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Just diagnosed and wanting to talk to people who understand

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Hi Jill, I am off to the Isle of Wight for 2 weeks so at least I can chill and sleep while the kids play on the beach xxx
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Where are you going on holiday Ange?
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Thank you ladies this b@"()y cancer is not gonna get me!! Still fighting and will continue to do so. One day at a time...... Xxx
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Oh ange sorry to hear this..bstd disease! Glad you have a holiday booked, come back fighting x x x
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Hi Ange. As Jill said, it's the lymph node's job to trap any rogue BC cells so the node clearance will get rid of them. I had full axillary node clearance at the end of June and have recovered really well. Get the op out of the way, then have a fab holiday xx

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Bloody cancer it's a bugger isn't it...how dare it spoil our lives .. I will continue working on universal cancer vaccine so that my employers will be happy and we don't have to go here again...
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Ange sending big hugs to you. You deserve galaxy vodka the whole lot. It's not nice news for anyone but sounds like they are going to get rid very quickly. I'm here if you need to talk about anything I'm not the expert at the moment but start chemo a week Monday so if I can give any tips to help you in advance. Just think about getting your op out way and look forward to your holiday xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Bummer , 2 bars of galaxy needed.As I said to Sarah ,just because it is in your nodes doesn't mean it has gone anywhere beyond it's their job to catch the cancer and stop that.Op next week will get rid of the bugger for good, chemo a precaution ,like rads is for me,stop it coming back .
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Hi all, results were not as good as hoped. Good news the masectomy removed Kylie and Jason plus another one .......... But the snb showed the bugger has spread so I am having a full auxiliary clearance next Tuesday ( another overnight stay in hospital) they are going to take the drains out on the Friday so I can still go on my holiday Smiley Happy then when back and healed chemo it is x need vodka and galaxy now xx
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oh yes! That really is the best way Smiley Happy xxxxxx
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Yep ,then come home for a large box of chocolate sprouts...and vodka...twiglets ...cheddars and galaxy...
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best way. I did xxx
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I'm guessing she has gone to the pub whatever the outcome....don't blame her...
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Hi all How are you today? Anyone heard from Ange? Hoping she got on ok today xxxxxxxx
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Evening all, thinking about you all. Good luck tomorrow Ange🌼🌼

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Exactly!
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That's good, you can work when you feel up to it and rest when you don't.
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I make jewellery as a small business but thankfully my husband earns enough to support us so it is not breadline if I don't earn. I know I am very fortunate.
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Advantages and disadvantages of both I guess.Im guessing if you don't work you don't get paid, or do you have insurance that covers it?
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So glad I am self employed and only have me as a boss!
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So true Smiley Happy xxxxxx
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Yes crazy..so the moral of the story is stay off as long as you can! I intend too. Smiley Wink x
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It's hard to understand sometimes the people that write these policies especially with cancer so you make the effort to go in at the hardest time of your life and then when you need time off to continue your treatment that you would get penalised for it!
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Stupid isn't it. It would make more sense for you to work when u are feeling ok and just use sickness when you need too. Blinking policies. Think I will just see what happens. Only had 3 weeks do far x
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I would be treated differently if I had gone back in too ,it would have been seen as repeated absences rather than long term sick and dealt with in a less sympathetic way.Daft isn't it.
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Same here, full pay for 6 months but don't want me to go back as it means they have to start afresh with fist 10 days self certifying. .something like that. I'm lucky to have no work issues x
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Blinking policies........ They don't seem to have one for ongoing cancer treatment you just end up with lots of reviews because your sickness "has been for too long" "too many instances" it should be tailored to circumstances. Having said that my lot are being OK. I know I can have 6 months full pay but I want to try and work between when I feel fit x
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Funny Jill! X
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I did say the bit about not attending 8 week review as I will be at hospital every day for 3 weeks though ...what useful purpose will that serve,manager said she will talk to her manager....Also said I won't be back until I have properly recovered from rads.She was ok actually,acknowledged they have a one size fits all sickness policy ,but it is "policy".
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What did you say ? Smiley Happy I'm sure we have all had those thoughts of what we want to say Smiley Happy xxxxxx
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Sounds like you put them in their place good for youSmiley Happy xxxxxxx
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Well that's what I wanted to say....
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Good luck Ange x Jill how was work interview? X
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I have only been offered Tuesday Thursday and Friday afternoon appointments. Mainly a Thursday. I still don't know the difference between the HER positive and negative? Both my consultant and oncologist are both foreign and they are lovely but sometimes when you have that information to take in it can be difficult. My mother in law comes with me and takes notes but sometimes she can't understand either. And I've learnt not to google anything. Hope it all went well with your boss Jill xxxx
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Told boss I will work hard on universal cancer vaccine while I am off ....to avoid unnecessary time off in future......Also said I am too busy to attend my. 8 week sickness review due to being at hospital every day for 3 weeks.....said they should go ahead without me and let me know any helpful hints they could come up with to get me back to work sooner.......
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True Jill, but if I think the worse it could be miles better Smiley Happy. How did your visit go? X
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There is much info to gather for them to make an individual treatment plan isn't there.No point in torturing yourself Ange trying to second guess what they will say.
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Hi Sarahd, my consultant does a clinic in the morning with all the tests then he does results in the afternoon and it's only on Wednesdays. Good in a way to start with as Wednesday is my day off xx
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Hi Jill yea the grade 3 one is Er and Her2+. The grade 2 is Er+ but the Her2 status had not come in x
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How did it go with your boss Jill? Sounds like the place I used to work. Why do they only do afternoon appointments? I'm trying to get an appointment with the consultant as they wanted to see me after ct results. They said she is clinic this morning and they will get back to me and I felt like saying why don't you ever offer me a morning appointment! They haven't got back to me! Hopefully it will just be the tablets ange Smiley Happy keep busy in the morning xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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I'm guessing you don't know it is HER positive yet?
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I guess I may be worried if I don't get one of radio/chemo as being a worrier I will worry about it coming back. Maybe I have read too much about grade 3, Her2+ positive cancer Smiley Sad . Let's just see..,.. All speculation by me, I may end up like spongebob and just have tamoxifen Smiley Happy xx
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Yes Ange,you will be disappointed now if you don't get the full Monty!!In some ways throwing everything at is quite comforting.
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Thank you Jo ,I hope I won't need it but I will have a look thanks.
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Well he said they would throw everything at it because of my age do I am gonna hold him to it Smiley Happy Lol!! Plus if I think everything it won't be a shock Smiley Happy ....... See method in my madness Smiley Happy x
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Hi Jill

 

I have put for you below the link to the area of this website where returning to work and the Equality Act 2010 is discussed further.  I hope you find it helpful.

 

If you need further information please don't hesitate to contact our helpline team.  0808 800 6000

 

https://www.breastcancercare.org.uk/information-support/vita-magazine/going-back-work-after-treatmen...

 

Take care,

Jo, Moderator

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She's coming at 3pm.
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You sound like you want to sample everything the NHS has to offer Ange!!!You may as well get your money's worth eh??
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Jill, how has the boss visit gone? Xx
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Hi Jill, it's 20 past 2, he does afternoon results clinic Smiley Happy just holds the suspense a little bit longer xx