Morning all, well done Neecy in completing your first sesssion I am so pleased it that went ok, the unknown is so scary. MBJ, I have a wig appt on Weds the day before my first FEC chemo, I’m going to try using the cold cap but was advised to get one as well. We too had to cancel a holiday, a big family one to South Africa, thankfully we were all covered by travel insurance & South Africa just like Australia isn’t going anywhere! Trixielady, I haven’t heard about fasting, is that meant to help. I am having nails painted on Tuesday, I’ve seen that some ladies have gel but I thought only paint was advisable? I have just had my eyebrows microbladed too. Any tips to help get through it would be very much appreciated 😘😘😘😘
Hi everyone, I had my first chemo yesterday. It was epirubicin and cylophosphamide. I was nervous as you can imagine and had a headache from the night before which didn't help but the staff were great and spent the entire time convincing hubster I need a puppy to help my recovery, so it was all light hearted. It took around 2 hours in total. I felt nauseous but had 3 lots of different anti emetics and by this morning, I feel fine. Good luck to you all having your first chemo in the coming weeks. Xxx
Good Morning Trixielady.
Yes I was disappointed when I had my date for chemo as waiting is very hard. Like you I am going to try the dark nails. I might treat myself to the salon the weekend before I start. I usually have gellish nails so will be horrible having to wait for them to dry this time. I am not sure about the fasting I need to look into the evidence base for it a bit more. I have had a really heavy cold and into my third week of a really horrid productive viral cough. So hoping the 2 week wait will give me time to get over it. My pre assessment is on the same day as my treatment one at 9am and then start chemo at 10 am. Good luck for yours. Please post how it went and any tips of what I should take with me would be greatfully received.
I have got 2 wigs one is a Bob with longer sides and the second one is longer and fuller. It's really nice it's hand tied and I can use heat on it so heated rollers here I come. I am older will be 65 in March I live with my lovely husband we have been married for 44 years. We have 2 children and 2 grandchildren. Our daughter and grandchildren live in Abu Dhabi. We also have a dog and two cats. I am a retired university lecturer, my background is nursing and health visiting. We have just built a beautiful new house which we have lived in for a year. Oh and just cancelled a fantastic holiday to Australia maybe next year????
Morning MBJ, it's a strange feeling trying on wigs, I've tried on a few and going back to buy one after my booking in appointment tomorrow some call it pre assessment my first FEC is Monday. How are you managing to cope with waiting for the 18th ? are you still working ? do you have children? or animals to keep you busy ?. I've been reading a lot on these threads so might start fasting and painting my nails xx Good luck xx
Hi MBJ, I finished chemo last March and I think it is perfectly normal to have worries and wobbles about the treatment and probably made harder having to wait for it. Please don't apologise for saying how you feel, that's the beauty of this forum, everybody understands how you're feeling x
No problems without the hair, I don't wear anything in the house, but have a lovely rainbow alpaca wool beanie (£10 from amazon) for going out which is lovely and warm. No headaches. Also have other beanies and a sensible wig and a fun rainbow 80s style wig and some headscarves. Haven't lost any tastebuds yet, so am making the most of still enjoying food!
Hi, I have popped over from the December chemo thread. So far I've had 2 FEC, one more FEC to go then 3 taxotere. I have been extremely fortunate and had very little in the way of side-effects. The afternoon following chemo I go to bed for a bit as it makes me feel drunk. The next day I'm OK. Then days 3-5 I am mostly in bed with absolutely no brain and feeling shattered. Brain starts coming back day 6 along with energy. By day 9 I am fine. The steroids mean I am putting on weight as I am eating like a horse! I have had no nausea or vomiting, but they do give me Emend which is expensive but brilliant. Mouth and gums also OK. Bowels fine apart from smelly farts ;-)
I did get some hip and stenum pain on day 9 with the first cycle of Filgastrim (days 3-9), but no pain 2nd cycle.
Oh, and hair has fallen out. Getting it shaved was much less traumatic than watching it fall out in the shower and on the pillow, wish I'd done it sooner, would have been less for my husband to hoover up!
Just to encourage you, it can go OK :-)
Hi Trixielady, like you all, she is one brave lady and the most wonderful human being.
Oh yes, she is going to try a few, she says she would like to try a different style, a different colour, she says that if she has to have a 'radical' cut as a cancer gift, then she will embrace it and make a change
Hi Trixielady, thank you for this.
We had a good talk about shaving, hair, etc, and we just decided to have a party. Because we are so close (it is just the two of us, my husband died quite young with an heart attack) things like these become more natural. Feeling really cold because there is no hair, using a turban or beanie during treatment, and the loss that is felt becomes something shared.
I cannot share her pain, her nausea, anything else, really, I just can be here for her.... it is not much, I know....
Hi DiKat, thank you, that is really good. Due to her disability she cannot spend long at the computer and with all the stress due to the mastectomy and perspective of treatment, it got even worst. As a carer, I need to know as much as possible about all sides to provide proper care.
As a Mum..... I do not wish this to anyone, doesn't feel right, it should be me, not her.
So, my decision, keep poker face, be as much positive as I can, try to lighten up and just be here for her.
