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Hi Tara 

Some fantastic tips there thank you so much for all your comments on the July thread it's great to hear from someone who is slightly further ahead of us. I'm going to purchase some mints this week and take a paracetamol ahead of my 1st chemo session xxx

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Hi Helen,

Glad you have not been sick. That is like me I felt nauseous but not actually been sick. 

 My second infusion went well. My husband said I looked more well when I came out this time. A tip I learned this time. If you suck mints as they are giving you the chemo then the metallic taste is not as bad. My taste buds so far are not too effected touch wood. Last time I did not suck mints and the taste was awful for nearly 2 weeks afterwards. Just a mild mint, I had Murray mints. Also I took a paracetamol half an hour before I went to chemo and the sinus pain was not half has bad. I had the headache before I went to sleep on Thursday night but not half as bad as before. I have wretched a couple of times but not been sick.

 I feel well to be honest. Hope it continues like this to be honest. I’m on FEC-T. Have 2 more infusions of FEC and then 2 T. Hope the side effects of this are not too bad.

 Have a nice day!

 Tara xx

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Tara thanks so much for all your advice, very much appreciated. I have different anti-sickness tablets, they seem to have worked in that I have felt nauseous but not actually been sick. I have been wearing the acupressure travel wristbands on the advice of the chemo nurse, can’t decide if they make a difference but worth a try!  I am finding the headache and absolute exhaustion hardest to cope with, and the awful taste in my mouth. The drinking masses of water is definitely the best tip thank you.

 

I hope you aren’t feeling too grotty after Thursday, do you feel it is worse second time around or the same? Sending everyone best wishes xxxx

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Hi Claudia, I know what you mean about children but used to you being away for so long. Mine are the same.

 I just tell them that mummy is going to get her strong medicine so that the lump does not come back. It’s unfortunate that they have to be part or out journey but they will be so strong at the end.

 Hope everything goes well with your treatment!

 Sending lots of love 💕  Tara

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Hi Tara I really appreciate your help thank you, I'm just trying to get to grips with things, the kids don't like it when I'm not home for any length of time so at least I can reassure them. I hope three grogginess passes soon xx

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Hi Claudia,

im home now from my second round of fec. It took about 3 hours today, but that was only because my nurse had 4 patients to get through. The actual fec only normally takes 30 minutes but I have anti sickness pushed through before hand. You first one will probably be 3/4 hours.

 Definitely take snacks. I took crisps, fruit and a pastry today. You do get offered a sandwich but it’s if they gave what you like.

 Sorry for any spelling mistakes my head is a little groggy.

 Tara xx

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Thanks Tara, 

That's a great help, I may take some snacks to eat and lots of things to keep me busy xx

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Hi Claudia, 

 I am currently having my second round. I was at the hospital for around 4 hours for my first treatment.

Hope this helps.

Tara x

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Hi 

I am due to have my first chemo session on the 13th July does anybody know how long I should be there for, my hubby said it could be between 30 minutes and 6 hours 

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Thank you so much Kate, and I wish you well for starting your treatment too.

We have quiet beaches near where we live, so I’m going to go to the sea this afternoon and really breathe in the sea air. 

I don’t know whether anyone else has been advised this, but my breast care nurse today suggested taking a thermos into chemo for warm drinks, as facilities are limited at the moment (obviously will vary by area). My veins are also quite tricky to access, so she also suggested taking a hot water bottle on the journey and holding it over the back of my hand as this can help. And drinking lots of water on the way. Just a tip in case anyone else has that issue.

I agree, with lots of the pandemic complications we just have to wait and see how it unfolds over time. There are so many unknowns. A huge live lesson in coping with uncertainty and not being in control!!

Take care

Heather

 

 

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Hi Heather,

Good to hear from you - I’m glad you’ve joined us. I completely identify which your sense that this is like jumping out of a plane! I woke up in terror a couple of times last night. But, like you, just want to get on with it too. I find reading others’ experiences reassuring- it IS doable.

Re the cold cap - I’m planning on giving it a go. I found the thread on cold caps (not sure how to insert a link to it here) helpful and encouraging. Definitely worth reading before you decide.

I haven’t yet decided on the kids’ return to school- I definitely think it won’t be at the very start of term as I’m anticipating a certain degree of chaos in schools as they work out how best to operate. My breast care nurse has said that I can have socially distant walks with healthy friends so I’m hoping the kids will be able to do that too. Harder with wee ones of course. Another teacher friend said that the schools have got so much better at supporting kids who need to learn at home, which is true and reassuring.

