Hi Had a hard year I was diagnosed with dcis cancer last year April, had a wide excision then needed mastectomy. and TRAM recostruction in June. All went really well and I sailed through!! one bust a little bigger now need adjustment (in two weeks)…not really a problem. I am normally really positive and support others and laugh a lot …but now on the “outside” most people think I am fine but on the inside I could not be bothered with anything,get frustrated quickly and despite trying to get fit seem to be getting no where as I am also tired I am single and I am working through this on my own, does this stop, does everyone feel like this Help I want to be happy aagain !!! I am getting a little fed up
Hi Voda
Your opening line ‘Had a hard year’ sums up why youre feeling low. Dont be too hard on yourself, most of us are guilty of putting a face on for the general public when we are falling apart inside.
Ive stopped saying, in responce to the ‘how are you’ questions, ‘Im fine’. Instead, I say that ‘Im improving’, so that friends can have a little insight into the really C**p times Ive had.
Ive had some difficult times and have felt I want to go back to the ‘old’ me, but Ive got round these feelings by accepting the ‘new’ me and trying to adapt to my new body image.
Have you consided some counselling? Ive tried it before when my mum died, and was really helped by talking with someone who was totally removed from my situation.
Your positivity will return Im sure, and as you say. working thru this on your own is a huge undertaking, so -baby steps.
Take care
Cathie
Hi Yoda,
Have you actually read what you have written? is there any real wonder why you feel so down, and unable to cope at the moment!
Give yourself a break, stop pushing so hard! Just one of those things your typed would make anyone feel down!
You still have the anger which is very understandable, the frustration, we all have, so you are no different.
The tiredness will probably due to you feeling low!
Having to work through this on your own, must be sooooooooo hard!
l have a husband, but still find it very diffiult, so coping by yourself!!!
As for you getting fit…that will come…As for being single…well l could see if l can find you someone…But l am sure when you are feeling happy again, you will be quite capable of finding yourself someone!
So read your message again, and instead of trying to do everything, just pick one out and make it work for you, then another, and before you know it you will be your Happy self!
Life has changed in a very big way for you, so accept it for what it is and work on it.
Oh just listen to me, i have been in tears most of the morning, still coming to terms with it all…But we will get there
Lots of Hugs
Sandra xxx
hi - sorry you are feeling so crappy 
it sucks it really does, however you have had a hard year so relax and let yourself just be for a bit and you will start to feel like your old self.
I was speaking to an Occupational Health Dr recently and he said the thing about cancer treatment that folk don’t understand is that the treatment is very very good but it takes a long time - and that is just the treatment never mind the mental strength that it takes to keep going every week.
good luck with the surgery - hope that goes well and you are back in balance asap - bug ehug xxx