I am so worried about my mum. For 3 months she has been feeling ill. It began with a muzzy head at first, ringing in ears and slight dizziness. The last month she has been getting headaches every so often too and says she just doesn’t feel well. She doesn’t wake up with the headaches and usually feels ok in the morning but feels worse as the day goes on. She has been diagnosed with high blood pressure and at first we put all these problems down to that. She is on blood pressure tablets but her blood pressure is still up and down like a yo yo.
She had bc diagnosed in July 2006 and it was a grade 3, sentinal node was clear. She had 6 FEC and rads. She was taking Tamoxifen, switched to Arimidex and then back to Tamoxifen because it was thought that the Arimidex could be causing the high blood pressure.
I love my mum so much and I am so scared that it’s something awful 
It’s ruling my life at the moment - I go to sleep thinking about her and wake up worrying about her. She is going to her oncologist on Tuesday. She went to see him about 6 weeks ago with the same problems but he wasn’t concerned because she didn’t have headaches - but now she does.
Please could someone reply to tell me what you think. Thank you. x
Hi Louise1983,
I hope you might find this reassuring. Of course everyone is different and I can only speak from our experience. My mum has brain mets but she has no real symptoms at all. Her tumours were picked up on a full body scan she was having in preparation for taking part in a trial. She was treated with radiotherapy and the tumours reduced until they are almost undetectable. Her last scan 3 weeks ago showed that there has been no regrowth. Naturally she does worry about every headache and lapse in memory but they are normal. She is 74 now and has been living with this for a few years.
I do understand your worry. My mum’s primary was inoperable lung cancer and I am the one with breast cancer so I have the same worries. Please try not to let them rule your life. I’m sure your mum doesn’t want that. There are so many things that could cause her symptoms but whatever happens you will both find the strength to face it. We always do.
best of luck. Jan xx
Hello Louise
I’m sorry that I don’t have any experience of your situation or advice to offer but would like to send good wishes and my hope that things aren’t as bad as you are clearly fearing.
I know my 21 year old daughter worries about me, almost more than I do about myself, and it breaks my heart - it is such an awful position that you are in.
I do hope you and your mum have plenty of warm and happy times ahead, and will be thinking of you
best wishes
monica xx
Hi Louise
This is bound to be a worrying time for you and your mum, do give our helpline a ring if you feel that talking may help either you or your mum, they will be open again tomorrow at 9.00 am and the number to call is 0808 800 6000.
I have also given here the link to our factsheet on the subject of brain mets, if you would like to read it or order a copy for your mum, you can do so through this link:
Kind regards.
Louise
Facilitator
Thank you so much for all your kind comments. My mum had a ct scan and it came back clear 
Thank goodness.
They are putting the headaches, dizziness etc down to arimidex and blood pressure. xx
thats fabulous, Louise. Celebrate with your mum xxxx