Delly…do you know how much I needed your hug and your wonderful kind words? You’ve made me cry but in a good way.It sounds so awful and selfish but I wanted now to be about recovery and this has floored me…back to lying awake at night like I did when I was diagnosed.If I could press a button on my dad I would.He misses my mum so much…I honestly don’t think they argued in their 60 years marriage.They were everything to each other.But being a positive person he’s never given up on life and that’s why this is so hard.The very essence of my dad is he’s a do-er not a sit-or.Doesnt watch telly and has never been “old”…brain as sharp as a knife, funny and witty.Can’t begin to thank you for being so empathetic.The world needs people like you.xx
Have a heart that’s sometimes “bursting” with love, and a pair of arms that get itchy if they haven’t hugged. Honest. It’s all through years of trauma and grief.
Think you need to get your thinking head on and also research whats available and going on in your area for your Dad. Does he enjoy to read - any reading groups? Might he be interested in painting? Joining a walking group, when he’s fitter? Daytime/evening classes. Learning a language? Philosophy classes?
Sounds as if he’s very lonely, despite having you and the rest of his family. Loneliness, in itself, is a very, very destructive thing. So, maybe with some gentle but persistent encouragement, he could ease himself into something he’s interested in, and one that involves other people. That could make an initial difference, which could then waterfall into other things.
Take care of you too, hey.
Dellywelly xxxxxxxxxx
Hello to everyone.
Yeh, Me again Treeze. I had a thought later today. Wondered if your Dad, when he’s fitter again obviously, might be interested to take up bowls. Like walking groups, it can provide a ready made a ready made group of friends. They always seem to have a good social life attached to them, as well as each of the activities. And Ladybowler, Helena, is the one to speak to and vouch for that, ey Lady H??
I DO hope your Dad’s “pulling round” and on the mend, however slowly.
Much love to you, and another spesh Delly hug. Oooooo - think I needed to give that, because, of course, I get one back in the process - yee-hee!!!
Hope you’re okay too, flower.
Dellypoos xxxxxxx
I don’t think he’ll.recover to any degree now.Doubtful he will go home again and given that he tried to end his life with overdose, even more unlikely.He has just been saying today how he wants to die…cruelly his heart is fine so could potentially last a lot longer.He is on fluids and antibiotics and needs to put on weight.he’s dropped to 7 and a half stone.social workers are arranging meetings as to where we go next but honestly he doesn’t care and things change every day.x
Hi Sally Anne…my dad passed away 3 weeks ago,his funeral is next Monday.He had a very rough three weeks but was cared for brilliantly by the home and his death was peaceful.I was with him At the end.Thank you for asking x
Thank you.I think that too.x