Mai so pleased you had a lovely meal out and enjoyed a bit or normal again. Just back form having a drive out and didnt even put the radioactive body suit on either, I didnt actually get out of the car, but it was beautiful to see all the autum colours everywhere doesnt everything look clearer and brighter when you look at it all now instead of taking it for granted anymore. Hope everyone's se's are relenting and thank you again ladies for all you love and support last week, I wouldnt have made it through that or this without you. Love and sparkles shi xx
Morning ladies! Hope you all have a good day. We had a lovely meal yesterday - Japanese and Korean, it was so nice to be able to do normal things again after 6months of being a chemo prisoner. Just getting dressed up and putting on my watch and jewellery again felt good, like I'm still in the game.
Katie, have a fab holiday! ☀️
MJK, well said and big hugs to you. 💗 That's exactly how I feel about all of this crap. I'm enjoying my last week of having two boobs before the brutal surgery a week on Tuesday. Still, we get to (hopefully) stay alive in return for our harsh trade offs. 💗
Katie - have a lovely holiday enjoy yourself and bring some sunshine back please. Mai hope you had a lovely meal last night. Hope everyone's se's and operations start settling better day by day. Love and sparkles shi xx
MJK - that's such a lovely post, honest yet positive - thank you for sharing xxx
and it's so true ladies, without each and everyone of us this discussion group would be non-existent! without each and every one of you my life for the past 6 months would not have been so enriched, I am forever grateful xxx
On a more Cheery note, we're just about to head out to our favourite restaurant for the first time in more than 6 months. I am so looking forward to it.
Hi treehouse, just reading somehting Jay posted, Ive just wanted to share with you where my snb was done there is a concave bit there above and to the side a bit of my boob on the operated side, I dont know if that helps at all with what you are seeing yourself? I hope it does helpand if not I thought it worth a mention to try. Love shi xx
Jay, you're really good at knowing what to say. Have you thought of being a counsellor? I'm the same as you, I don't have a choice for reconstruction. They won't do one for a year and they can't save my nipple either so I'll just have a big scar. This really is a cruel disease yet we have to stay positive because not being positive is not really having a life anyway. Breast cancer sucks!
Hi Treehouse - sorry to hear of your anxiety and disappointment and well done for not bottling it up and for allowing us to try and reassure you (although you may find my view a little harsh)!
I am not allowed any reconstruction for 12/18 months and if I'm honest this is probably just one of the reasons why I'm deciding at the moment to remain lop-sided!! I know I would always be expecting amazing things! As previously stated, I'm impatient and going through this whole "journey" I've realised I'm even less patient than I ever imagined.
I'm guessing this "impatient" feeling affects us all, as we all want to be back to "normal" and we're still very much in denial that this cruel disease has sneeked itself into our lives and brought us to our knees.
My advice would be to stop comparing(!) your new boobs - just think, your left side has had a lot more going on than the right side - it's where you've had nodes removed and the whole environment on that side of your chest has been challenged.
Take time away from the mirror and give your body time to adjust to what it's been through - give yourself time to come to terms with what you've been through - stop putting added worries and pressure on yourself when you're already very vulnerable.
By the tme your appointment comes round on Tuesday - I'm sure things will have settled down a little more - if not, let the professionals provide advice on steps to improve the situation.
Although I know you're fearing the worse - cos that's what us ladies do - don't go worrying yourself that it's failed - just cover up, ignore and carry on.
Sorry if my words seem a little harsh Treehouse - but honestly as you know, worrying and getting anxious are not healthy and we need to be healthy and strong to face the new "normal" life just waiting round the corner for us.... chin up girlie xx
Treehouse really hope it is nothing serious, I think we have a plan in our head how everything should be as we have all already been through so much and a curve ball can be so upsetting so it is completely understandable to be feeling how you are sending big hugs xxxx
Oh dear Treehouse, I hope you dont need more surgery as you've been doing so well so far. Is the side with problems the side you felt the twang on yesterday when you stretched? Could it be that something has torn internally? I'd ring the breast nurse as soon as possible to get it checked out. I suppose you'll have to wait until Monday though. Your anxiety is understandable, as BC patients we're constantly looking at ourselves under a microscope. Big gentle hugs to you. Xxx 💗
Just wanted to say thanks again Tatyana, Udder cream has just arrived. Wishing everyone good recoveries from ops and wishing everyones se's go away for you soon. Love and sparkles shi xx
Sworridlr I have just had number 4 doctaxal and everyone has been different, I didn't really get a good week on third lot, it improved slightly but think it would be cumalitve effect. As much as I hated fec it was consistent with symptoms