I’ve been reading these forums for the past couple of weeks now and i would just like to say how brave all you women are and i wish you all the luck in the world on your journey xx
About a month ago now my 45 year old mum found a hard, painless, pea sized, fixed lump near the surface of her breast, and since then i’ve been worried sick. When she went to see the consultant he said that it isn’t screaming cancer but would need to do a mammogram anyway…which will be taking place this Friday. The thing that is worrying me the most is, the fact that the lump is fixed…and i’ve yet to read about any benign condidtion where the lump is immobile. The only thing what suggests it isn’t cancer is the lump is smooth and isn’t irregular and there’s no family history of it. So i’m just wondering if there are any other women out there who have discovered a lump the same as my mums and it turned out to be non-cancerous?
It’s like i’ve convinced myself my mum is going to be told she has breast cancer, and i can’t bear the thought of seeing the person i love the most go through it…i’d rather it be myself. I feel very selfish in a way posting on here because my mum hasn’t even had a diagnosis and already i feel like it’s the end of the world.
This must be a very worrying time for you and your mum.
Take some comfort from the fact that the specialist didn’t think it is cancer, and the mammogram is just a precaution. At this point try and take one day at a time, and I really wouldn’t spend too much time searching the internet; there is so much wrong information out there it can really scare you.
I have been recently diagnosed with breast cancer and can tell you that it definitly isn’t the end of the world.
Keep posting on here, and I am sure others will be along soon to offer support as well.
I’m sorry to hear you have breast cancer.
Thank’s for your advice, i greatly appreciate it…it’s made me think more positivity…and whatever the outcome we as a family will deal with it.
I am 45 like your mum had had a pea size lump that was cancerous (diagnosed Sept 2010), but I have had all the treatment and have been back at work full time since May. I hope the results of the mammogram are good, but if not it honestly is not the end of the world and the treatment isn’t nice but I got through it waiting for results is by far the worst part.
Good luck and I will keep my fingers crossed for you.
I’m glad to hear you’re doing very well It’s very reassuring hearing from women who have being diagnosed with breast cancer and are still leading happy normal lives.
My mum’s mammogram is on Friday, do you think they will tell my mum if they suspect it to be cancer on the day or will we have to wait?
Thank’s for the support. The only think i can do now is hope for the best.
I think every hospital is different. When I went for a routine mammogram they didn’t tell me on the day. When I went for the second one after the first was abnormal they looked at the mammogram while I was there, then did an ultrasound and a biopsy and told me straight away they thought it was cancer.
There was a BCN in the room to answer any questions I had after the doctor had gone. It really helped to have someone with me, to listen to exactly what they were saying as it is hard to take it all in.
I had to go back 3 days later for the biopsy results. However from what I have read on here that was very fast, other people at other hospitals have waited for longer.
I was 44 when I found my lump. I went to the breast clinic where I had a mammogram, biopsy and ultrasound. I was told on the day that the cells were abnormal, and to expect a cancer diagnosis, although it wasn’t confirmed until I went back. This should have been a week later, but I was on holiday so I went back for the results two weeks later.
It would be best if your mum has someone to go with her on Friday, both to support her, and to be a second pair of ears to remember whatever the doctors say.
My diagnosis was in Feb 2007, so next month I will be five years on. I am fit and well, and in April will be running the London marathon for Cancer Research.
If it is any help, when the consultant first examined me after I found a lump he immediately said that he was concerned. I then had a mammogram, ultrasound and biopsy the same day and I was told straight afterwards that it was definitely breast cancer. I then got the full picture i.e. grade and type and programme of treatment a week later.
From the different reaction of your mum’s consultant it would therefore seem quite likely that your mum’s lump is not cancer so try not to worry too much before Friday - easier said than done I know.
If it is, however, as you can see from on here there is great treatment now and it sounds as if it will have been found early too.
Hi I’m sorry you’re going through such a worrying time thinking about your Mum, my Dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer last year but he had an op and it’s all gone and he is totally fine.
I’m 40 and had a scare in September last year with a large lump which didn’t really move either, I had a mammo and ultrasound which was inconclusive but they said they didn’t think it was cancer. They did a biopsy which showed abnormal cells so at this point they said 50/50 and I had the lump removed. Thankfully it was benign.
I do think that drs are very honest and if they think it’s cancer they come straight out with it. If they’re not sure then they have to be on the fence until they know for sure. I do believe they have a good idea when they examine you so all the things they said to your Mum sound really positive and hopeful so try to keep that in your mind and your Mums. It sounds like they don’t expect to find cancer but because they can do things like mammograms it’s good to totally rule it out.
Keep positive and wish you all the best for Fruday.
My GP and then the consultant both said they thought my lump wasn’t cancer. But then the mammogram showed that although the lump wasn’t cancerous (it was a cyst), the thickened patch next to it WAS cancer. So you never can tell. I thank my lucky stars for that cyst, it could have saved my life since I went to get it checked out.
But I’d like to echo what several others here have said - BC caught early, particularly if it’s a low grade, is not the end of the world. I’ve had the surgery, plus the matching surgery to reduce the other side, then the radiotherapy and now on hormone blocking medication for 5 years. I was lucky and didn’t need chemo. I’ve been back at work for 12 months now and feel fine. Long may that continue!
In addition to all the support you have here please feel free to call our helpline on 0808 800 6000, the lines are open 9-5 weekdays and 9-2 Sat, you and your Mum are welcome to call for further support, a listening ear and information. We have a forum on here dedicated to partners, family and friends where you may also find further support from users who have been through a similar experience to you, you can access the threads here:
Thanks for all the advice and support And it’s a great comfort hearing from women who have fought breast cancer and come out the other end. Before my mum found the lump in her breast, i didn’t know much about cancer and was always one of those who thought… ‘it’ll never happen to me or my family’', but if there’s one positive in of all this, it’s that it’s opened my eyes and made me appreciate life much more. Cancer isn’t what it used to be, and it seems treatment has advanced loads.
I’m glad to know that they usually tell you on the day of the mammogram or at least give you an insight on what it could be… because like i’ve read other women say, it’s the not knowing what’s the most difficult part. Hopefully we will know more tomorrow, and i’ll definitely let you all know how my mum goes on.
Hi ubr3, really hope ur mum gets good news tomorrow. But as the others said if it isnt the news you’re hoping for it isn’t the end of the world.The treatments are so much better these days. Pls let us know how she gets on, good luck x
My mum went for her mammogram and ultrasound today and they’re pretty sure it’s just an oiled cyst, what’s caused by trauma to the breast. They were going to drain it there and then but the person who did it wasn’t in today, so my mum has got to go back the doctors to see about getting it removed. The person who did the mammogram said they aren’t allowed to tell people what they see on the mammogram though because a consultant has to do that, which is a bit strange…because then she did say on the ultrasound it seems like an oiled cyst and nothing to worry about.
I’m so happy and relived and hopefully this is the end of it all. My mum has been a tower of strength and it’s made me realise how much i love and care for her. Once again, i want to thank you all for your advice and support, i’ve found it very touching. You ladies are lovely and definitely made the waiting easier. I wish each and everyone of you all the best in life. Take care of yourselves
waiting for results is by far the worst part.