I was diagnosed in 2006 and used to post on here alot. As the time has gone by I have visited this site less and less. Now I find myself back on here because my sister is now going through a really rough time. She went for her routine mammo at the beginnning of the month (we have a family history) and was unfortunately recalled. She went for ultrasound last week which confirmed a suspicious area and they did 2 core biopsies. She gets her results tomorrow, but she is meeting the surgeon at the same time so they must think the worst. She has two children who are of an age where they understand what is going on and can ask questions which is both a good and a bad thing. I am hoping that they will tell her tomorrow that they were wrong and there is nothing there but if i am totally honest i think i’m kidding myself. Feel crap again now - feels like we are never going to get away from this horrid disease.
Hi Izzy05
Welcome back to the forums, you’ve come to the right place for some good support for both yourself and your sister. If you need a good listening ear then please do phone the helpline, they’re here to support you through this.
Take care,
Regards,
Jo, Facilitator
Poor you - I’ve had breast cancer myself and my sister died of it, so I know how you feel. What a wretched disease. I do hope it’s not as bad as you fear.
All best wishes
xxx
Results were as we thought. Invasive ductal carcinoma, she has op on 10th feb. Everyone is totally devasted but my mum just doesnt seem to be coping at all. She is completely blaming herself and seems to be sinking into a depression. She has no interest in anything, just sits staring into space or with her head in her hands!
I want to be there for my sister and her kids, and I hate seeing my mum like this.
Can’t really help, just sending cyber hugs. Your sister is lucky to have you and so are her children.
Kinden
x
Hi Izzy, how are things? Is your sister getting prepared for Wednesday?
Just wondered, if you’re mum would be able to come on here? It may ease her mind slightly to read other people’s stories and she’ll also be able to see it is not her fault and there is nothing she can do for her apart from provide support?
Best wishes xx
Hi Izzy
Just thought I’d give you a message of support and comfort. I too was diagnosed with Invasive Ductal Carcinoma in November. It is the second time around for me. I had breast cancer in 2005 when I was 36 so getting it a second time was a massive blow. It still seems surreal at times. However, I’ve had my mastectomy and lymph nodes removed. I’ve now started chemo and keep thinking that the disease might be a s**t but it won’t get the better of me. There will be hard times but having a strong support mechanism will help everyone through the hard times.
My thoughts are with everyone for Wednesday.
Love and hugs
Krissy
Hi Izzy
Thinking of you all at this time. JUst to let you know I had invasive DCIS and had a mx two weeks ago. Lymph nodes were removed for sampling and seem to be clear. They are still checking the results but my surgeon is confident I don’t need chemo just tamoxifen. I know an mx is not pleasant and I get really bad days but there is a chance that your sister may not need to face all the horrible treatments out there. Stay strong. Annys x
Hi Izzy
I just came across this thread and wanted to say I totally understand how difficult it is for you and your family. I was dx in Jan 2008 with IDC, grade 1 so had WLE node sampling, rads and now 2 yrs into a 5 yr sentance of tamoxifen … I was 40 when I was dx. My Nana (mother’s mother) had suffered BC in her 50s, had mx and rads and went on to live to the age of 82.
A few weeks back my Mam phoned her breast screening unit becuase it seemed like it had been more than 3 years since she had been called in for mammo … turns out she had been accidently deleted from theor records, but they gave her an appointment and she attended the unit… she regularly checks herself due to family history but was confident she could feel nothing, nor was she displaying any other symptoms, so this should have been a routine mammo and a call back in 3 years (Mam has jsut turned 65). Unfortunately she got a recall and after the standard tests she was dx with breast cancer… she has a very small tumour and it is early stage, grade 1 so she is booked for WLE on 9th March with propable rads afterwards … she, like me, is lucky to not need chemo.
The family are shocked and upset, I feel like I have been draggged back a full 2 years and hate to think of my Mam going through what I went through … I have to say I was very lucky with how I coped with the treatment and my SE were very minor, but at the end of the day it’s no walk in the park. Mam is very like me and is accepting this in a very matter of fact manner, I’m able to answer her questions and she knows she will get straight answers from me and says it helps.
For me the worst is the guilt and fear … I have a son and a 9 month old grand-daughter. I look at this beautiful smiley baby and I dread to think what I might have passed on to her. The thought that she could be in line for this in years to come has torn me apart. Everyone is telling me not to blame myself, and not to think that I have ‘given’ her anything other than my love … but in the middle of the night it’s not always so easy to think in logical sensible terms.
I hope your sister is recovering from her surgery and her treatment goes well. I will be thinking of you all.
xxx
Lilac