So glad your keeping well hun, and living life to the full with having loads to look forward too🤗 me too going on holiday in May can’t wait,
Don’t put my life on hold anymore, does change your way in thinking,
most of the time I’m positive thinking,
but at times do have a blip 😘
Be good to keep in touch xxx
Hi Harps, im good thanks, im glad you are doing well too, its lovely to hear from you, im busy planning a couple of holidays to help take my mind off the dreaded 'c' and trying to get back to normality and hopefully we can see this as a blip in our lives eh! Its not easy to put this behind us but we have come through the ordeal and are both doing well! Take care, keep in touch lovely xx
Thanks Delly. I continue to fight the good fight with a bit of retail therapy a good book and a couple of G&TS 😍🍸❤️
Hi deejay, I am almost 5 years out from DX in 2014 but being on the autism spectrum and naturally anxious, my fear of recurrence hasn't gotten any better! In fact I am a regular on this forum thread as I am always worried or depressed. I have struggled with finding a new normal so to cope I carry on with my 'old' normal as best I can and to hell with it. However there are so many negative stories and 'dos and 'donts' on social media it sends me into meltdown sometimes! I have my annual mammo in June and again it will be squeaky bum time as the what ifs will be racing through mind but I keep the mantra ''his too shall pass' and hope for the best. Sending hugs x
Morning deejay (are you one??)
That's 5yrs final review + 7 - so 12 years clear. Yeh, I totally understand you feeling extra scared from your affected nodes. Fortunately, or unfortunately, whichever way you look at it, all my nodes each side were removed same time as the mastectomies.
Keep using the Forum. You'll get lots of great support when you need it.
Lots of love, Delly xxxxxx
Don't get me wrong, I'm not supercoolwoman and not beyond a wobble sometimes. Something can crop up occasionally, that'll give me a reminder and bring it up to the front again, such as some liver shadows found on a scan, three years ago. Turned out to be quite common darker areas, a bit like birth marks, and nothing to worry about. All that transpired because I was having a few problems with my stomach, which the GP wanted to have checked out thoroughly (bless him). The stomach prob turned out to be a hiatus hernia. But yeh, "shadows"? certainly had me wobbling for a while there, and then any thoughts of C all got quickly put to the back of my mind again.
But there's a difference between being diligent when it's necessary, and worrying about things that aren't there.
Mishy - Yes, of COURSE it is only natural. We've all been through a major massive trauma and shock, that's changed our lives and attitudes. Yearly mammo's and reviews will tend bring it all up again "Am I gonna be clear? Will I ever be able to trust my body again?" etc. I felt huge relief to reach the 5 yr mark and be discharged, 7 yrs ago now, so that's 12 yrs clear.
So I've got a flippin Hiatus Hernia. What else? A progressive hand prob, which personally is way more upsetting to me than no boobs and worrying about BC secondaries, having always been very dexterous, and skillful with my hands. Oh, and supposed Bi-Polar Disorder. Flippin nuisance. (just having a vent).
Took a while to reach this attitude to BC, definitely after year 5 for me. But you will do. Don't let the bleep "rule" the rest of what we do have, with "what ifs". Deal with "What if" - when IF becomes a definite IS!!
I have to say, reading through all your posts on here, you're doing a great job of supporting and bolstering each other up. It's good to share a moan, vent or stomp, experiences, knowledge. Was obviously the founding person's idea behind this wonderful Forum. Whoever it was, deserves a medal, MBE at least.
See you elsewhere if not here.
Lots of love to you all, Delly xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Ps., I'm pretty sure it's in this same section, "Moving Forward . . /Coping With . . . but there's a previous "Are There Any Positive Stories Out There?", that's chackablock full of 'em xxx
Hey Deejay and Harps
I didn't have the same diagnosis. Grade 3, Her+ve for first in 2006, can't even remember what for 2nd, 2007, was more concerned to just survive. Had mastectomies and total axillary clearance to avoid rads, but chemo not required, so I know a big diff there. Both were just before SNB procedure.
However, I'm still here, and I don't let the thoughts of recurrence affect me any more or rule my life. It's a small pea at the back of my head, as opposed to the forefront, hence me replying. It's very easy to, but words from an oldie, try not too get bogged down by all the on-line reports etc. It'll drive you bonkers, when you really just need to get back to LIVING with the "what if nots", rather than the "what ifs"!! Also helps if you have a dilligent GP, who keeps your history upfront and who's all for getting ANY stuff checked out, even if you think it's something or nothing.
Hope thats of some help, despite my dissimilar diag. But good luck to you.
Big Delly hug and loadsa love xxxxxx