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ladybowler
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Belle

 

And you have, happy friday to you as well xxx

Jbelle
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Hello All Ladies..... hope everyone is well. The picture is a true reflection of my week but hopefully not yours. Happy Friday and have a lovely weekend. Belle xxx

 

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Jbelle
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Hiya Jill, we seem to be chasing the elusive sleep!!!!! The pill that I take helps with my anxiety and I could fall asleep easily but once, the hot flushes and night sweats occur, there goes my 💤💤💤

So if need be, I normally will take the pill during the day.....found that my anxiety is at its worst in the mornings

Thats not bad at all.....venturing out with your dog 😄

Hopefully the magnet will work after the month trial...

Wishing you more hours of sleep for tonight and nights to come

Belle xxx

Jill1998
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Morning all,3 hours -sleep better than none I guess .Not quite as bad anxiety wise today, ventured out with dog but not very far and walked very quickly on way back !!! sleep certainly impacts on the ability to cope- hopefully will get more than 3 hours tonight ! Hot flushes certainly do not aid sleep ,starting 3rd week with the magnet -supposed to take 4 before you see a difference if it's going to work .
Jill1998
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Magnet not helped so far but takes a month at least to work if it's going to .
Jill1998
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Sending you a big hug back Belle and hoping for a better nights sleep for both of us.Yes it's not over when it's over - unfortunately ... you have found pills that help - blooming take them and have a good nights sleep .
Jbelle
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No, haven’t tried sage pills at all.... read that it works for some women. Another seems to work is the red clover, haven’t tried too!!

Hows your magnet? Do you find it helpful?

Was so naive....daft even....to think that when I was first diagnosed, after mx and treatments, All will be business as usual but NO..... have been so struggling with the side effects, definitely life changing. Try very hard to be positive daily but it does get to you....you know what I mean.

Yup, it is soul destroying......assassination of our former self....

A BIG Hug for you, JIll..... Belle xxx

Jill1998
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I think there is def a hormonal element to the anxiety therefore I guess it makes sense that anxiety goes hand in hand with the flushes .Have you tried sage tablets -that's the only thing I haven't tried yet .Sleep is so important to everything -hoping I revert to getting at least some rest again soon -it's soul destroying isn't it Belle ?
Jbelle
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Hiya Jill,

 

Whew.....we sound alike.....hot flushes then anxiety....Why is it that we get anxiety after the hot flushes?? Can’t comprehend!!

 

I think I have resigned to the fact that I could not get a proper night sleep. The hours I get really depends on the intensity and frequency of the hot flushes and anxiety! Come to think of it.....I have not got complete night rest since my diagnosis!!! 

 

Heres to better days and and restful nights plus anxiety free

 

Belle xxx

Jill1998
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Hi Belle ,hot flushes wake me up then anxiety kicks in .Last night was hell - fell asleep for about an hour -husband came to bed and woke me up and then that was me for the rest of the night .Hoping I will revert to sleeping reasonably again because it makes a massive difference to the level of anxiety I think -or is it the other way round ? ? Don't have accupuncture til next Tuesday now - wish I did !!! Next week have 2 sessions so hopefully that will set me back on track.
Jbelle
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Thanks Sue, as usual, that are good and bad days.....😌😞

 

Yeah, saw that you recommended to Jill and totally forgot about that.....will check it out.....we definitely need more laughter!!😂

 

So pleased for you that All went well at your gp.👍🏼

 

Happy celebrating.....🥂

 

😘😘😘

Sue C
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Hi belle
Sorry to read that your day is not good 😩
What helps for you? I have many tv recommendations if that helps!? Plus, I think I mentioned to Jill before.....I'm currently watching Ricky Gervais and Karl Pilkington on You Tube.....soooo funny!
Saw Dr this afternoon about another matter....its never ending right?! Plus I have to take tablets for high blood pressure (Another letrozole side effect!!) so got that checked and all good.
Going out in a mo to my daughters celebration evening.
Sending hugs to all
Sue xx
Jbelle
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Hiya Sue,

 

Happy to hear that you are doing better today. Nothing is worth you stressing out....

 

Hope that your visit to your gp is productive.....are you getting your referral letter??

 

Belle

xxx

Jbelle
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Hiya Rachael,

 

Hope that you are well and able to sort out your work date! Belle xxx

Jbelle
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Hi Mary, nice to hear that you had a good holiday!! Joining the choir is awesome!
Best wishes, Belle xxx
Jbelle
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Hiya Jill,

Today’s a bit of downer for me.....just tired and anxious.... thanks for asking!

You have been through the mill and at this current time, you are not well to attend the meetings or work....period....and hopefully, your employer understands!

Oh dear, another sleepless night.....same here.....what’s keeping you awake? For me, it’s the hot flushes.

Are you going for your acupuncture tomorrow?

