Hello everyone, i just found out that i have breast cancer and i never thought it would happen to me.
I am worried,but trying to be strong. my grade is three.
Hello UKRose, so sorry to hear your news, but you are among people who have a pretty good idea what its like for you just now and will support you. I am also a grade 3 girl, as are so many others on here, so you will find support and encouragement.
There are many other factors than ‘grade 3’ so I know you story won’t be identical to mine, but I do know that you not only can but will deal with this.
No-one can answer the ‘why’ question (to be honest I never asked it) but one thing you must not do is blame yourself - you are just the 1 in 8 who are unlucky enough to get cancer and it is most probably, as my onc. said just one of those random things.
Hope all goes well for with treatment and that you soon feel strong and hopeful.
Take care. Big hugs.
i’m very sorry to hear that xx
UKRose, - why you? Because you have breasts, you’re older than you were last year, and you were unlucky. That’s about all anyone can say so please don’t go doing the guilt thing that the media try to shove down our throats.
Welcome to the club, and sorry to have reason to welcome you, but I’m sure you’ll find lots of support on here from people who have been there, done that, worn the t-shirt and lived to throw said t-shirt in the bin.
CM
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Thank you all for your resuring comments.
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Hi UKrose sorry you have had to join the club, CM has put it in a nut shell … you have breasts & unfortunately 1 in every 4 women will get breast cancer at some point in their life.
Mine was/ is a grade 3 too, I was very lucky mine was only in very early stages 7mm. Im guessing you’ve already had surgery ? the early days are the worse as its all appointments & results & the waiting can be unbearable. But it does get better as you get the full pathology report & have a treatment plan in place, its true as RevCat said there are alot of other factors to the cancer other than the grade … thats the size , clean margin ? node involvement if any ? your age, if its hormone receptive or like mine triple negative & they also take into account if your pre, post menopausal or in menopause. this is what your treatment is based on.
Once your treatment plan is in place you will start to feel like your gaining back a bit of control, but up to this point it seems to be like a massive whirlwind of confusion & worry.
Theres always someone here you can chat with to offload any worries & you can always call the helpline they are great & can help with the emotional stuff too
Keep intouch
Mekala x
Sorry RevCat is it 1 in 8 ? im never sure some say 1 in 9 1 in 4 is the one I hear alot so I was just guessing to be honest
HI
1 in 8 ( used to be 1 in 9 ) for breast cancer
I think the 1 in 4 stat is for all cancers
X
Sorry for my confusing numbers…
1 in 8 for breast cancer (was 1 in 9 this time last year, it hasn’t suddenly increased they just updated the figures fairly recently - my guess is screening is increasing the diagnosis rate of over 50’s)
1 in 3 is the figure MacMillan quote for all cancers.
Alas even 7 months post chemo my brain isn’t what it was! 
Got to see the breast lady tomorrow about scan and chemotherapy.
The thing is that i had a breast scan last year and came back clear!!!
X
Hi UKRose
It’s sh*t, but it happens…
I too had a clear mammogram shortly before they found my cancer (only 8 months actually)
Is yours lobular too by any chance? That particular little sucker doesn’t show on mammo very well
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Hiya UK Rose - I too had a clear scan and mammo last year , and the year before … is it lobular , thats the one thats sneaky and what i have . Dont dwell on that as you will need your energy to get on with this , and you will as the fighting mode kicks in.x
Why me ? Why us, who knows , but really why not as this proves we are not unique , UNFORTUNATELY !!
You will get supported here and find out loads , keep talking as i have founf it really helps get us through this , sending you a cuddle .xx
Lorna 
It must have been a lobular. I was really happy when i got the letter saying i was all clear, i thought it won’t happen to me::
Thank you all for support ::::)X
Rose, if you want to know more details about what’s what, you can ask for a copy of your path report, and then go through it very carefully, either with your BCN, using the leaflet on this website (in Publications, about reading your path report) or by calling the helpline. Some people don’t want to get all the gory details but I find it helps me, so I’ve got a copy of my report and occasionally take a peek at it to remind me of the good bits that are in there. (Yeah, good is a relative term…)
EH! i dont know yet, i dont think i am not brave enough.
Do you have someone to go with you to see the BCN? I found it helped to have a friend to take notes and to be a spare pair of ears. If not, maybe you might want to take a notebook?
I wrote down a list of questions I wanted to ask, most were covered by what they told me anyway, but it gave me back just a teeny bit of control, which made me feel a bit better. (And a piece of paper to clutch kept my hands occupied!)
Remember there are no silly questions, only questions you want answers to, and that you can say “I don’t want to know that (yet)” if you don’t.
My experience was that BCNs are pretty good at sizing up how to work with each person… I hope you are as fortunate.
Aah, UKRose, reading your posts is making me want to just sit with you and give you a big cuddle. There’s no great answer for most of us (those without family histories)to the ‘why me’ question - after 2 diagnoses I just have to put it down to bloody rotten luck - for one in eight of we women.
You sound bombed out by this news and I know its hideous, but there are lots of us here to support you. It sounds as though, like most of us, you have entered a new country and don’t know the language or what things mean yet. That will change, of necessity, and you’ll become familiar with what happens, what is done and what things mean for you. Lots of us have grade 3 cancers and its not great but we’re still here - all of us have a slightly different story.I hope your breast cancer nurse (BCN for short) will be able to give you the info you need. As the others have said, there are no silly questions, and usually answers that help you to understand whats going on.
Where do you live? there are lot of fairly local groups who are incredibly supportive and we learn a lot from each other.
You might not have chosen this experience (understatement of the century) but supporting each other can make it bearable and often wonderful friendships have resulted from ‘meeting’ people on here and in person.
I know that you’re struggling a lot now, but keep coming on here, there are lots of us who’ll be rooting for you and thinking of you, I certainly will,and sending you big hugs
take care, mon xx