Wishing you all the very best - plus deep courage and a good couple of nights’ sleep before Thursday. 

Kate xx

 

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Hello everyone! 

I’m Heather and I’m due to start chemo on Thursday. I meant to join this thread weeks ago, but the weeks have disappeared in a whirl of home-schooling, appointments, sorting out work and home .....  and awful post-surgery Tramadol withdrawal symptoms (just what I needed!).

Thank you all for sharing your stories and experiences, fears and tips. I’d never wish this on anyone, but it’s a huge comfort to go through this virtually with a group of women who really do understand and want to support each other.

I have a rare subtype of metaplastic BC, triple negative, grade 3, stage 2b. I had a first surgery at the end of April to remove a 37mm lump and one lymph node. The node was positive and pre-cancerous cells were in one part of the margin from the breast, so I then had a follow-on surgery in May to remove more breast tissue and an axillary clearance. No further lymph nodes were positive and the extra breast tissue was also clear thankfully. 

I’m having 6 cycles of EC-Docetaxel chemo, starting this Thursday. I veer between feeling positive and wanting to get on with it and a feeling of stepping out of a plane. 
My children are 5 and 8, and after months of lockdown the thought of many more months and them potentially not being able to return to school in September is pretty daunting. They’ve done well so far and we’re fortunate to have a garden, but as someone else said, knowing that other people are starting to socialise and travel now is making it tougher for them. My son said to me yesterday when we had to miss his Nanny’s 70th get together with his cousins and he was utterly devastated, ‘why did you have to get cancer? It’s so unfair’. I agreed with him, but promised we’d make up for it with a big celebration once all of this is over. 

I’d be grateful of any tips from those of you slightly further on in their chemo journey. I’m still undecided on the cold-cap for example. It will be great to just hear about you all as you go through the journey and encounter many of the same feelings, fears, reactions and physical changes. I’m trying to really reign myself in and focus on each small step at a time, for me that’s how I can manage it. And letting go of trying to do and be everything I did/was before ... that was a challenge! 

I send you all strength and positivity. If I can help you in any way I will. Thanks in advance for your support.

Heather xxx

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Forgot to say if having injections take out of fridge 30 mi utes before administration and do alternate sides of tummy button.

love Tara xxx

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Hi Helen,

 I don’t mind you asking me anything. If I can help in anyway then I will.

 I had the sickness feeling for the first 2/3 days. I felt like I had been travelling in a car reading a book. Travel sick really. They gave me anti sickness meds emend and domperidone. Not sure how you spell it sorry. 

 When I got home from chemo I took a paracetamol to try and take the headache away. This did not help much but the next morning it was much better. I kept drinking water lots of it as I had a taste in my mouth like I had been swimming in salt water. I could not tolerate anything but water and I was advised by my bcn to drink lots to flush the chemo Out. This really did help. When I went to bed I had terrible hot flushes and thought I was going to be sick, ran to the loo but some how managed to avoid being sick. I slept downstairs on the recliner with window open behind me as I found it better not to lie completely flat. Also I tried to lie in my left side. My youngest has reflux and I was advised to prop his bed up and lay him on his side as a baby.

 The day after chemo I took domperidone as soon as I woke up and the had porridge for my breakfast followed by my steroid. Then at 11:30 had my emend anti sickness as this was 24 hours from having it the day before. 15/30 before I ate anything else I would take the domperidone each day until 1week ago. If I feel sick now when I wake up I take one. Don’t wait to be sick take one if you have them before you are sick.

I had 3 steroids to take a day got 3 days after chemo. I always took them at 8, 10 and 12. Need to take last one before 2 to ensure you can sleep. I had no problems sleeping after first night. Had to go to the loo lots because of the amount of water I was drinking.

 Not sure what meds you have for sickness but if you don’t have them then ask for them. You don’t have to be sick.

 I had injections for first 8 days, I am scared of needles but managed to do it myself it is not painful. Pinch skin at side of belly button and gently push in. Then push needle down and once done it springs back in itself so you don’t prick yourself when it comes out.

 I got terrible heartburn in day 2, this made me feel sick. Rang ward and got lanzoprszole. Fantastic stopped pretty much straight away.

