Thanks, ladies, for this thread, which is something I’ve been considering for quite a long time now.
Firstly, Whiffy, I’m sure I remember being advised not to wear wired bras post mx. I haven’t, although I always wore wired bras before mx.
Secondly, you’ve convinced me that going prosthesisless(??) is the way forward for me. Increasingly it’s become uncomfortable for me, so why should I feel I have to wear a tight bra and heavy boob when I don’t want to. Everyone knows I only have one so why should I pretend otherwise? So today is the beginning of the rest of my life - without a left boob!
Many thanks for all your comments - I put the post up, waited ages for an email telling me my registration had been approived then lost the links to the site - just re-found it now. It was great to read all your suggestions. I am still looking for a good solution for me. THe scar causes a problem if I wear a bra strap on that side so I have at present resorted to removing the left strap and stitching the cup flat on that side (well almost flat as I still have some lumpy tissue left there) but still feel there must be a more elegant solution.I am very happy not wearing a prosthesis as that way I feel I have got my life back as it was before and I do not have to pretend to be someone I am not just wish I could sort the bra out - do not think I will be spending £300 though but thank you any way for the suggestion!
It’s been great to read this debate as I am about to go in for a mx and feel a lot of people are putting me under pressure to have immediate reconstruction. They seem more bothered about that than the fact that I’m having surgery to get rid of cancer!
I don’t want to conform just to make other people feel comfortable, but neither do i want to turn down recon as a political statement! If I have no recon I have wondered about not wearing a prosthesis - guess I won’t know if I can do that until I try. I do like symmetry but don’t want to create false symmetry.
Hi Lizziebeth,
I had a masectomy 20 months ago and have gone from a foam to a silicon pothesis and have decided i prefer not to wear any of these.I had so much trouble adjusting the false bits that in the end i decided not to bother.I am large breasted which is harder to conceal lol.I have been on holiday to Malta and Florida and taken my silicon boob with me in case i thought i might need it but i didn’t .It’s other people’s problem if they don’t like the way you look i have got over that and enjoy the freedom.The only thing i miss is wearing a necklace lol looks a bit odd .