Heyy, uhh my mums just been diagnosed and i don’t know what to do or say. Just keep crying, don’t know how to express my feelings, at first i don’t know whether it was like the news hadn’t entered my head properly, but now it has and i haven’t a clue how i’m feeling if that makes any sense? Cause of course i’m so upset about the news, i just don’t know what to think. Maybe you can tell, just rambling on? My parents have made it clear that i can talk to them, but i know they’ve got enough on their plates and i don’t know how to talk about the way i’m feeling. I don’t wanna come across selfish, cause i know they’re having to cope with they’re feelings. xx
Dear StarRise,
Maybe it might help to speak to someone on the Helpline during this difficult time. They can offer advice and emotional support to anyone affected by breast cancer- this includes relatives. They will be open at 9.00am tomorrow. The number is 0808 800 6000
Kindest regards
Janet
Facilitator
hi starRise,
Rambling on is a great way to start, find people who’ll listen to you…they’re a great bunch on here for that! But also in person too, so talk to your parents/freinds/postman…whoever is willing to listen - i found that really helped me (not sure how the postman felt about it tho!!!). I just think the more you talk (or type) about it the easier it gets for you to digest yourself and face the journey ahead with tears, tantrums, fears and laughter.
I was only diagnosed 30th April, but feel like i’ve already come a long way since those initial periods of mortal dread/denial/why me’s?.
You are not being selfish seeking support through this…its the best part of the healing process along with the horrible drugs/surgery and wotnot.
I’m not sure you ever get to grips with how you feel about whats happening…for me anyway it changes each day, but this is a great place to come and offload. There is a thread that iive found really supportive on here if you like a giggle as well its under “freinds needed - diagnosed early may” if you fancy taking a peek and joining us on there.
xx
Big huge hugs to you. My Mum is going through treatment at the moment and was diagnosed at the start of April (my thread here breastcancercare.org.uk/forum/viewtopic.php?f=99&t=22044). You feeling just as you are supposed to - like you have been hit like a truck. It’s not supposed to be easy to hear such awful news so don’t be hard on yourself whatever your reaction. I too felt utterly floored when I found out and cried so hard, really like a child (I’m in my 30’s!) utterly beside myself. But, here we are a few months down the line and like anything its almost impossible to maintain that level of emotion so despite some really bad news on the way we have managed somehow to assimilate this news into our lives. It’s certainly not the same as it was before but we have found some kind of new routine and way of being with the cancer.
My advice would be - use the forums, use your support networks. Don’t have high expectations of how you will deal with but theres a strong chance that maybe even in a few weeks, with a bit of a plan in place, you will feel on a more even keel.
Love and best wishes, NL x
So sorry to hear about your Mum Starise. There will always be someone on here to listen to you and help with your worries. I’m sure you will find this site a valuable source of comfort and information at this very difficult time.
Hugs and best wishes to you both Judy x
Thank you very much everyone for replying to me. It helps a lot to know that there are others in a similar or same situation. It’s just knowing there are people, and how to get the emotion out. All of what you have said has been really helpful or maybe guiding? I’m sure i will be using the forums more. Love to all and thank you again xxx
and also, hope whether it is you or family are recovering well and evereyones ok xxx