Hello
Please, please dont be angry when you read this ladies and I do know how very lucky I have been compared to a lot of cancer sufferers. But I finished my radiotherapy in Feb after surgery, no chemo (which I know is hideous) and I am so worried that I found it all very manageable. I went back to work 2 weeks after surgery, had the time off for radio then back to work the week after. However the reason I do worry about it is that I keep thinking - hang on a minute you cant get away with it that easy and something far more horrible will affect me in the years to come. These feels a bizzare way of thinking and I am definately not a negative person and I do not think about this lots but I just wondered if anyone else has felt as if the whole thing has been ‘very manageable’? xxxx
Hi TJB
I don’t think you need worry about your experience being manageable. At the end of the day, we all have different stories to tell, depending on our individual dignosis and treatment.
You have done very well and not allowed what has happened to affect you in a negative way.
I think there are plenty of people on here who have even been through the chemo and managed it well.
I would not go as far to say that is has been so easy, as i did have chemo and had two young children to take care of too. But it was do-able.
Here’s too health !
Naz x
Hiya TJB and Naz - glad to read these comments. I have finished my chemo only this week, its been hard at times but all entirely do-able which is what I would always tell anyone. Now got 5 years Tamoxifen to do. So lets not beat ourselves up for getting through it, or at least the mainstream treatment part of it. I am a very optimistic person and have kept very upbeat and forced myself to keep exercising, albeit at a lower level than before, and for me that has definitely helped. I am still tired, a bit short on tastebuds and have grizzly grey stubbly hair and a bit of nausea, but hey I’m still here, up and at em and ran Race for Life last Sunday before I ended the chemo ![]()
take care ladies, glad you are both surviving so well, me too!! I have my happy head on and feel like little things are just not worth bothering about any more, its great to be here! and so far we are lucky. My lovely mum is law is none too well at the moment and is fretting about how long she has left. Her wise neighbour said to her “dont borrow tomorrows sorrow” and I thought that was a lovely attitude and how true.
I have been chatting with ladies on another thread who are going through chemo and I did feel guilty once about being so upbeat and apologised and one of the lovely ladies said to me “dont ever apologise for being so positive”!
So lets keep enjoying our lives, living for today and being proud of ourselves for getting on with it. No doubt we will all have our down days but, for me, today is good and I look forward to tomorrow!
love to all.
Carol xxxx
You mustn’t feel guilty because you managed the treatment! I know several women, including myself, who had surgery and rads without chemo and were reasonably OK. I really think it is the chemo that floors people, understandably. Your recovery time will also depend on your age, your fitness before treatment and any underlying medical problems and your frame of mind to some extent, regarding the treatment and the fact that you had cancer in the first place. I think the best thing is to “listen” to your body. If you feel well, then be active - if you feel rotten, rest. We are all so very different, there is no set protocol to how we heal.
Thank you ladies - this is my first posting and it is a lovely feeling hearing from people who have been or are going through the same kind of feelings. We do all deal with this horrid illness in different ways - I feel like a fraud at times - but definately always positive and always realise how very lucky I am/we are to have gotten through this random selection process…
Happy Health and good days
Tracy JB x
aaah thanks Tracey love to you and everyone else and lets all keep our heads up but allow ourselves the odd wobbly moment without beating ourselves up about it. I find now that Jennifer Saunders has gone the exact route and the exact timescale as me and I have seen a pic of her unveiling her newly regrowing hair, just like me and she is looking good too, bless her. Ever onwards!! xxxx Carol
Hi TJB and everyone else
TJB - I understand what you mean. I have had surgery, chemo and radiotherapy which finished a month ago. Have been working where possible in between treatments and everyone says how well I have been doing. I have been quite good throughout the treatments but mainly the tiredness has been my issue. I kept feeling like a fraud even during treatment as I generally felt quite well. Have to keep reminding myself that I have had a serious illness, although feel lucky it was caught early, needed lumpectomy and had not spread.
Finished rads a month ago and told I would still feel effects for a few weeks. However, I am still feeling extremely tired from time to time and it is getting me down. Thank God I only work Mon, Tues, Wed. It is annoying when I think of lots of things I want to do but my body won’t let me. Keep being told it is a question of time.
Think I thought would be back to normal now and I’m not. I wonder if I will ever get back to where I was. Be always thinking if I get a pain etc. is this a sign?
I am sure we will all feel better in time and should not worry that we have managed well but be glad that our bodies are strong. Enjoy life every day and try not to think too much about the future.