I feel, being told your results on the day would be so much better.......... perhaps....??!!
Definitely ! I was saying this in the car on the way back, the 'it could be 4 weeks before you hear' is positively cruel. I know the NHS do it as its the most cost-effective way to run the service, but its agonising.
Reading these messages has really made me smile! As others have said, although mammograms are not pleasant - and can be damn uncomfortable - having already received earth shattering news in the past, us ladies appreciate that these scans are a good indicator for finding "early" changes in our breast(s!) - sorry I've now only got one! and even though the thought of being diagnosed again with breast cancer is truly daunting, knowing it would be in it's earliest stages means the treatment would be less harsh is almost a "bonus" - I still say the waiting time is the worst time ever - you try to put it to the back of your mind but you find it gradually creeps it's way forward...! I can remember my recent clear result being given to me over the phone and once I put the phone down - tears fell down my face and I just proper cried - the relief..........! I feel, being told your results on the day would be so much better.......... perhaps....??!!
That make me smile Gill, about requesting the mammo and then going into meltdown when it was time for it. Reminds me of something today - dreading it, terrified of it, had to force myself to go and had already cancelled it once! Whats the first thing I say when I get in to the radiographer - 'can I clarify that you have me down for enough years, as the surgeon said another two and I am due 3!'. So asking for more of the fear and misery - BUT - deep down we know how important it is.
Perfectly normal and sure I can speak for lots of people here. I had the appointment for my mammo come through for mid April which was fine. Just prior to this I got an infection. Post surgery would you believe 11 month on!!. 2 lots of antibiotics and several ultra sounds and mammo cancelled due to the discomfort. Long story short I said I needed my mammo soon as have my daughter wedding (which is now 2 weeks away) and needed to know as didn't want this hanging over me up to the wedding. Anyway it is what it is and you have to do what they say and behave!. Went for my check up to see if the infection was improving and another ultra sound then in to see the professor who then said lets do your full mammogram why you are here. Well I went into melt down and said really!! almost as if do I have to??. He said yes and will give you the results at the same time. Well you can imagine. Knees knockin, shaking, dry mouth sat in waiting room with ladies who wanted to chat, not me!!. Anyway they called me in and almost ran in saying well????. good news perfect mammogram no disease evident. Yes the waiting time is the worst and was for me all the way through and I am sure for lots of others, that waiting carousel was dreadful. I am sure all will be fine and it is ok to not be ok and get nervous. Fingers crossed for you and on a good result. xx
Don't panic - the feeling is perfectly natural and acceptable. I've just had my 2nd mammogram following breast cancer in 2017 and it was just as daunting and scarry. Thankfully the results have come back normal so I can breathe a sense a relief for another year...! Good luck tomorrow - it's going to be a packed room as we'll all be with you! xx
You have received 2 wonderful replies from Charys and Chick1 - I'm not sure I can add anything to their advice and support, but I wanted to send you a hug and reassure you that it really is normal to feel anxious about scans. We will be with you tomorrow holding your hand virtually - do come back and let us know how you get on, or if you need to chat more before you go.
Hugs, Evie xx
Best wishes with your scan tomorrow. If you do a forum search, I think you will find a number of people saying the same thing..... So take it that it is quite normal. I hope you can find something nice to do and enjoy today, something that helps you relax.
I know this may not help as we need to find our own way of managing things but..... I have an aversion to all things intrusive and medical anyway so breast cancer treatment and aftermath was a treat.... Not! Anyway post treatment, I have had two mammos and checks with breast clinic plus also a couple of Oncologist checks and one due again soon. I don't necessarily look forward to them but I also don't get anymore "scanxiety" than if it was just a bog standard mammograms etc. I think this is because I have managed to convince myself that they are a good thing and that I am glad of them because if anything is lurking then there is a good chance it will be picked up early. I probably get more anxious when I am doing my own checks - maybe that is because I found my original alien through self discovery so to speak.
Due to personal circumstances, I access treatments/checks in two different areas of the nation. One where the breast care team mammograms and appointment for 5 years but no regular Oncologist follow up, and the other area does Mammograms every two years and a phone line to breast care nurses if you need, and it would seem follow up from Oncology. When I heard mammograms every two years and no regular appointments that concerned me more than the other arrangement!! I would be more anxious if there were no formal checks. Fortunately, I can make good use of both arrangements.
Wishing you all the best,
Chick 🐔 x
Yes, it is normal, very normal for many people, so much so that it has a term 'scanxiety'. Tomorrow, same as you!!, I am due a yearly mammogram - except mine is the third after treatment ended (diagnosed March 2016). I would be lying if I didn't tell you I am stressed and fearful, even after the previous two being totally clear. It stops me sleeping for a few weeks and reminds me of everything surrounding that awful time of diagnosis, so for you, who is even closer to diagnosis and treatment it is going to feel much worse. I recall all too clearly that first year and waiting for the results, it was almost too much to bear...hang on in there LamphA...many thousands and thousands have been there before you and understand your feelings on this. x I'll come back and check your thread tomorrow and we can update together.
Edited to add - I recall seeing my breast surgeon a few months before the first mammogram, for a checkup. She cheerfully said to me 'I bet you are feeling great now, now its all over', I looked at her with confusion on my face and said 'no not really', she asked why....and the WHY is that for many people (despite being delighted they have had treatment and relieved there is professional skill around them) they have that feeling of a sword hanging over their heads. It will diminish, and you will spend less time thinking about it, it doesn't cross my mind much now until we get to scans.
I am having my first mammogram tomorrow after completing treatment for breast cancer - I am absolutely petrified about the whole thing especially the results 😩 is it normal to feel like this ?