Hi,
My Mum is about to start chemotherapy and I’m not really sure what to expect after, as in how she will be after each session. I know it varies according to each person but I had intended to stay with her after each session in case she’s feeling unwell etc but I don’t want to crowd her if you know what I mean. I just wondered if anyone could give me any advice?
Thanks
Hi There
I had my OH stay with me after my first chemo as I was not sure how I would be. I think it would be a comfort to your mum to know there is someone there should she need it - but hopefully with all the anti sickness drugs she will get she will be ok.
It varies from person to person and I know there were days when I just wanted left on my own - so I would say listen to your mum - get her to be honest about what she wants. But certainly I would say stay the first night and play it by ear.
Hope this helps
Hope your mum gets on ok
Fiona
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Hi Michelle,
I started E-CMF chemo in May. My boyfriend takes me to each session and always has that day off and the one after to look after me. I have generally felt ok following treatments but was afraid to be left on my own ‘just in case’. At the time when I first started treatment my boyfriend was working away during the week, so luckily my mum moved in with me to take care of me. She just helped me out with the household chores and stuff.
My boyfriend has since been moved and is now able to live at home all week. He still takes the day off after my treatment but after that I’m pretty much on my own during the day. The first few days after each treatment I tend to stay in but after that anything goes! I’m now happy to be left on my own as I know my boyfriend is just a phonecall away and can be home in 20 mins if necessary.
Chemo is very tough, both physically and mentally. I have had lots of tears since I started treatment and I know its been tough on my boyfriend. I will never cry in front of my mum and others as I don’t want to upset them so my poor b/f gets the brunt of it all!! I just want you to be prepared for tears that may come. My worst time seems to be when I get home after each treatment. Thats when I tend to feel very sorry for myself! I’ve no doubt that having you for support will be of great comfort to your mum. If you could be around close to her treatment then I think she would very much appreciate it, I know I do.
I wish you all the very best as you start this journey.
Take care and you know where we are if you need us,
Kelly
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Dear Michelle
I think it is very individual. I did have someone come with me and take me home afterwards for the first 3 sessions, but I did not want anyone to actually stay with me except for after the first one.
I would say to see how your Mum feels and ask her to let you know what she needs. It’s really important she doesn’t feel like she’s burdening anyone as I have felt that guilt but of course no one ever makes me feel like that.
As Kelly and Fiona say, be there for her as she will have ups and downs and you’ll get used to how the process treats her as time goes on.
All the very best to you and to your Mum
Cecelia. x