I was diagnosed with grade 3 invasive ductial cancer about a month ago, I have had a lumpectomy and was given the good news it hasn’t spread, so why am I emotionally numb? I haven’t cried with worry or joy, what’s wrong with me? 6 months of treatments on the horizon with years of taking tabs so why am I not reacting in any other way apart from being a moan?
Hi Lisa and welcome to the BCC forums
I am sure your fellow users will understand and relate to how you are feeling and will be along with support very soon
In addition our helpliners are on hand weekdays 9-5 and Saturday 10-2 on 0808 800 6000 with further practical and emotional support
Here’s a link to the BCC ‘Just diagnosed’ pages where you will find lots of information and further support ideas which I hope you will find helpful:
breastcancercare.org.uk/diagnosis
Take care
Lucy BCC
Hi Lisa,
I cried when I first found out I had breast cancer. Probably the most the first day then for a couple days afterwards I shed a few tears. But for the most part I haven’t had many days where I feel like doing the big sob. I agree that we all handle it differently. Maybe you are just handling it that way as a protective strategy. Sometimes I think we don’t realize how strong we are until we are thrown into a **bleep**ty situation. When you are ready to let your tears out, they will come. Until then keep strong and look for support when needed! xo
Hi lisac was diagnosed a couple of weeks ago with invasive grade 2 something my sister & daughter was at hospital they were upset and cried, not me my surgery is next week but I seem to have no feeling its like its not me going through it. Don’t know what is a matter with me should I be upset. I can relate to you because that’s how IM feeling before surgery is anyone else feeling like this ?.
Hi Lesley
Welcome to the BCC forums, if you feel it would help to talk things over with someone in confidence at any point please feel free to call our helpliners. Lines are open weekdays 9-5 and Saturdays 10-2 on 0808 800 6000.
Here’s a link to further support ideas and information about treatments which you may find helpful:
breastcancercare.org.uk/treatment
Take care
Lucy BCC
Hi Lisa
I got my results from my lumpectomy. Mine is a Grade 3 invasive ductal that hasn’t spread to my lymph nodes. It was a relief as I am getting married in September so was thinking I might have to have chemo. I haven’t cried yet but we are all different and handle news in different ways. I am sure I will shed tears in the near future. I will be thinking about you
Take Care
Angie
Hi Lisa
I was diagnosed on Jan 13 and had lumpectomy an axillary clearance on 6th feb. Next week I start chemo.
I went to work after being diagnosed and apart from managment and class colleagues didnt inform anyone else I had cancer. I worked for two weeks and coped really well but by about 3rd week was tired and decided that I would go sick ( I have ME as well and needed to be fit for op).
Yesterday was told that I would have to have aggressive chemo becuase of amount of lymoh nodes involved. I think thast when it his me especially as now face longer treatment than originally thought. My husband said that the worst was over on diagnosis and now his support is you arent bedridden or infirm you can still get out even if its just walking up and down street ( still cant drive becaes of pain op). The fact that you have op and then are left to own devizes doesnt help. I feel as If Im not emotionally allowed to let go, I dont even know if Ive accepted its cancer as “its” been removed. I am used to being ill, tired, exhausted but not looking ill because of the ME. At the stage I am with cancer Im not ill…husband is aware that chemo will make me a little tired but " you’re always tired so you can cope".
Maybe when chemo kicks in it will become “real” and the emotional rolercoaster will kick in… I dont know but rest assured you arent only one who is emotionally numb
A BC Nurse said to me, some paople rwacrt before treatment, some in the middle and some after! not sure which is best - we are all unique. I am after!!!
My op in October and am now in a right emotionmal mess, but emerging. Tears, angger you name it… unbearable to live with!! But it’ll pass.
I have been recently diagnosed and am awaiting a mastectomy but I also haven’t cried very much and quite few people seem to think I might be in denial. I don’t feel like I am in denial…I am scared not just of the caner but for what I will look like afterwards with reconstruction however I a try and live in the moment and enjoy each day and I know others who are going through worse than me. If I need a good old cry after my op then so be it. Stay strong Lisa and everyone else going through this horrible disease.