Will it ever seem fair?
Will it ever seem fair? Dear All
I haven’t posted anything for a while although I do read the site most days.
My sister has taken a turn for the worse. Last year May she was diagnosed with brain, lung and liver mets. She underwent WBR and chemo. In Dec her Onc said that there wasn’t much more they could do for her. She had a second opinion and her new Onc said he would try new treatment. The results were really better than we could have hoped for. Her liver and lung mets shrunk and her brain met shrunk substantially (her onc words). For the first time in along time there seemed to be hope. Recently we found out that her liver cancer had developed aggressively and her onc has said that there really isn’t much more they can do.He is giving her a course of chemo but he really isn’t hopeful. She seems to be at peace (if that is ever possible) with what is happening. I just don’t seem to be able to get my head around it and keep waiting for the miracle she deserves. I feel like I am stuck in a really bad dream. I know I am being really selfish, but I am not ready to let her go yet… but will I ever be?
Kitkat, how are you?
love
Avon67
are you ready to let go No you aren’t and in my view you never will be. It’s terrible watching someone else go through something that you are powerless to do anything about - at least in the sense of curing it. But she has accepted what is happening and she must be getting a lot from your support. How awful for the doctors too, knowing that there aren’t any drugs which will shrink the cancer.
Don’t neglect your own needs. Eat properly and try and sleep and keep offering your support.
Mole
No it isn’t fair and it will never seem fair. Breast cancer is a horrible disease and it leaves a trail of heartbreak and suffering in its wake.
I hope that as your sister becomes iller and approaches her death that you are able to talk to to her, tell her you love her, remind her of all the good times and things you have shared. Please don’t let your wish for an unlikely miracle, comforting as that must be, stop you from treasuring the time you do have left with your sister.
very best wishes
Jane
introduction to the forum Although I have registered a little while ago now and read the various posts most days I havnt really linked in and identified with anyone. Saying that a lot of people have gone through similar and had same treatment and are at various stages of recovery.
I am back at work now on reduced hours at this time I work in the care field myself and greatly appreciate all the care iv been given as we all do IM sure.
I am soon having a strawberry tea afternoon garden party to raise funds for breastcare uk so i am hoping the weather improves soon