Belle xxx

Jill1998
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Hopefully you have now got it sorted !!! Well done for staying calm .My immediate manager has been understanding ,I work for local authority so they have to follow set procedures when you are off sick ,their hands are tied somewhat as to how they approach things .Waiting to here how they will deal with me not being well enough to attend any meetings regarding my sickness .
Sue C
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Yes, supervisor intervened yesterday.....still not confident that it will get down. 

And we will try uni too. It's such a large company that you never get to speak to the same person twice and there are lots of different departments. Very frustrating😠 Managed to stay calmer yesterday though!

Are work understanding?

Jill1998
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Have you spoken to a supervisor Sue - it's ridiculous that he still has no loan.Could the Uni do anything to help ? Student welfare ?No , Im not considering going back to work - I can't even get to corner shop easily so not a chance in the foreseeable future .
Sue C
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Hi Jill

Thanks for asking..... I'm doing ok today. Have check up later with gp....just a few minor issues to discuss. Then off later with my daughter for a presentation evening on work she did over the Summer. Will make a nice change.

Student finance issue still not resolved. I spent an hour on the phone yesterday, just to be told something different again. Will have to wait another week to see if anything changes. Getting anxious about it as he is about to run out of money!

Sorry to read the visit has upset your progress. I hope you're not considering going back to work?!

Sue xx

Jill1998
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Do you feel up to work Rachel -I seem to remember that you do a stressful job. Its so frustrating that progress is not consistent - bad days after a good patch seem so much worse .
Rachy65
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Hi ladies.
It's such a roller coaster isn't it. I've woke up feeling anxious again tbh.
Got to ring HR to chase the date I'm going back to work.
Jill1998
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Thanks Janey,the visit was fine but it's higher up the ladder were decisions are made.The stress of it has really set me back had another night of no sleep and high anxiety - so pigged off after making progress over last 2 weeks ? How is your work situation ? PM me if you don't want to discuss on forum .Belle /Sue how are you today .Rachel - glad one of us is making progress .Mary well done for managing the holiday and glad you feel better for it .I have self referred for support from mental Heath services but sure it will be a wait.
maryminder
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Hi R

Still waiting for counselling but will chase it up next week in clinic, still using mindfulness and have found it really helps, have also joined a choir which is something I have always wanted to do but never got round to, really enjoyable and just good to do something different.

 

OH and I have just returned from a holiday in the Canarys, we had to cancel last year due to treatment, was a bit daunting and i found the waiting around at airports hardest to deal with anxiety wise but managed to use tapping techniques (i'm sure people thought i was mad Smiley LOL) which helped, was lovely recharging batteries and being a normal couple again (we made a conscious effort to leave BC at home).

 

Thanks for the link, i agree it felt like my lifeboat had been snatched out from underneath me, my consultant is trying to set up a sort of Survivership programme at our local hospital that BC patients would be able to access after treatment, still in the planning stage but he has asked for input and ideas from us so hopefully something good will come of it for the future.

 

Hugs and Best Wishes

Mary xx

Janey2
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Jill. I hope the visit was supportive and tonight a little easier. Xx
Rachy65
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I've been to the cinema tonight with my mother..id full recommend "Victoria and Abdul".
Also went to see :"The Mountain between us" with Idris Elba and Kate Winslet, at the weekend .
Found the cinema to be a great distraction technique to ease anxiety x
Jill1998
Community Champion

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Would be very hard not to feel sad at times Helena ,but good that you have lots of positive memories and yes you still have each other no matter what **** life throws at you !!
ladybowler
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Jill

 

To be honest I do feel sad at times because life has changed so much for Colin and I,

 

However I am very grateful for the wonderful 16 years we have had before he became ill as we did so much holidays, weekends away, I think it would be very different if we had not had that, but at the end of the day we still have each other

 

Helena xxx

Jill1998
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Thank you Helena - I would just say the same back to you -you have had a very difficult year too and your life has changed so much and you must feel very sad at times, but you give a lot of support to others and I'm sure it is very much appreciated .xx
ladybowler
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Jill

 

I want to echo Belle's post, you are amazing in the wonderful support you give to all the ladies on here/

 

Hopefully you will have a much better nights sleep tonight xxxx

Jill1998
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Hi Belle ,just listening and understanding helps - thanks!! Hopefully will sleep better tonight and be back on track tomorrow - small steps forward ...👍
Jbelle
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Hello Jill,

 

For sure that all the little, little stresses stacks up to a pretty intimidating stress plus having not enough sleep certainly adds to anxiety.....

 

Ahhhh, Jill, you have been through so much..... you are such a strong lady...... bless you for taking your time to support others here even though you are going through your own struggles 

 

Wish I could say or do more to make you feel better.....will hope and pray that you will be heading for better days and restful nights.

 

Take good care .....Gentle hugs

 

Belle

xxx

RHud
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Hi Mary,

 

Your friend's gift for you was so sweet and thoughtful.

