What to do next??

Hi all

I know that you all have a wealth of knowlege and experience out there, hence my post!

 

I am stuck over what to do for work. I am an ex secondary school teacher (my subject is RE). I quit teaching in 2007 and was DX in 2009. In 2011 I managed to get a job working as an advisor for a very well well known parenting website, but that work sadly came to an end, due to funding cuts.

 

I don’t want to return to teaching or become a TA. I currently do a bit of voluntry work in foodbanks, schools and am actually going to do some work with Macmillan in the form of a breast cancer telephone buddy in the North West. I have applied for lots of jobs am getting no where.

 

What do you all do for work??

 

Two areas I cannot imagine myself in are retail and in a hospital.

 

I am thinking of retraning but worried that at 44, age is now against me?? Plus I don’t know what to retrain in!

 

I will be honest and say that the BC has knocked my confidence alot as it was so prolonged with reconstructuion etc (time that may have been better spent looking for a job, but hey ho!)

 

Someone offer me some inspiration please…

 

Naz x

Naz, I’m in a similar position. Was made redundant in March whilst going through chemo. Then had recon and rads, finished July.

I don’t want to go back to a boring desk job and don’t have the confidence or brain power to go back at my former level. I’m exhausted by lunchtime so really don’t know what I can offer an employer, which then won’t impact on my energy to deal with kids and household!

There must be something out there. I looked at retraining as all the courses started in September, but don’t have the energy for a full time course and part time are run in the evenings when my energy level is at its lowest - and I’m needed at home for dinner, homework etc!

I have got an interview soon for exam invigilator at local secondary school. It’s part time and rather as hoc so don’t know how that’ll effect my ESA.

Hi Naz - yeh me again, I’ve been forum stalking you (!)

 

You didn’t say why you quit teaching ?? That was a big decision and before your dx and prolonged treatments. What didn’t you like about it cos it obviously counts in your next choice.

 

I HAD to quit my profession at 45 due to health probs - not BC. (That followed UNexpectedly in the next 2 years).I’d tried to find something else to get into, the previous 3 years leading up to sellling my business. Hard isn’t it. I even attended career advice with a patient of mine who ran the career advice service at the local college. Applied for all sorts of things. I would have preferred to have had something lined up the other side of because I didn’t like the unpredictability and financial insecurity of not. However, I had to just sell and then tackle afterwards.

Like you, at 45 I didn’t feel it was worth retraining for another 2 or 3 years, from the point of view of working life beyond 48.  (12 - 17yrs perhaps). I could have afforded to fund myself through it.  Boy, do I regret NOT doing it, or even just finding some kind of menial work to just keep me ticking over. Instead of investing in myself retraining, I invested my capital in property with the view to refurb and sell. Got struck down and delayed for 2 years with 2 seperate BC’s/mastectomies, only to then struggle with massive depression after the 2nd mast and further delay due to it. By the time I’d completed the properties, the property and mortgage crash happened which totally scuppered everything which pushed me into even deeper depression. Aaarrrgh.   I haven’t found my path or feet since and I’m now 56 !!

 

So . . . . . MY MESSAGE to YOU behind all that is . . . If you can afford to retrain, DOOOO.  Obviously in this day and age of massive unemployment, you’ve got to always think of employability afterwards. I would have retrained in Physiotherapy because it was related to what I was doing before and was actually what I’d wanted to do on leaving school but didn’t get the grades, so settled for a second best that DID accept my grades.   2nd time round, I had a medically related degree under my belt + a load of relevant experience so I’d have been accepted without any probs, could even have done it as a Post Grad 2 year course. And if I couldn’t have secured a job in the NHS, I’d have set up in private practice.  I’d have still had to deal with the BC delays to training.  BUT. . . . I could have worked beyond 70 if I’d wanted or needed to blah blah blah.

So. . . Are you detecting the note of regretful bitterness here Naz !!

 

Back to you then, and your dilemma. I’m presuming you have a degree? If so have you checked into local Post Grad courses, something may spark your interest.

