Very Trivial - Clothes to fit the New Boobs

Hi All
I know this is decidedly trivial, but today I decided I’d look for some new blouses to suit my new shape, ready for going back to work in January. Having lost 4 inches off my bust after a combined lumpectomy and mastopexy (reduction & lift) to the BC breast, then a matching one to the other side to get a balanced pair, none of my old blouses fit any more - they hang off me like tents. Not surprising having gone from 40DD to 38B or C.
So I tried on blouses that were one or two sizes smaller than I used to wear, but was surprised to find that although they were roughly the right size, they were designed for much saggier boobs than I’ve now got, since the darts on the bust ended an inch or two lower than my nipples and therefore looked odd.
Anyone else found this? And what to do about it?
Sarah x

A temporary suggestion might be to go for the layered look with scarves, drapes, wraps etc until you find the right thing for you, but I’m no fashion guru (live in polo shirts).

I always thought that the darts weren’t SUPPOSED to go all the way to the nipple, so perhaps you’ve been wearing things wrong previously?

How about t-shirt material, or jersey or knitted fabrics if you want the more clingy thing going on?

It does take a while to find out what you can wear. I went from a 40G to a 38B so a huge difference (double mx and prostheses). I found some lovely things I would never have been able to wear before and then others that like you say hang off you.

I found going to different shops that I never shopped in helped. I don’t wear blouses as such though so I can’t help with that.
Elinda x

Thanks (and Happy New Year) to both Elinda and ChoccieMuffin

I wouldn’t choose to wear blouses/shirts, and haven’t been doing for all the months I’ve been off work, but the office where I work is air conditioned and kept far too warm. I’m dreading the excess heating, especially with Tamoxifen and Zoladex to deal with.

I suppose I’m going to have to force myself to go clothes shopping - not my favourite activity - and be more adventurous - another foreign area! As for darts, they should point towards the fullest part of the breast, even if they don’t continue all the way there, according to my classes in dressmaking many years ago. And PLEASE no one tell me to make my own clothes, I simply haven’t got the time, and it’s so much cheaper
to buy than make these days.

Sarah x

Have you tried bravissimo? They are specialist bra shops for d cup and above women and are fab. I’ve been fitted there and bought their stuff for years. They do clothes as well as bras, and they are designed for curvy fit, extra curvy fit etc, they have shops dotted about the country, I use the one in the triangle, manchestet. But they also have a fab catalogue with fitting guide for bras or clothes so uou can figure out if you would need curvy , extra curvy etc blouses. Think they do dresses and swimwear too. Sounds lime it’s time to treat those new breasts to some new clothes!

Vickie

Hi Sarah

I’ve always had a problem with bust lines, as I have the combination of being long-waisted and having a higher than average bust line.

Try different brands and styles, because one might work better than another. ‘Princess’ styles, where darts or seams run from shoulder to waist might work better. Pleats or gathers might avoid the problem or might be a temporary solution if you prefer more tailored styles normally.

I find that summer styles in particular tend to be too low for many of my bras, so I often need to tuck a scarf in or pin a square across the front when it is too warm for camisoles. I know what you mean about working in over-heated rooms.

Cheryl

Hi Sarah,
I am going this week to see my surgeon to discus having a breast reduction and lift on one side so that i match my reconstruction on the other side.I estimate that my reconstruction is a B to C cup and not altogether breast shaped. However on the side I am going to have reduced I am a DD to E. Has your surgeon managed to balence you or do you need a small prosthesis to achive this ? I was very interested to read about your clothes thread because this is soemthing that I will face. Having been big busted all my life it had struck me that it may be difficult to find a new stlye! I am not going to have my surgery until April but i am currently trying to loose some of the weight i have gianed with Tamoxifen in the hope that my bum will match my new boobs by then! I have found a way of eating that is helping me to loose about a 1Lb a week whilst not taking over my life!
Happy shopping!

Jane x

Hi, I’m in a similar position, went from a 36K to I think C cup might be smaller once the swelling goes down. (BC in left breast lumpectomy and double breast reduction on 14th Dec). Still trying to get to grips with my new look. Was so focused on the bc never really thought about the physical change till after the operation. Most of my clothes just hang on me, but not too bothered as I’m still at home, wearing alot of scarfs, and wraps more because I’m still a little uncomfortable about my new shape, than how my clothes looks. My new breasts are so ‘high’ that when I put on a couple of my old tops they were totally exposed, the neckline was underneath them lol !!
So after that ramble I agree that jersey type material is probable the way forward or a ‘boyfriend’ shirt belted. Hope you find something suitable. Happy New Year everyone! Donna xxx

Sarah, I used to work in a stiflingly hot air-conditioned office so I understand how you feel about that. Do you have to wear blouses as such? I used to wear nice T-shirts, with a smart skirt or trousers (or suit if needed), and a necklace to dress it up and I was always being told how smart I looked.

I have always found blouses and shirts a bit of a nighmare, when I had a big bust they used to gape. T-shirts are also a lot cooler.

Know what you mean about shopping, I hate it. If I find something I like I buy at least two or three of them hopefully in different colours!

Happy new year to everyone!
Elinda x

Thanks for all your comments, I’ll just have to be brave and go shopping and actually try different things on. I’ve previously always played it safe (and easy!) and bought shirts that are cool enough in the over-heated office, and they looked fine when I had a large bust. Now I need to re-think. I don’t have to wear anything in particular, as long as I don’t look scruffy.
Elinda - I’m impressed that you’ve been told you look smart at work, no one has said that to me for at least 20 years!
Hi Jano
My surgeon managed to get a reasonable match between my BC side and the other side, with operations 3 months apart. The BC side is a bit smaller, particularly on the upper half where the tumour was, but it’s a good enough match for me, and I don’t need to use a prosthesis. Experts like bra-fitters or my breast consultant can see the size difference immediately, but to the rest of the world I don’t think it’t obvious, and I and my OH are happy with it which is the most important thing.
Sarah x

Hi Tors/Vickie
Yes I know about Bravissimo, thanks to my 34GG sister! In fact the main problem I have is adjusting mentally from being a largish boobed lady (38DD or 40D) to an average size one (38C), which isn’t really catered for by Bravissimo or similar shops.
The practical problem I have is that even before the BC surgery I found it difficult to get bras to fit because my boobs were very wide, so most bras I tried on sat on the front like little pointy cones (picture Madonna in her early days). So now I’ve effectively had the front inch or so cut off those very wide based boobs it’s even more difficult to find bras to fit. And also my nipples are now about 1 inch higher than they used to be - cute, pert, etc, but difficult to find clothes for!
Sarah x

Sarah,

The Bravissimo ladies may have experience in recommending styles to fit your shape, even if you are not in their target range now, and I found the fitter at the local M&S (a large branch) very helpful last time. They have ranges which they recommend for post surgery, even if you don’t need a prosthesis, because they are smoother inside. I think some people find light padding conceals differences in shape. It took me some time to find styles and the actual size combination that gave me a good fit even before I had my first surgery.

The snow and a big seroma put paid to my plan of visiting the fitter about a month ago, so I’m hoping to manage it between chemo sessions later this month. I can’t face Christmas or sales crowds.

Feeling smart is good for the morale, but only if it’s comfortable as well.

I have just one bra which fits, thanks to the bra fitter at John Lewis, and must get some more. It’s a Royce post-mastectomy bra, and like Cheryl described it’s very soft, made of cotton jersey, and because it’s lightly padded it hides any small difference there is between my boobs. I tried to order some other styles from Royce over the internet but thanks to our very slow broadband it kept bombing out and I had to give up. I’ll probably do it from work instead!
Sarah x

Having had breast reduction on both sides I’ve found finding a comfortable bra (not too tight under the arms and not too high on my huge under bust scars) very difficult. Have tired internet Nicola jane and amoena but found the best for me to be an ASDA sports bra at £4! I live in T shirt and cardies so they pretty much fit my smaller bust although some of the scoop necks come a bit low and show my rads tattoo. My tummy now sticks out more than my bust so I have that awful barrel/pregnant look. I’m trying one of those slendertone electic thingys to try and tone up and pull it in!

Hi Fingersx
Know what you mean about the tummy sticking out further than boobs. I used to console myself that at least my bust was the furthest point from the rest of me, but I can’t say that any more! “Waistline” seems to be a historical concept with me! I’ve lost about one and a half stone since the BC diagnosis, but it’s still a work in progress.
And it’s so difficult to find bras suitable for these artificially created boobs. Don’t get me wrong, I’m delighted with how they look compared with what the alternatives could have been, but it’s not easy to find clothes.
Sarah x