 

I am very sorry to hear you have been struggling since your treatment ended. With my aunt, after her mastectomy and treatment had finished, she went into a very dark place. She was offered antidepressants but she refused. Instead, she spoke to a counsellor and she said this really helped her. The counsellor also taught her a lot of mindfulness techniques. She has been cancer-free for 10 years but continues to use her mindfulness techniques that she was taught.

 

I recently spotted an article online about a study which found that a quarter of breast cancer survivors find life after cancer harder than the actual treatment. (You can read it here:  https://livebetterwith.com/community/life-after-cancer-harder/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=post&u...).

 

I hope you are still using it! Also, if you have started your counselling, I hope it has helped you.

 

All the best to you!

R xx

Rachy65
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Aww I didn't realise either Jill

Your an inspiration to others x
Jill1998
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Thank you Debbie !!! It's not been a good couple of years !! But I'm still here -hopefully will get there in the end !!
Debbie1964
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Oh bless you jill, i didnt realise that you had to deal with womb cancer as well as bc,  you have had to deal with so much, and your such a generous person with your invaluable support to every one, just wanted to give you a hug xx

Jill1998
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Like you said yesterday Sue ,any additional stress just pushes you over the edge .Im getting exhausted organising people to walk the dog and people to keep me company to break up my days .Just need to get better so I don't have to rely on others !!! Son was coming home during reading week and I thought -phew a week when I don't have to ask favours but he has had an appointment moved to the beginning of that week so alfhough he will be home it will be at the weekend when I have company and dog walker in the shape of husband ,still it will be nice to have additional company and distractions.Yesterday accupcturist said my pulse etc was the best it had been for quite a while so hopefully wil go back to better days and nights after today .
Sue C
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Oh Jill, you're probably worrying about the work related visit.

Have you seen the Ricky Gervais podcasts with Karl Pilkington? You can get them on You Tube. Definitely worth a listen xx

Jill1998
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Had a dreadful night -woke feeling at my absolute worst with anxiety - so fed after quite a few good nights and not too bad mornings .Have work related visit this afternoon think that has been having an impact on me in the background .Will be a long morning .Any distractions welcome !
Jill1998
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I will have to go for review Belle -they will want me to go on Letrozole afterglow stopping Tamoxifen in Feb due to it causing womb cancer and leading to hysterectomy !!! going to say no -too many other issues to deal with at present can't put any more side effects into the mix .Will reconsider when feeling better
Jill1998
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Yes hopefully lack of sleep has made anxiety worse today and better day tomorrow .Anxiety fly swatter would be good !!
Jbelle
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Hiya Jill, 

You were getting a good couple nights of sleep...... hopefully, it is just a relapse for last night and good sleep will prevail in these coming days 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

Ahhhhhh......that darn anxiety always creeps up..... like a pesky fly....wish a fly swatter will do the trick....wishful thinking 🙄 sorry that you are not having a good day 😔

Are you going for your next review?

Belle xxx

Jill1998
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Yes it's just a review but anything additional hard to deal with ,also have visit from work manager tomorrow 😳
Sue C
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Thanks ladies.
Jill you're right....difficult to cope with other things at times. Is your appointment just a check up?
Belle I'll pm you later xx
Jbelle
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Don’t cry, me dear......Take a break, Sue..... relax. Don’t think of dealing with the issues and those people.... not worth it!

Always here....am all ears

 

Let’’s put the kettle on and have our virtual cuppa tea....

 

❤️HUGS❤️HUGS❤️HUGS❤️

Jill1998
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Have you got anywhere with the money situation Sue ? I find at the moment coping with anything additional to the day to day enornously stressful .I had a resonable morning didn't sleep as well last night but still not lying awake feeling anxious all night as I have been .Been to acupuncture had some company from friend but then left with long afternoon on my own - even the dog was out with the dog walker - so anxiety spiked -so blooming disappointing ☹️Just gritting my teeth to get through the next hour and a half til husband gets home .Had letter for re-scheduled breast clinic appointment - cancelled it last month as couldn't face it .😳
Sue C
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Thanks belle....I'm clearly not in the right frame of mind, when your hugs make me cry!!
Its just the exhaustion talking 😢
Jbelle
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Hello me dear Sue,...... don’t be upset .....don’t be stressed..... take it easy......

 

❤️ Gentle Hugs ❤️

 

Especially to cheer you up......sending you positive and energising vibes

 

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Sue C
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Hi Ladies
I got myself really stressed and upset after yesterdays phone calls.....not really sure why. Now today feel exhausted and tearful....and I'm just about to start work! Just want to get this over and done with and go back to bed. This fatigue thing is draining.
How is everyone else coping today?!
Need a hug 😓
Sue xx
Jill1998
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Very frustrating , you just want him to be sorted and settled don't you ? I found that they didn't seem to know what they were taking about !! You can do without anything that drains your energy for no good reason at the moment.