, who have lost a loved one, positive memories and hopes we will meet again in a better
place, free of pain and illnesses.
God Bless
Ann x
Hi Rach, my Mum died very suddenly at the end of April this year, I was with her. I have breast cancer with bone secondaries and my Mum had ovarian cancer, which was only diagnosed days before she died. I have no wise words but just to say these last few weeks have been a little better. I visit Mum’s grave every week with fresh flowers and find it a comfort to do so. Do you have a brother or sister or someone else who was close to your Mum to talk to? My sister and I have talked over my Mum’s death, last days, many times…and this has helped greatly.
Take Care, Belinda…x