the news of my cacer was not good ,they had doubled in size and i am to have six cycles, i have been informed that my life expectancy is now months.
my husband works in the nhs and has asked for christmas day off, and they have refused, as if i dont have enough to worry about. he could go off sick but this would give him the usual appointment with hr
any advice
hi firstly im so sorry to hear you have recieved bad news… i also work for the NHS the( so called careing profession )… how terrible that they wont make an exception and let him have christmas day off, cant he speak to his manager ? if not tell him to go to HR and tell them your situation , im sure he would be allowed this time off for compasionate reasons… try not to let this become an added worry , im sure he will be allowed the time off to spend with you,when they know the full story, angie xx
Hi Polly Im sure once your husband reasons for the request is know he get it off.Or im sure someone at work will swap with him.Just enjoy each day together.Try & stay positive sending u big hugs x
Hi Pollywolly,
I am extremely sorry to hear your news.
And this thing with your husband’s work is not the sort of worry you need now. It’s so outrageous. Do they have the full picture and really understand what is going in in your & your husband’s world?
One would think not by their response.
I hope they will realise and give him what he needs this christmas.
If not then I hope he takes it off anyway. HR can wait. you are much more important.
Very best wishes to you
Cannoliwings
Hi, I’m so sorry to hear your news. I hope you are getting all the help and support you need right now and the 6 cycles of chemo helps.
x
Hi Polly, so sorry to hear your news. With regard to your husband he is entitled to ask for a reasonable adjustment at work, under the latest equality legislation, the equality act 2010 as you are covered under the protected characteristic of disability, he is covered as your main carer and so falls under the equality duty which the NHS are bound as a part of the public sector. He can request an adjustment to working hours working on the basis of association with the protected characteristic of disability. Sorry it is quite conveluted but I have attached a couple of useful documents from BCC and Equality Human Rights, if it doesn’t work private message me with your e-mail address and I can forward you these.
equalityhumanrights.com/uploaded_files/EqualityAct/employees_working_hours.pdf
This next document is for NHS just in case they are not totally up to date with the new legislation
Best wishes, Simone xxx
than you all for the positive response …i shall tell him, wish he could tell the local paper but they would have him for whistle blowing and not going through th correct procedures
Hi
I work for the NHS and there is no reason why he should,nt be given compassionate leave… especially at Xmas… if its the same for your husband as it is for me, no,one is allowed annual leave over xmas period… hence staffing levels are high… our ward manager is now asking us all if we want to take any time owing if so we can take it xmas week… Tell him to stick to his guns and have a word with Occupational health, he will get support (if not tell him to ring in sick)not the best option but hell girlie surely someone will swap if all else fails!!!
I wish you well honey bless you
Doz xx
Dear Polly, welcome to the BCC forums
In addition to the support you have here please feel free to call our helpline for a listening ear which may help during this difficult time for you and your husband, the lines are open 9-5 weekdays and 9-2 Sat on 0808 800 6000
Take care
Lucy
he applied for special leave as per policy, but has been turned down and told now that he can have xmass off but it is to come out of his annual leave, thanks for all your replies and pointers
Wow. meanies.
well I’m glad you will be spending Christmas together - that is what is important.
Best wishes to you.
I too worked for the Health Service and some managers are very mean or rather non empathetic…ironic!!
If your husband is under stress because of the situation ( and he will be) it will be worth having a word with your GP.
I do hope you have a very special time. I too have a poor prognosis but let us cross all fingers and toes. Chemo can be very effective.
Hugs if you want one Cackles xxx