Thank you for updating us all - it's good to hear how much better you feel after talking things through with your BCN. I totally agree with you about having a hubby/friend with you so that they can remind you what advice the doctor/BCN actually gave when your mind starts playing tricks and you doubt what you heard. Someone also suggested asking the doctor if I could record the appointment - I haven't ever done that, but maybe I should.
Thanks so much for taking the time to reply, it really helped me feel a lot less lonely and lost.
I had an appointment with the Specialist Breast Care Nurse last Thurs as a follow up to treatment but I won't be having my mammo until July (I thought I was having it now). I feel so much better after talking through things with her and it helped having my hubby present as he learned a lot too and when I am having a fear episode he can reiterate what she actually said!
Thanks again, you really helped when I needed it xxx
I too would like to echo what the other ladies have said. You really are not alone, and you have come to exactly the right place to get support as you approach the scan. We will be right there holding your hands.
I have had 2 mammograms post treatment and it’s a scary time, bringing back memories of course.
Sending you a big hug and so let us know how it goes, if you feel up to it. 🤗
Just wanted to echo the other ladies words to you. It isnt easy as the date comes round, but it is our safety net for the future.
A tip I was given was to take a couple of paracetomel a half hour before the appointment. I also let the lady know that it was my first post op mammo and she was as gentle as so could be
I think it would be surprising to not be terrified to be honest ! I've just had my third one post treatment, and even then I was feeling the same awful feelings. which came flooding back. I've yet to meet one person who doesn't feel as you do right now. I've copied a link to another recent thread about this subject, as reading some of the replies there might help you...
From my own experience I know that there is very little anyone can say that will take that fear away for you, 'scanxiety' for those who have had a diagnosis already is a horrible place to be, and the thought of having to 'go through it all again' feels almost unbearable. Like you, logically, I know that it is important for early detection and successful treatment - but also wanting to run in the opposite direction feels like an option. All you can do is tell yourself that the chances are, as for the majority, that all is well and just get through it the best you can.
All I can say is you're certainly not alone and there will be many, many ladies who agree!
I've just had my second mammogram following active treatment and I was just, if not more, anxious this time around! Following mastectomy in 2017 I obviously only have the one good one now but I guess it's just the indignity of the actual process - for me standing out with no prosthetic for the radiographer to see felt humilitating - of course, the lady was really lovely - and without doubt sees this everyday.
I guess we will never be like we were - it's just getting used to the new me.... Good luck for your mammogram and then the dreadful waiting game.... x
I am having my first post-treatment appointment/scan on Thursday and I am nervous. I am a very positive person by nature but this is flooring me a little bit, I am annoyed at how negative I feel about it, I can hear them telling me bad news and it's stupid because if they do I know it gives me the best chance of beating it again. I am also still feeling pain in the breast so I'm doubly wary about it as mammograms aren't the most comfortable thing in the first place. I don't know what I am looking for in posting this, it will be what it will be but I maybe need some words of encouragement?
Thanks for taking the time to read this xx