 Try to drink lots and don’t wait to be sick to take sickness meds. Also you can take paracetamol but take temp first as this can bring your temp down.

 I am going to take paracetamol before chemo on Thursday to try and manage the head pain better this time.

 Hope this helps 

 lots of love 💕 Tara xxxx

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Hi Tara, I hope you are having a good week. I have found your posts really helpful thank you. I had my first chemo session this morning, of EC, and have the headache you describe and feel slightly nauseous too. Do you mind me asking how long this lasted for you?

Thanks! Helen xxx

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Hi Kate, thanks for your message and kind words, much appreciated.  Had my first chemo session this morning, not too bad all in all. I have a slight headache and feel tired but I didn’t sleep much last night.  Have a large bag of pills to take at various times and need to start doing the tummy injections tomorrow - I feel quite nervous about doing that as I am rather squeamish, the nurse said it is easy but she does them every day!

Yes the whole decision about sending the children back to school is so difficult, I know my 17 year old will be very careful and think it would be good for her mental health to go back in September, but my 7 year old is a completely different matter! He is a nightmare to get hands washed and doesn’t really understand social distancing. I think I will see what the infection figures are by then and then decide. Would certainly be better for my mental health to have him back in school!

All best wishes, Helen xxx

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Hi Kate,

 No I choose not to use the cold cap purely because I do not want to be in the hospital for longer than I have to and also because I suffer terrible headaches. I don’t know what chemo you will be having but I am having FEC-T. I found that when the F part of it was administered it was slightly more uncomfortable in terms if I could feel pain in my sinuses and in my forehead above my nose. It was bearable but a little like fuzzy head. I have been advised to take a paracetamol before my next round. If you go onto June chemo starters I have listed pictures of me with my head shaved. Grade 3. My children and husband did it on Thursday, it was coming out in clumps so I took control and got it shaved. I also have a picture of my wig and one of how it has started to fall out more today. I am near enough bald now at the back.

 My oldest was a bit horrified at first but he has got used to what is happening the more we talk and has even offered to rub coconut oil into my head this evening.

 I think it can be a little scary for children but like I said earlier we have to show them that this is just what is happening now and we can and will get through it. They will become so much stronger from being part of our journey.

 Night night

 Tara xx

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Hi Helen,

I can relate to you experience of changing diagnosis - that happened to me too and it does seem not uncommon. Very upsetting though, having to adjust to a new reality. The complexities of family life - supporting kids with their own lives and staying strong for them, makes things hard. Sometimes I don’t know what to worry about next, the choice is so vast! I do hope you’ve got support around you with that.

Glad to hear your son is looking forward to your new bald look! My daughter has kindly informed me that it won’t suit me! The character in the novel we’ve been reading shaves his hair of in solidarity with his mum. I suggested (in jest) that my daughter does that too, but she looked completely horrified!

Wishing you all courage for the next stage of your treatment - I hope it goes as smoothly as possible.

all best

Kate xx

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Not at all, Tara, it’s useful to share thoughts about the schooling problem. I imagine it’s more challenging keeping primary age kids off school. I’m thinking we’ll keep going with home school initially but maybe keep some socially distanced walks going with friends. I should have had 2 or 3 sessions of chemo done before term starts, so hopefully I’ll be in a better position to decide then. Certainly adds another layer of complexity!

It sounds like you’re coping really well so far. I do hope that continues for you. Did you go for the cold cap?

Kate xx

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Hello all, it’s good to meet you all although obviously I wish none of us were here! I’m Helen, I’m 51, I was diagnosed in mid Feb with a 30mm ductal carcinoma, Grade 2, HER2 negative, ER positive. Due to Covid and waiting for scans, there was a delay in my surgery, but I eventually had a mastectomy in April. Unfortunately the lump turned out to be 100mm and 1 of my lymph nodes was positive, so I had to go back in for an axillary node clearance in May, in total 4 out of 17 nodes removed were positive. So I am starting chemo  on 30th June, 3 cycles of EC and then 3 cycles of T, 3 weeks apart, followed by radiotherapy. I had a PICC line put in on Friday which isn’t too bad although I am reacting slightly to the plastic dressing, very itchy, so will need to ask for a different dressing when I go in on Tuesday.

I have 3 children, my eldest son is 19 and home from uni in London, my daughter is 17 and doing A levels (from home obviously) and my youngest son is 7, he has complex learning disabilities and behavioural issues, he can’t go back to school as he wouldn’t cope with the restrictions and could put me at risk. It has been very hard having him off school all this time while trying to recover from my ops.