Do you know what I would retrain in now, if I were your age now. . . .   COUNSELLING.

With the state of unemployment, increase in cancer etc. etc., there’s a huge increasing population of depression.  You have a wealth of life experience + your exp of cancer. I know from your various posts that you are a very compassionate, sympathetic, empathetic person.

Sadly, the NHS can’t cope with it and don’t always have the budget to employ the amount of therapists/counsellors that are needed, so more and more tablets are being doled out instead. But,  if you’re interested in the suggestion, check out the NHS jobs website, because a few years ago, they were recruiting people who had an initial qualification in counselling / therapy   and offering paid traineeships. I’d come across this myself when looking at other health jobs. Apart from NHS, it’s something that would be soooo easy to run from home, property dynamics permitting, OR renting a room in a medical / allied medical / alternative therapy practice. There’s NLT, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), all sorts of different strings to it.

 

Other than that, the famous question is - What are you interested in and is there any way you could create an income from it??

 

Keep us posted

Lotsa love Delly xx 

    

Hi! am 26 and was diagnosed last June, been trying to work through chemo and barely made it, and now am on rad and herceptin…im an engineering research assistant at university. i can’t keep up anymore with the job, the stress, the deadlines and being part of a team that works long hours to meet deadlines and come up with creative and new ideas. the drugs have an effect on u no matter how hard u try and push things. it’s hard being in ur 20s and diagnosed and running between appointments and treatments - no one ever gets it at work. sadly i was only 6 months into the job. i want to know if other ladies in their 20’s managed to make it through and out of this - i feel like ill never be myself again. im a total mess, completely overwhelmed, always aching joints and muscles. i also cant come up with good ideas for publishing and my advisor is getting frustrated and impatient. i feel i need to quit my PhD and the job altogether and find something less overwhelming - but it feels like i would have lost the game to cancer if i do that. 

Hi! am 26 and was diagnosed last June, been trying to work through chemo and barely made it, and now am on rad and herceptin…im an engineering research assistant at university. i can’t keep up anymore with the job, the stress, the deadlines and being part of a team that works long hours to meet deadlines and come up with creative and new ideas. the drugs have an effect on u no matter how hard u try and push things. it’s hard being in ur 20s and diagnosed and running between appointments and treatments - no one ever gets it at work. sadly i was only 6 months into the job. i want to know if other ladies in their 20’s managed to make it through and out of this - i feel like ill never be myself again. im a total mess, completely overwhelmed, always aching joints and muscles. i also cant come up with good ideas for publishing and my advisor is getting frustrated and impatient. i feel i need to quit my PhD and the job altogether and find something less overwhelming - but it feels like i would have lost the game to cancer if i do that. 

FLIP gcinny - is the POLITE word.

Just read your post and being an emotional person, had to give myself a few momemnts to get over a few of those watery things that run down your face fro9m your eyes.

Heck flower, please try NOT to despair. I don’t know your financial position at present, which is a MAJOR consideration to ANYONE and EVERYONE with this gawd awful disease.

 

Pleease do not think me condescending, but, YEH, you need to calm down and for the time being FOCUS on YOU getting better. Take SOMEthing/ ANYthing that just pays to get you by at the mo. Mundane UNstressful work to allow yourself time to heal, mentally and physically. That’s MY advice. Because, You are young enough to return to your research post at anytime in the future.

You MAy actually decide NOT to return to it and take a different direction altogether.We don’t always end up doing what we initially set out to do. Treat it as a hiatus priod of growth/CHANGE. Please don’t let it bog you down and HAMPER this massively important HEALING period that YOU and your BODY needs for recovery from the awful vagaries of chemo.

 

If you desperately need the finances  take anything that doesn’t TAX you, you body and brain so much.

That any help?? - Hope so.

Jeez I was soooo lucky not to have chemo or Rads. But got “smashed up” by this disease in other ways.

 

Loadsa love to you and I’m passing on as much strength as you need. Even if it’s jst through the ether - it still bloody well WORKS.

Please keep in touch and let me/us know how you are doing darlin.

DellyWellyDooDah xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx