BUT
I’ve suddenly had an onslaught of people getting in touch who I haven’t seen for 20 years. Old school friends who want to see me, an old ex who was so awful that I now call him the ex-b@st@rd (sorry for the swear word but it was necessary for context) etc. etc. One girl rang and TOLD me that chemo was a “golden flow of vitamins getting rid of all the nasties, and not the goodies and I HAD to think of it that way”. She didn’t have the first clue of what chemo actually was.
I’ve got along fine for the last 20 years without the “support” of these people, and now when I “almost die” (well, not really, but that’s how they see it) they want to come and annoy me.
I really don’t have the patience for them.
Exasperated of London
Hi - my first and only instinct is not to reply to them. You will find threads on here about people who call themselves “friends” and we don’t need them !!
You will have tough times going through all of this and your true friends will support you but also all the fabuous ladies and men on here.
With love and hugs to you
Liz xx
If these people have not bothered with you in all the years that you ahve been fit & well and now that you’re not at your best they start to come out of the woodwork then perhaps they just want to show how nice they are by visiting the sick person. Tell them you are too tired to see them. I’ve got one of those ex’s too… seems to be a few of them about.
Love Lilac
Hi
I had the same problem with a few OLD Friends. Not heard from them in a while and then suddenly… they hear through the grapevine your ill!!! I kept asking myself, why does it take something like BC for them to get in touch. To me true friends are with you through good and bad times. I decided not to contact the people who pretend to be friends. My true friends i can count on one hand and their the ones i know who are genuine.
Kirsty xx
Caron -
i agree with all of the above - if they are offering help tell them you are in debt up to your eyeballs and are delighted to hear from them - and yes they most certainly could help if they had a spare grand or 2 to “give you” - don’t think you will hear from them after that haha
i was worried re: same. One of my friends was meeting up with someone i no longer have contact with (just one of those things rather than having had an argument) - she asked if she could tell ex friend re:BC and i said i would prefer she didn’t just because i don’t want or need phonecalls from people that have obviously made the decision prior to this that they were not going to make the effort to stay in touch and therefore no longer considered them my friends. I will be polite if any of them phone me but will also make it clear that i don’t either want or need them at the moment. Could suggest they email you as phone calls tire you out??!!
2nd chemo tomorrow - take care
Mx
Thanks everyone, I’m glad it’s not just me. Another friend of mine suggested it’s like rubber necking at an accident. Either that or them making themselves feel like good people that they’re “visiting the sick”. Yeuch!
I’m just going to ignore them - and if they push it, I’ll just ask where they were during the rest of my life? That will get rid of them 
Cx
Hi “C”
Why don’t you thank them very much and say that you need a lot of help and have worked out a rota involving the key tasks of cleaning, shopping and whatever other things you can think of and invite them to do a weekly slot for you.
That should do it!
Love FB xxx
Fizbix what a good idea.
Cleaning rota for unwanted guests. TOILTES NEXT ITHINK!!
LOVE Bridie
ROFL - fantastic idea FB, I love it!