Hi all
I have been reading round these forums for the past couple of days for info and non scary advice. I must say what a lovely supportive and courageous community you are.
Like many on this forum I am playing the awful waiting game as I wait for my I initial appointment at the breast clinic. Got my letter today and my appointment is for Tues 21st the last possible day to meet the 2 week target. Really not looking forward to another full week and weekend of waiting. To make things worse worry and stress levels are already high as i am in the middle of studying for my final exams for the part time degree I have been doing for the past. 4 years. Needless to say mind is really not on revision and I am really not looking forward to my exam on the Friday before my appointment. Can’t concentrate on anything at the moment never mind being fully focused for 3 hours.
I know the facts and logic say that I will have nothing to worry about when I go to the clinc, but I do have a lump and breast pain and family history so it’s hard not to think the worse.
Any tips for staying positive and keeping focused on anything other than health worries will be most appreciated
Hi Twinklytoes
I’m sorry to read that you are having a pretty worrying and tough time at the moment. I’m sure the users of this site will be along to support you soon.
In the meantime if you need some extra support or to talk things through do give the helpline a call. Here you can talk to a trained member of staff who will offer you emotional support as well as practical information. The free phone number is 0808 800 6000 and the lines are open Monday to Friday 9.00 to 5.00 and Saturday 10.00 to 2.00.
Best wishes Sam, BCC Facilitator
Hi Twinklytoes,
I really feel for you, I really do. It is very difficult, trying not to panic but panicking nonetheless. We have all been there.
I sincerely hope that your clinic reveals nothing of concern, but rest assured that if it does, you can and will can get through it.
My main reason for responding is that I am a university lecturer, and I wanted to make sure you make use of the support systems at your university. All decent universities will have a policy and system of support for those students experiencing difficulties, especially around exam time. Make sure you tell someone what is going on- it would be confidential I am sure, and they may recommend some ways to support you or deferral of examinations, for example.
My only tip for getting through this is distraction- by whatever means works for you. Mine was cleaning, walking, meeting with friends, and Sauvignon blanc.
Good luck
jackie
As Jackie says - tell the Uni and use their system to get through. It is bad timing, but is there ever a good time? Stay focused on the goals and dreams you had before this cropped up, because they are what will help you through and keep you going when times are hard. Always remember that you are getting it sorted and that you will get back there.
For me it was that first bit where I didnt know what I was dealing with that was the worst. Once I knew what it was and what I had to do it became easier to focus on getting through it and retaining as much of my own life as possible, if that makes sense. The best advice I had was that being positive and looking forward was half the battle and I think that is very true. So at this point in time remember it may be nothing.
Like Jackie says, whatever works for you to distract yourself - do it! Like Jackie, mine involved wine and family. Knock any doom merchants off your Christmas Card list too - everyone seems to know someone…
I used mind games too…I think they have names like NLP and CBT…but they are all about training your mind to be positive.
Good luck and hugs!
Kahren