I decided not to use the cold cap so have ordered a couple of turban/hats in funky patterns made of bamboo fabric as apparently it’s very soft and cool to wear. My son is very excited about the prospect of shaving my hair off so I will be bald like Daddy!

Anyway, thanks for reading all this, I wish you all the very best on this journey. I have found this forum an invaluable support over the last few months and am sure this group will be too.

Helen xxx

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Hi Kate,

 I did not realise that you too are a teacher so hope you were not offended by my activity suggestions. It has been more difficult to home school my two for the first couple days after chemo as I felt like I had been travelling in a car whilst reading a book for a month. A little travel sick I guess, however I was not actually sick. I told my team I wanted to be as well as I could as I have my boys to take care of and they gave me some really good anti sickness meds. I try to get them to do 2 pieces a day, where as before surgery and chemo they were completing all work set.

 The head teacher at school made a really good point the other day. He said if we take the time the children have had off so far and work out the time they have left in education it equates to 1 week a school year. When you look at it like that it’s not too bad. Additionally, when I was at school children from different cultures would take time off to travel to the country they were born  in the school year, they seemed to do alright and not fall too far behind. Just do what you can.

 I am already due for my second round on Thursday. The past 3 weeks have gone so quickly. Hopefully they will for you and your family too.

 Lots of love and all the best

 Tara

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Thanks, Tara, that’s a useful perspective on schools. In a way we’re all kind of used to isolating and home schooling, so maybe another few months of that won’t matter that much. My son, who’s 16, has coped very well and is pretty motivated, but my 12 year old struggles. I’ve been helping her a lot (I’m a secondary school teacher, at a different school to hers) but fear I’ll not have the energy once treatment is in full swing. I think we may have to play it by ear.

All the best

Kate x

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Hi Kate H

 I have jumped in again from the June 2020 group. I am 36 and have had triple negative breast cancer. Had the 19mm lump removed in April and started chemo 11th June. Have my second one on Thursday.

 I have two children a little younger than than your children,  I wanted to let you know about what was happening with schooling. I work at the school my boys go to albeit in a different year group. On the 10th July our school are allowing children that have not yet been back those In Y2/Y3 and Y4/Y5 to go back for 4 days to help with transition. This would be really ideal for my youngest as he has autism and struggles with transition and change. My oncologist has said he can potentially go back but would have to take all of his clothes off at the door when he gets home and shower whilst I wait in a separate room, however my boss the head teacher has said he will not allow him back as he can’t promise the boys won’t get Covid or any other big and bring it back to me. As I am a member of his staff he has to think of my safety, which apparently is ultimately more important than my Childrens education. I am not sure what will happen in September yet as I don’t finish chemo to the end I am having six rounds of FEC-T. He said he will have to review the situation then. 

 It must be hard living in a flat, but what I have been doing with my boys for a change of scenery is putting my mask on and one in the and just Taking them for a little walk around the block by my house. This seems to satisfy them. Maybe you could walk up and down the street a couple of times. It’s not a lot but does make a difference. Also don’t know if you are aware but most websites used in school have been free access to parents during lockdown. There is one call Twinkl where you can download activities and crafts for your children to complete. I am not trying to pry but know how hard it can be to keep children occupied whilst we are going through treatment. In a way we have been lucky because most children have been in the same position but now things are being relaxed I sometimes feel guilty that they can’t be the same as others. We will get there this is just a small part of our lives which they are having to be part of, but remember we are making them stronger so that if they ever have to deal with an illness when older or their partners they will know that it is possible to get through it.

 Hope you all have a nice day.

 Lots of love

 Tara x

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Hi all,

I’m Kate, I’m 49, and I’m due to start chemotherapy in a couple of weeks time - 8 sessions over 16 weeks. Have had to cancel all 50th birthday celebrations this summer!

I was diagnosed in late April with ER+ PR+ HER- invasive ducal cancer, plus an area of DCIS. Biopsy & MRI suggested it was stage 1, grade 2. Initially they thought I would need a lumpectomy + radiotherapy, then they thought the size of the DCIS was such that I’d need a mastectomy & sentinel nodes removed. I had that 3 weeks ago and have been healing pretty well. I thought I was over the worst...

