I am so mad with myself for not thinking this thru’ properly before agreeing to this in a split second decision!! I’m not a pretty sight in a bandana or sleep cap and thought to myself today that I have probably got another few months of patchy hair on my fringe and sideburns that wouldn’t have looked too bad if I had left these in place!! OK…so it would look silly with the rest shaved but I look silly anyway with it all shaved. Now I feel impelled to purchase fringes and sideburns if I have a mind to care what I look like.
On the f’''ing furious bench for me
Is there a “feeling ugly” bench…can’t remember
Bobbin. Welcome, you have joined me in the fugly club!
I remember that feeling. I cried, was sore and balding so clippers at the ready and the deed was done. FFS, I looked like freak, to me that was. My fringe was there on the floor, my little bit of comfort!
But…after a day or so, I realised I had control of something, my hair/bonce. My only regret was not having a the wackiest crop I could have had, 'cause I could!
In all fairness, most chemo regiems cause 95% hair loss, so it’s going to happen. You have gained some control over something you have no control of. I hope that makes sense to you. Makes no sense to me!
Your hair will come back as treatment ends. It doesn’t help now though. x
Hi there! I think you’ve done the right thing, patchy hair can often be more stressful than having no hair. My hair fell out day 21 of my 1st treatment and it all came out in one go in the shower. It was falling out all over the place before hand, and I knew it would come out if I gently tugged it. I was left looking like the confused.com character. AFter a couple of days I decided that this looked ridiculous so I just cut these bits really short and felt much better. You do get used to seeing yourself bald. elttiks is right - you do feel that you have gained some control over something.
I am now nearly 5 months after my last chemo and I ditched the wig about a month ago, I wore a wig/bandandas for around 7 months. Yours will grow back too.
I totally agree … I hung on to my patchy baldness for far too long and it feels so much better clippered and isnt half as distressing… I couldn’t bear the hairs falling out everywhere ! Ok so I continued with the cold cap, cos my hair is sinead oconnor short… thinking it will grow back quicker … but thats only cos I could do it. The vac thinks its gone into retirement now cos I was using it twice a day when I was shedding!!
I finished my chemo end of April, stopped wearing my wig about 3 weeks ago, my hair is just about ok without it,
whilst I was bald I looked like uncle festa, fat, white face with black eyes, I looked rather possessed at one point lol,
I know its probably not much help at the moment, but eventually it will get better, I found I either laughed or cried, or sometimes both at the same time,
hope treatment goes quickly for you and you soon start feeling better about the way you look, it will happen, soon it will just be a distant thought, love Liz x
While I was bald, the main feeling (other than very sad) was angry, but now I’ve got a very short, even fuzz, I’m really IMPATIENT!!! At least now it’s not completely obvious to people who don’t know me that I’ve done the cancer thing, and I’m actually looking MORE like Sinead O’Connor now than I ever did when I was bald!
Can’t wait for it to get a bit longer though, it’s still a bit too “convict” for my liking… I have tried to post a picture of my hair but the site’s not letting me add an avatar, even one that I used to have, so you’ll just have to wait until the techies fix it!
Thanks all for being so understanding. Was on a real bad day when I first posted this and feeling angry. Haven’t been on for a couple of days as I hate it when I lose control…huh…that’s a laff of late…hehehehe!!
Anyway. I have found a reasonably priced way around the bandanna issue . I ordered a tailor made lime green bandanna from Ebay then tied a small colourful pre-tied scarf that was far too small to cover the whole of the head…(sold on Amazon for adults with lapecia…what a joke!!). I must say they look really good together me thinks and I would actually walk out in it without feeling that it’s obvious I have no hair beneath. I’m a bit of a skinflint and don’t like the thought of paying £30 for a bandanna that doesn’t have that much material or work gone into it. I think some of these company’s take the p…but that’s me.
Hope life finds you all reasonably well considering everything and may our hair grow back fast and strong… except on the legs…etc.
Just spotted a link for Annabandana with good prices. Wish I had seen this before as there are some lovely ones. Gonna buy a couple…the more the merrier.
Hi Bobbin,
Just to say I was really pleased with Annabandana when I used them, and I believe Cara will often make scarves to order if you don’t see what you want.
