My dad died very suddenly at the end of March. A few weeks later mum found out that a routine mammagram was not clear. After a biopsy she was diagnosed with BC. She had her lumpectomy last week and now we’re waiting for the results of that to see if she needs more surgery and chemo. I can’t believe this has happened to her. I know no-one deserves to be sick, but truly my mum is such an amazing woman-she’s always helping everyone, and she has been through so much, this all just feels so incredibly unfair. I’m trying to be strong for her, but I really dont know what the right thing is to do.
My sister just had her 3rd baby a week before my dad passed, so we’re really worried about her getting depression, and now my brother is the only man in the family - I’m not sure how he’s dealing with the whole breast aspect of it. I keep thinking I’m doing or saying the wrong thing. For the most part I work in a different city (I’m doing a post-grad so I’ve been able to take time off - but I don’t know what to do now - to just quit and move home or keep going). I’m bringing mum up for her results on wednesday - I just don’t wat to say or do the wrong thing. I was reading a post there on the stupid things that people say and I’m trying to wrack my brain if I said something that stupid. In general I’ve tried to stay positive and upbeat. I hope that doesn’t come across as uncaring to my mum, in private I’m a mess - but I think we all are, I just hope that as a family we can help each other to help mum through this.
On a practical note, may I ask if mum needs chemo will she need constant care? Obviously she’s not used to living on her own, I just want to know the level of support she’ll need. I just want to be prepared for whatever news we get on wednesday. I know she’s terrified, I want to be prepared to be strong, and to be able to assure her that everthing wil be ok.
Sorry to ramble on so much, I’ve just been having a bad day with all this,
Thanks
-R