But, unfortunately, my pathology results came back last week saying the cancer was actually stage 2 (only just - the tumour was 2.1mm), grade 3 and the cancer was partially in one node. They don’t seem to want to take any more nodes as the other 3 were clear, but I now I need chemotherapy too. I feel very stunned and scared - about the new diagnosis and the treatment that I wasn’t expecting.

Both my surgeon and oncologist has said my cancer is curable. I’m trying to hold onto that word and to mentally underline it when all the other horrible words crowd in. I have a fantastic team at my hospital and I just have to place myself in their expert hands and believe what they say.

I have 2 kids, 16 and 12. The 16-year-old has been amazing - very kind, lots of hugs, optimistic about the future. My youngest is struggling anyway and I think doesn’t know what to make of all my treatment. We have been reading a lovely book together which I would highly recommend for kids aged 10-12, called The Best Medicine by Christine Hamill - a Northern Irish writer who went through breast cancer treatment. (She also wrote a non-fiction book called B is for Breast Cancer about her experience which is about the only thing I’ve managed to read that has cheered me up and not freaked me out.) The Best Medicine is funny and moving and we’ve had a good laugh and cry together about the awfulness that is breast cancer,

Today’s top worry (the list is very long and they vie for the number 1 position) is about the kids going back to school (where I live, term has finished) and bringing back Covid or some other bug. Getting an infection during chemo sounds scarily serious. I’m unclear what shielding really means. I can’t imagine being socially distant from my family within our small flat. But my youngest is going stir crazy and really needs to get back to school. And I’ve already been self-isolating for 5 weeks and am dreading not being able to go for even a socially distanced walk with a friend, for support, laughter and a shoulder to cry on.

My oncologist says I can try the cold cap and I will give it a go. Fingers crossed - I don’t fancy losing my hair. The thread on cold caps was useful to read and quite positive. One tip I read was to invest in a silk pillow case and good quality dry shampoo. 

I’m very glad to have found this space and feel immediately less terrified, knowing I’m not alone. Thank you all for sharing your stories. Wishing you all strength for the trial ahead. May there be good days ahead.

Kate xx

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Hi Steph, thank you so much for your reply and i’m sorry that you’re going through this too. 

I’ve had my CT scan result back this week and its all clear, thank god! So I'm feeling much better about everything and more positive about getting through chemo and radio. Had an appointment to check my wound & take the dressing off with my bc nurse on Thursday and seems i’ve got my wires crossed a bit. They like to allow roughly 4 weeks between day of surgery and start of chemo, so i’ll be starting a bit later than i thought, more towards end of July i think, but i’m still waiting to meet my oncologist so i’ll know a lot more then.

Still waiting on pathology result to see if margins are clear this time, so i’m hoping to hear something soon. 

Hope you and everyone else is doing ok - you’re right, we can be a great support to one another and get through this! Thank you for the kind words, 

 

Becci xx

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Hi Claudia,

My name is Tara. I have just hopped in from the June 2020 chemo thread. I too have children around your children’s age. 9 and 7. I had grade 3 triple negative 19mm lump removed in April. I say had because my margins and nodes were clear so the chemo to me is just to ensure it never comes back. Shi is right you can get a book from you bcn called ‘Mummy’s lump’. It explains things really well. Also I don’t know if you will loose your hair with your chemo but I contacted cancer hair care and they sent me a lovely knitted dolly for my younger child. It turns inside out to show what you look like now with hair and then what you will look like with no hair. My youngest has Aspergers a type of autism. The dolly has really helped him sequence the process in his mind. He is also a hoarder if dolls. This is part of his obsession. Don’t know if you have boys or girls but this really helped me too. There is so much support out there just let me know if there is anything you are worried about and I will try to help you.

 I am due my second round of chemo next week. My first was not nice but doable. As I have children I told my Oncologist I want to be as well as possible. I have to say drink plenty and ask for and take all anti sick meds as you are told and I am sure you too will be fine.