And this forum is outstanding, everyone is so nice, I am getting lots of help and tips on how to go about
There is a good vibe here, that is what all of us need
Sorry you have found yourself here on your daughter's behalf. It truly is a great place however for advice and support. I'm from December thread so have received 2 cycles of FEC. I can understand your concerns regarding neutropenic sepsis. I was hospitalised with this after first cycle, day 9. The only advice I can give is to be vigilant with taking temperature but try not to obsess on it. I was told to contact my unit if it went above 37.5. It was 37.9 when I rang and I was admitted later that evening with neutrophils of 0.03 so practically non existent. I've got to be honest, I didn't feel that Ill apart from horrible burning I get in my chest and sore throat. The IV antibiotics sorted me out although they never did identify the source of the infection. It did make me paranoid with cycle 2...started taking temp from day 5 to about 13 although I did escape it this time thankfully. Started taking life mel honey during this cycle so don't know if that helped.
Just remember, everyone's experience is different and many don't get neutropenic and some people have few side effects. Just be on the ball if temperature does start to rise and don't hesitate to contact unit and never worry about making a nuisance of yourself. These things can be dealt with. Good luck x
Hi all, my daughter is due to start chemo in the beginning of February. We already had an appointment with the oncologist and we know that she will have 6 treatments with FEC, one every 3 weeks.
We are absolutely terrified with the perspective of having neutropenic sepsis during chemo.
My daughter is 34 and she knows that she will lose her hair, so she decided to take back a bit of control and she will shave her head ahead of the 1st treatment.
We will do it together, because it is the only thing I can do with her and I cannot wipe out the impact of chemo.
I wish you all the most bland and harmless of treatments and let me say how amazing you all are.
Neecy, they're definitely worth a try. I wasn't sick and the little bit of nausea I had a couple of times was sorted with a ginger biscuit x
I forgot to say Trixie, that I felt a bit like I was in a bubble whilst I was having chemo, I didn't quite feel like me! A positive thing though was that I didn't stress about the little things I would have done normally-my daughter's thought it was great! xx
Trixie and Neecy, thank you very much for your kind words x I'm happy to help if I can, I know how much this forum was a lifesaver for me when I was diagnosed and then having chemo and rads.
Don't feel guilty about not working, you have to come first! I had 11mths off work because I'm an Infant Teacher and wasn't allowed near the children because of their germs! (My onc let me go into school a couple of times to see them, but I had to keep my distance!) Tbh, I couldn't have coped with chemo and working as I would have been too tired. I'd planned to go back in July, but they kept telling me at rads that I might not be ready and they were right! Even returning in Sept I didn't have much stamina and got teary easily, but I'm gradually getting stronger both physically and emotionally, but it does take a bit of time.
On a practical note, when I had chemo I wore travel sickness bands whilst I was actually having it and for a few days afterwards. I don't know if it was the bands working or just a coincidence, but I wasn't sick once during chemo, so they might be worth a try xx
It's hard hanging around waiting Trixie, so can understand how you feel. I'm ok thanks x I went back to work in Sept after having 11mths off, now it almost feels like I was never away! I don't feel 100% yet physically or mentally, but I can see that I've improved a lot since I've returned to work xx
Trixie, the booking in appointment was to talk about side effects and things to look out for and any questions and I was weighed. I think some people have had tours of the unit at the same time. I took a friend with me to take notes because I knew I wouldn't be able to remember it all once I got home.
I'm not too sure how long FEC takes because I used the cold cap and that added an extra couple of hours. I think T took about 1 1/2 hours. In my unit you could have one person with you, but it was quite small, other units might allow more xx
Glad you've got it sorted Trixie and good news about the voucher x Btw, it might be worth taking someone else with you to help you decide which wig suits you x
Hi Trixie, I'm from the Oct '17 thread. I tried on wigs before I lost my hair and also I was able to get one that matched my usual hair colour by doing that x
I'm due to start chemo in February and will find out full treatment plan when I see Oncologist next week. Funnily enough I'm an ex nurse and I've been reading whatever I can too, but beginning to wonder if that's counter productive as its too easy to imagine that you will get every side effect going. My head is swimming with all the info too. I'm generally a positive person so I''ve decided to try very hard not to worry and take it one step at a time and cross all the bridges as I come to them - I might not have to cross all of them! I've been reading the Jan 2019 thread and am so impressed with such a supportive group of ladies. I'm sure this group can be too. Wishing good luck to all.
This thread is for anyone due to start chemotherapy in February 2019. Others will be here soon but please come on here and introduce yourself and you can all help one another through this phase of your treatment. If you have any questions please post away on here and others in the community will watch over you whilst you are getting started. Once you are into it you'll be pretty good at helping each other. You can also ask the nurses on this forum if you have any concerns. In the meantime, the top tip is always to stay well hydrated throughout chemo, aiming for 2 litres of water per day.
Here is the BCC guide on chemo:
I finished my chemo over a year ago and doing very well again now. Here is my story which has some chemo tips on how I coped which were collectively shared from others who had gone through the same from this forum: lifeafterlola.com
Best wishes xx