i have just been given a date to see my breast clinic. i went to drs last week, i have got a thick long line in my left breast and two lumps which i can feel accross from it. i have become paranoid and keep feeling for more, when i lie on my side i have a hard lump under my arm near the breast. i am very worried. i had a mammogram and scan in june as i had two small lumps on my right breast and that came back all clear,this time it feels differrent, which is why im worried. my letter came in today and says i can bring a friend or relative with me and a notepad or tape recorder, but when i went in june that didnt say that, does anyone know is this a new thing. my gp referred me as urgent which also sticks in my mind. i have had a terrible year so far my husband left me in may and ive been suffering from depression since, so unfortunately no support arround, i dont want to say to my kids and have them worried unless its necessary, which is why im writing on here. im so sorry for waffling on but i just needed to talk to someone. any advice would be appreciated. thankyou
Rapid, or urgent, referral is what you’d expect from your gp for a problem that ‘might’ be related to cancer - so that’s perfectly to be expected.
My letters haven’t said anything about friend/notepad etc, but actually that is just sound information - and may be an initiative that your hospital has put in place. It can be very difficult to absorb the information you are given by the consultant/nurse etc, so taking someone along to make notes is a very good idea. Possibly the hospital gets many enquiries from patients as to whether they can bring someone else along, so they have decided to include this advice on their paperwork. Very sensible - I wouldn’t read any more into it than that.
I can’t give you any advice or comfort regarding the lumps/thickness you can feel, but just send you ((((hugs))) during this horrible waiting period, and I’ll be keeping everything crossed that the results are all good news. This forum is a wonderful place for support and advice - and comfort, if that is all that can be given - I’m so glad you found this site - but sorry that you are having all these worries in the first place.
Please do stay in touch, and let us know how you get on - and don’t apologise for waffling on - everyone on here will completely understand.
Sophie xx
HI angel dont go into panick mode just yet all referals to breast clinic are classed as urgent from gp ( ie. you have to be seen within 2 weeks)and my letter also said i could bring a friend or relative ( you can celebrate together if good news ,but have some one for support if not ) ggod luck and i hope all is well . x Julie
just wanted to say thankyou for your kind wishes, sometimes its so hard to accept that people do care. unfortunately its something ive been neglecting recently ive been pushing away my friends which ive regretted but it was my way of dealing with things. ive been reading through the website over the past week and theres so much support for people who have never met, i found it very comforting tonight to log on and have replies and it means alot to me. i am actually petrified to be going to the hospital , im trying to prepare myself for the worst outcome so it isnt a shock, but when i go to bed and feel the lumps i just go to pieces. my mum died of cancer two years ago and it brings horrible memories flooding back to me. for the last 5 years ive always done race for life and when you read some of the stories it breaks your heart,but theres always so much love around those days people who have never met before, people congratulating others for being a survivor and others just wishing people luck. im glad i found the courage to come on this as it really does mean alot to me, and to read all the success stories gives you the hope that we all want. thankyou from the bottom of my heart
I am so glad to have found this site, for exactly the same reasons as you. Even though I am fortunate in having people around me who are supportive - I do feel that there is only so much time I can spend talking about bc with them, before I either bore them or scare them to death! Coming on here is such a relief, knowing that I can be utterly honest, if I don’t want to ‘put on a brave face’ I don’t have to, and if I want to laugh at something, I’m allowed to… so please, please, stay in touch on here, post whenever you want, and take whatever comfort you can - that’s why this forum is here, surely?
I was only dx a month ago, so the waiting and worrying that you are going through is still very recent for me, too - and it is hell. I’m hoping very much that you get good news from the hospital, but in all honesty - ANY news is a relief after the anticipation and the wait. It’s the uncertainty that is really crippling, for me, anyhow (and I didn’t think I was a control freak, but maybe having to reassess that now!!).
As for your friends - if they are good friends, they will understand that after all you’ve been through lately, you just couldn’t cope. Could you maybe email one or two of them and explain that way? It’s sometimes very much easier to write things down than to try to speak the words. You may find that the odd friend doesn’t understand, but I bet you that most of them are just waiting for an opportunity to come running.
Sophie xxx
hi, well its wednesday, i go to the breast clinic tomorrow. Ive waited nearly 3 weeks for this appointment but now its the day before the nerves have kicked in. hopefully i will get answers tomorrow or at the least an idea of whats going on. for the last week ive discovered two lumps on my collar bone but its the opposite side from the lumps and thickening so ive no idea whats going on. Ive tried not to touch but easier said than done very night before going to bed ive got to feel to see if theres change or more lumps.once again i can only thank all who replied to me and for the site as ive been on it every night reading everyones stories.dont know if i ll sleep tonight but wont have much waiting in the morning as my appointment is 9am, just have to get through rest of day. so heres hoping i ll be on with good news tomorrow. Take care to everyone on this site xxxx
Hi Angel,
My partner goes to hospital for her pre-med tomorrow, prior to a mastectomy on Monday, so I know all about the waiting game at the moment. Just keep breathing, minute by minute, and you will get there. Whatever they have to tell you at the hospital, at least then you will know, and be able to make plans to deal with it.
Keep posting and let us know how you get on please.
Sass xx
hi all well good news the consultant said ive got inflamatory breast gland tissue. i never got a mammogram as i had one in june, im over the moon but i think if i was given a scan or mammogram i would believe it more. the large mass and lumps are still there so ive no idea now what to look for in the future. i just have to trust the consultant on what he has told me. i may not sound as though im happy but i am, just a bit concerned that i dont know what to look out for in the future. dr wasnt too concerned about the lumps around my collar bone he just said its normal for the mass and lumps in my breast… so i wish everyone on this site the best of luck for the future , i certainly wont be a stranger to the site, its an excellent site, and can only thank once again to those you read and replied to me. i really do wish everyone the best of health for now and the future xxxx
Angel, I’m really happy for your news, but do remember you can seek a second opion if you are not sure. I’m not for a moment saying that you need to, it’s just that my partner waited two years for official confirmation of the diagnosis I’d given her at the first sign of symptoms!
Good news - I’m so pleased for you. xx