 Good luck and lots of love 💕  Tara xxx

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Hi Claudia, I think there is a book if you want to tell your children with the help of that, I think others have used it. Not sure if your bcn has already told you about it? 💕💕Shi xx

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Hi I was diagnosed on 30thmay with invasive duct cancer which is roughly 39mm. Mri scan showed my lymph nodes to be fine and I will having chemo in July with a lumpectomy once chemo is completed. Back to front from everyone else but it's for the greater good. I'm a bit apprehensive about it all. I now have to tell my kids which I am dreading as they are 8 & 11

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Hi all, I’ve just discovered this awesome app which is specifically to help with managing medication, monitoring side effects and how you’re feeling during treatment.  I put everything on a spreadsheet when I was going through treatment but this creates graphs for you and you can share how you’re doing with friends and family.  I would have loved it, it’s super geeky.  It’s on Apple only at present

http://www.careology.health/ 

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Hi Becci

Sorry to hear everything you're going through.. it's so tough isn't it.  I know exactly how it feels to wait for results, that was the worst time for me.. I was in shock with the diagnosis and literally petrified with the scans but it does get much easier after you have your results and a treatment plan in place.  Now I have my plan in place I feel a much less stressed.  I've got my masectamy on the 3rd and then probably chemo and radiotherapy.  6 months in total of treatment which seems a long time doesn't it but I found out on 13th May and that was well over a month ago so time will go quickly.   Once you have all your results back and a plan in place you will feel better.  Just remember these days the science and treatment is amazing and we will get through this.  We can all support each other 🙂  Lots of people have said to me dont think about the whole big picture just literally take it each day as it's much more manageable. 

As for the cold cap I assumed it was an option but I've not asked my hospital. However I've decided not to bother with it as I dont want to be in hospital longer than I need to and also I've not had a hair cut since Feb(!) so it's not looking it's best in any event ha ha!  I think with hair loss it can make people look ill but I've told myself the hair loss is simply the chemo which is making me better.  If you see what I mean - its not the cancer making us lose our hair.  I think you're absolutely right there are some gorgeous head scarves etc out there so between that, wigs and summer hats we will be fine 🙂   Apparently hair grows back thicker and more healthy looking after chemo! No idea why that is but this time next year we'll have gorgeous hair! 

I understand how you feel about being alone in all this.  Friends and family can be supportive but they can't really understand how we feel so it's lovely that we can chat to each other.  

We'll come out the other side together 🙂  

Steph xx 

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Hi Ladies, I'm Becci, 39 and was diagnosed on 12th May. Originally thought it was stage 1, grade 1 Er+PR+HER- until 1st surgery. On the 28th May I had a lumpectomy and sentinal node biopsy which was positive for cancer so I had an axillary node clearance at the same time. 4 of the 9 nodes removed came back positive, the tumour was larger (44mm) and more aggressive (grade 3) than previously thought and unfortunately the margins of the lumpectomy were not all clear. I went back in for more surgery last Thursday to take more breast tissue away, if margins arent clear this time it will be a mastectomy next. Have also had a CT scan today to check for spread & staging (I figured its now stage 3?) its another wait for more results and i’m so scared its going to be more bad news. Haven't got a start date yet for my chemo, was just told last week that it would be very soon and for 6 months, so I'm guessing it will be around the very beginning of July. I'm trying to be as positive about everything as i possibly can and strong for our 4 children but I'm dreading whats ahead and already feel like these last 6 weeks or so have been hell. I’ve already been told by my bn that the cold cap won’t be an option for me due to coronavirus but i’m ok with that i think. Obviously i won’t know how i’ll truly feel about losing my hair until it actually comes to it but I'm thinking that i’ll also get by with some nice head scarves being summer, guess it depends on our English weather though! Would be so nice to chat to others in a similar situation, at a time when you can feel so alone at times. 

Thanks for reading and i hope you’re doing ok as you possibly can be.

Big hugs, Becci xx

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Please remember if you are swapping personal emails do it over pm on here not on the thread, it is open to the world. Please keep safe 💕💕Shi xx

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Hi Steph 

Hope you had a lovely weekend in the sun. Sorry you are going through all this too, its so bloody tough. Keep the positive thoughts up and try not to think about it coming back. It hard I know but all your energy needs to go into beating this. Mines come back a little different to last time, so I hopefully this is the last time I have this battle. There has been some new genetic findings since last time I had it, so gonna see if that brings anything back. It been sore, and I've had abit of cording but im doing really well. It will be 4 weeks tomo since my op and can do most things now, walking loads again now to, managed 5 and half miles this weekend proper tried after tho lol. Make sure you keep going with the exerciser this do make a difference even if they hurt abit sometimes.

Im not going for the cold cap its just not for me, I don't want to be there any longer than I have to be. Everyone its different tho, and if they feel its right for them I totally get it. My friends are all on the look out for funky head bands for me so see how I feel. 

