Gosh what emotional times for you. I am 51 and dreaded sharing the news of my diagnosis with my 2 (aged 18 & 22) at that time. Your pregnancy is a joyous event - congratulations. Might I suggest you call the helpline as I am sure they could give you some superb advice on how to approach this matter, as I suspect you have not been alone in this situation.
Having gone thru similar events to your Mum I would have thought she would love having something good and exciting to focus on. I had surgery & Rads.
I also found the book by Cordelia Galgut - Emotional Support through Breast Cancer an excellent read. I identified with so much of it. It is only 70+ pages long, but packed with wisdom.
Wishing you all the very best - keep in touch,
Hello Lenaberry, so sorry to hear your traumatic times of late having recently lost your Dad and now facing this diagnosis with your Mum. I hope you have excellent support for yourself, and take support from the community here too.
Two books i found very useful were .....
Emotional support through breast cancer, an alternative handbook. By Cordelia Galgut. This lady is a psychologist and has had a breast cancer diagnosis.
The other book is.....What can i do to help? 75 practical ideas for family and friends by Deborah Hutton. I bought this when i felt lost as a good friends husband was diagnosed with cancer and rapidly became very unwell. Despite having had my own cancer diagnosis i didnt want to fall into cliches and thoughtless comments.
On a practical note i was sent a small hand made heart shaped cushion, by one of my friends to use in the car after surgery. It is only slightly bigger than my hand span, and not firmly padded, but was an added comfort between me and the seat belt.
In the 2 week post op period having my daughter help me wash my hair was a humbling and yet very intimate moment in time. I was grateful to her, but worried for her (and my son) as they are 19 and 23 respectfully and i know we are all trying to protect each other.
We have had flare ups, usually due to small matters, but we have managed to cuddle and make up too. My peeps are still at home with.me, so we have had to learn a new accomodation and consideration, with me accepting 3 adults now live here.
I wish for you and your mum the most uneventful recovery, and gentle times post op.
Thinking of you, and I know others will post here soon too. X
Welcome to the BCC discussion forums where I am sure you will find lots of support and information for both yourself and your mum.
To help you along I have put for you below links to some of BCC's publications you might find helpful. Also our helpline team are just a free phone call away where you can talk in confidence to our trained and experienced staff 0808 800 6000. Lines open weekdays 9-5 and Saturdays 10-2.