Found a lump in my breast last night - about the size of a small plum. Went into complete panic mode as one of my best friends was diagnosed with breast cancer a couple of months ago so I know lots about it. I have also recently been getting pain under my arm (feels almost like sun burn) so i don’t know whether thats a bad sign too.
Saw the doctor this morning who has urgently referred me to the hospital - got an appointment for next Thursday 13th. Now it’s the waiting game. I am 28 with two young chidren. They are with me all the time at the moment because of school holidays - i don’t know whether that’s a good or bad thing the way I am feeling.
My husband has advised I don’t tell anyone as he doesn’t want me to worry anyone. But I am unsure what to do as I feel like bursting - I am so stressed about next week. I am hoping I am getting myself worked up into a tiz for nothing, but am so scared… I wouldn’t tell my parents as it would worry them, but am unsure as to mention to a couple of close friends…could do with some support…but hubby disagrees - opinions??
On a practical level, how long do the results normally take to come through?? I don’t even know if I will be having any tests or anything - I have just been told I will be seeing the “breast specialist”.
Feel like I have a 10 stone pack upon my back 
xx
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June, moderator
Oh, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It’s good that you have been given an urgent appt but still it will seem like forever to wait. In fact, that’s been the worst thing for me - all the waiting around for appts, results etc. When I found my lump (blind panic kinda describes that experience) initially I only told my husband as I didn’t want to unduly worry anyone but I think if you feel the need to tell a close friend or two, then you should. If it’s the support you need, take it. Only you can know how you really feel and what it is you need.
On a practical level, I had ultrasound, mammo and core biopsies taken of lump and enlarged node under arm - all done at the initial appt. Went back a week later for the results (the waiting was hell!) I found that, once I knew what it was, and what could be done about it, I felt better. Being in the dark and constantly thinking ‘what if’ was awful. Make sure you take someone with you to the appt, helps as some info just doesn’t always sink in. It’s a really anxious time so that’s not surprising.
It’s such a frightening time for you, other ladies will be along on here to give their advice and support, which I’ve personally found invaluable. I really think it’s important for you to talk about it though, if that’s what you want.
And do bear in mind that at least 8 out of 10 breast lumps are totally innocent. Let us know how you get on, no good saying try not to worry but just take one day at a time.
Take care,
Pat x
Hi vix28,
This is a very worrying time for you. I and everyone else here will understand what you are going through.
I did tell my adult children straight away. I told one of my best friends because she bumps into my daughter often.
I didn’t tell anyone else until after I was diagnosed, mainly because I needed to get it straight in my own head before I told anyone else. Also I didn’t want to worry them unnecessarily.
But telling my friend was the best thing I did. She was such a support for me and still is. She was the only one who seemed to understand. She listened and listened. She came to the hospital with me, and has been there for me all the time.
I found my husband couldn’t talk about it and I needed to.
Have you a close friend you could confide in. It’s such a weight to carry on your own.
BC is predominantly a woman’s illness and I think that makes it easier to talk to another female.
You can phone the helpline here they will help you.
The ladies on here are amazing, so supportive, lots of help will come your way.
I hope things work out for you.
Kathy
Hi Vix.
I’ve had loads of lumps which turned out to be cysts and one which needed lots of tests before it was confirmed to be OK.
This is the best place to share your thoughts - everyone has their own experiences and that provides support too.
Good luck.
Helen
Hi Vix
This is a tough time for you. The waiting is just awful. People tell you not to worry - easy for them to say. I found diagnosis was actually a lot easier than waiting and not knowing.
Having said that, there is a good chance that it won’t be bad news for you. I had fibroadenomas removed on two separate occasions in my 30’s. You need to be able to confide in someone how you feel so I hope you do have someone you can talk to.
alex
xxx
Hi Vix I really hope all is well for you.As for telling your friends I think you know who you can trust to share your worry now,will rejoice with you if all is well and support you if you have to walk this road a bit further.Your husband isnt going through this,you are and it must be your choice.In the meantime we are here to hold your hand while you wait.