It will be great to stay in touch,  I can hold your hand from afar, I found it hard going to everything alone and having most things over the phone as I never take everything in and its just always good to have someone there, but it is getting easier I think. Chemo nurses seem nice and its been moved out the main hospital so feels as safe as it can be. How are you feeling about you op? Anything you're  worried about? I had the drain this time which was odd but no where near as bad as I thought it would be. 

Happy to swap e-mail address if we are allowed? I didn't do this last time so all new to me, it's been a really nice to get your message back tho. 

Big hugs hun

Charlotte xx

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Hi Flamingo 

It's so nice to hear from you.  I'm so sorry to hear you've got to go through all this and for a second time.  I often feel really positive and that I can get through all this but I really worry I'll get through it and it comes back.. it's so unfair.  I don't understand how it all works and why it comes back but it really worries me.  I really hope this is the last time for you, now they've taken out all the lymph nodes hopefully it can't come back again?  I'm having all mine removed too as well as a full masectamy so I hope it doesn't come back.    Did you recover okay from having all your lymphs out?  

I know what you mean about talking to people going through a similar thing.   It's great you have lots of support and my partner and friends are great too but it's just not the same.  Also, you're so young too.  It would be lovely to stay in touch and support each other 🙂  As for hair loss and chemo that's so true about it being summer.  I guess in winter it's a little easier with having hats on etc.  I had looked into head scarfs and some are really pretty and hopefully very light material so I think that's what I'll go for.  There's some lovely ones online.  Are you going to try using a cold cap to keep your hair or are you trying it?  I don't think I'm going to although I know some people do and it works for them.  

Steph x 

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Hi Stephie82, 

I was diagnosed just after Easter with breast cancer for the 2nd time. I'm Charlotte and I'm 33. Last time 5 years ago, I had a lump removal and one lymph node out, followed by chemo and radio. This time it came back in two lymph nodes but they took 15. I'm starting chemo on the 1st July then radio after. Im not an expert and have had different procedures to you but happy to chat and help in anyway I can. Well done for keeping positive, it's really hard but it helps and got me through it before. I have the most amazing support around me. Im very lucky, but it be lovely to have someone to chat to that understands.

 

I having the hair loss dilemma at the mo.

I hated my wig last time so stuck to wooly hats as it was winter. Ive been doing loads of online searching for picture and advice on just wearing headband and stuff but there doesn't seem to be much unless I want to cover my whole head. I get people like to cover their heads but feel like it's gonna be really hot in the summer. I have ordered head bands and a straw hat, but wonder if anyone has come up with anything else? 

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Thanks Mai for setting up July's chemo board.  I'm Steph (38) and was diagnosed on 13th May with lobular BC.  I'm having a masectamy and lymph removals in 2 weeks time and then chemo in July followed by radiotherapy.   Hoping to find support here and to support others who are starting chemo in July!  I'm trying to be really positive as breast cancer is usually treatable these days but it's an anxious and stressful time (got a house move on the go as well!) so it would be great chat to others in the same boat 🙂  xx

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July 2020 chemo monthly starters

Hi 👋 
 

This thread is for anyone due to start chemotherapy in July 2020.  I’m sure others will be here soon but please introduce yourself and you can all help one another through this phase of your treatment.  If you have any questions please post away on here and others in the community will watch over you whilst you are getting started.  Once you are into it you'll be pretty good at helping each other.  You can also ask the nurses on this forum if you have any concerns.  In the meantime, the top tip is always to stay well hydrated throughout chemo, aiming for 2 litres of water per day.

 

Here is the BCN guide on chemo:

https://breastcancernow.org/information-support/facing-breast-cancer/going-through-treatment-breast-...

 

Here’s an excellent article for anyone concerned about hairloss. That’s pretty much everyone starting chemo: https://pinklotus.com/powerup/breastcancer101/chemo-hair-loss-and-menopause-hair-too/

I finished my chemo over a year ago and doing very well again now.  Here is my story which has some chemo tips on how I coped which were collectively shared from others who had gone through the same from this forum:

http://lifeafterlola.com/

If you decide to set up a private group its good to stay on here also during treatment as I know from experience there are some people who watch but don't immediately pluck up the courage to join in.  Your conversations can be a real comfort to others.

 

Best wishes xx