Thanks, I have been speaking to a lovely lady called judy in Scarborough,
I feel so lucky to have found this forum to share very scary times with lovely people x
Just found this xxx
absolutely brilliant x I’m day 1 of my chemo ( no surgery yet) but I’m up there trying to find the bear xx
Love this. Agree with all other comments.
I think I’m one of the one’s fleeing a three legged mountain lion, as my smallish lump has been surgically removed without a mastectomy and I’m having to have ‘just’ 4 chemo sessions and radiotherapy. Whilst I fully realise I am lucky as it was discovered really early, it’s still not easy! I’ve just had my second chemo session, so still running up the mountain, I can’t wait to reach the top and find that bear!
Brilliant analogy of just how bc hits us. The idea of finding a mountain lion in the fridge is just so far out there, just the same as the shock of being diagnosed with BC. As for the husband being pedantic and pointing out it's a puma that's what my husband would say. Brought a smile to my face aswell☺.
This is brilliant! Loved the ‘have you tried rubbing with kale’ but. I could relate to most of it except I never got the ‘wow you’re amazing’ bit once they thought it was ‘all over’. Instead I was expected to instantly spring back to how I was before the lion started chasing me, and help others with their stressful lives and when I didn’t/couldn’t, I was told I was being selfish. I never, ever want to be in a position where I need help or care from anyone again, the feeling of obligation and the stress it causes is just too much.
I agree, it should be published. It was written by Caitlin Feeley, originally here:https://somehedgehog.tumblr.com/post/119415185391/cancer-the-mountain-lion-in-your-fridge
Hi everyone, it's a shame this can't be published in a national newspaper, because for all our friends, family and colleagues that think once your hair starts to grow back "you're better"......😏 It might explain to them, it's not that simple. To all the Big-game hunters out there lots of hugs xx
Wow. Just Wow. That just sums it up entirely for me. Thank you. Many hugs on your travels up the mountain. My bear is currently wrestling the lion and some days I feel like I'm teetering on the brink of the cliff edge myself. Good days and bad days. You've just made this day better. XX
funny you should say that, I have never wished to perform but at a college reunion, we had a 'stand up' session. ALthough back then I hadn't any material, later I thought I would like to do this and send a bucket around for BCC
OH that is wonderful! I laughed and cried reading it. Have you thought of a career in stand-up? It was the kale that really got me going - a proper laugh-out-loud moment.
Thanks so much 🙂
What a fantastic story Strawberryblond and thanks for sharing. Yes, this club membership is one which none of us wanted to join but here we are anyway. Personally, I think golf would have been better or maybe a bungee jump would be less scary but life has given us a different challenge to face! 🦁 X
Loving this analogy so much that I am going to share with those that are going through this and also those beautiful people that have helped me along
Love the story, the friends and hubby bit really resonate! I love climbing mountains but definitely not this one.
thanks for sharing Strawbs.
“What’s it like to go through cancer treatment? It’s something like this:
One day, you’re minding your own business, you open the fridge to get some breakfast, and OH MY GOD THERE’S A MOUNTAIN LION IN YOUR FRIDGE.
Wait, what? How? Why is there a mountain lion in your fridge? NO TIME TO EXPLAIN. RUN! THE MOUNTAIN LION WILL KILL YOU! UNLESS YOU FIND SOMETHING EVEN MORE FEROCIOUS TO KILL IT FIRST!
So you take off running, and the mountain lion is right behind you. You know the only thing that can kill a mountain lion is a bear, and the only bear is on top of the mountain, so you better find that bear. You start running up the mountain in hopes of finding the bear. Your friends desperately want to help, but they are powerless against mountain lions, as mountain lions are godless killing machines. But they really want to help, so they’re cheering you on and bringing you paper cups of water and orange slices as you run up the mountain and yelling at the mountain lion - “GET LOST, MOUNTAIN LION, NO ONE LIKES YOU” - and you really appreciate the support, but the mountain lion is still coming.
Also, for some reason, there’s someone in the crowd who’s yelling “that’s not really a mountain lion, it’s a puma” and another person yelling “I read that mountain lions are allergic to kale, have you tried rubbing kale on it?”
As you’re running up the mountain, you see other people fleeing their own mountain lions. Some of the mountain lions seem comparatively wimpy - they’re half grown and only have three legs or whatever, and you think to yourself - why couldn’t I have gotten one of those mountain lions? But then you look over at the people who are fleeing mountain lions the size of a monster truck with huge prehistoric saber fangs, and you feel like an asshole for even thinking that - and besides, who in their right mind would want to fight a mountain lion, even a three-legged one?
Finally, the person closest to you, whose job it is to take care of you - maybe a parent or sibling or best friend or, in my case, my husband - comes barging out of the woods and jumps on the mountain lion, whaling on it and screaming “GODDAMMIT MOUNTAIN LION, STOP TRYING TO EAT MY WIFE,” and the mountain lion punches your husband right in the face. Now your husband (or whatever) is rolling around on the ground clutching his nose, and he’s bought you some time, but you still need to get to the top of the mountain.
Eventually you reach the top, finally, and the bear is there. Waiting. For both of you. You rush right up to the bear, and the bear rushes the mountain lion, but the bear has to go through you to get to the mountain lion, and in doing so, the bear TOTALLY KICKS YOUR ASS, but not before it also punches your husband in the face. And your husband is now staggering around with a black eye and bloody nose, and saying “can I get some help, I’ve been punched in the face by two apex predators and I think my nose is broken,” and all you can say is “I’M KIND OF BUSY IN CASE YOU HADN’T NOTICED I’M FIGHTING A MOUNTAIN LION.”
Then, IF YOU ARE LUCKY, the bear leaps on the mountain lion and they are locked in epic battle until finally the two of them roll off a cliff edge together, and the mountain lion is dead.
Maybe. You’re not sure - it fell off the cliff, but mountain lions are crafty. It could come back at any moment.
And all your friends come running up to you and say “that was amazing! You’re so brave, we’re so proud of you! You didn’t die! That must be a huge relief!”
Meanwhile, you blew out both your knees, you’re having an asthma attack, you twisted your ankle, and also you have been mauled by a bear. And everyone says “boy, you must be excited to walk down the mountain!” And all you can think as you stagger to your feet is “f*ck this mountain, I never wanted to climb it in the first place.”