Oh, Carol, how to reach Delly's heart - post a soppy piccie of a cute, sweet, soft puddycat. You are awful.
Have a wonderful Xmas and New Year yourself too, babe xxxxxx
Just to wish you all a Merry, Happy, Healthy Christmas Eve. Oh and night night from Patch xxxxx
Right - got you Lesley and Charys on todays Lesley worry. Corr - threw me in a right flap. Was just about to jump in car down to Bucks and Hampshire. Crikeybobs
My apologies also, have actually "spoken" with a few peeps today. Thats majorly important, as I've not been able to pick up the phone to either answer its ringing OR pick it up to MAKE a call for such a long time. Tis a very good sign when I'm back in communication. Means I wanna carry on living - yeh - seriously. So it's a very, VERY good sign. It's going to take me a long long time to "trust" mySELF and have much REBUILDING of myself in it all, BUT . . . as you have all sooo seriously realised from my previous and recent communi's, it's been majorly drastic, to say the least. BUT . . there's been a small kinda "shift" in my head - thinking recently. Too early to place bets on, yet. I need to somehow "keep" myself in this "zone" if I CAN, cos I know myself only too well and is all too easy to just go under..
You've ALL been and still are being a HUGE massive influence/help to meee. Soooo, I'm still here. much because of yourselves. Mmmmmm, yeh!! - seriously.
And I Thank You for it. Taaaa soooo very muchly.
Don't ever underestimate the power of this Forum, and it's an AMAZING supportive factor. I've mentioned a number of times - it's been an absolute "life"- line to me, because it truely has, truely in the LITERAL sense of "Life".
Thank You, ALL of YOU
Yeh, Charys - is Deffo the Load/discard option, as to whether it comes up or NOT, then all is lost. Has just happened again and my post lost. Could NOT be retrieved. I'll let Bonita know.
Evening Christmassy ladies
back from a really lovely evening at my sisters and it was fantastic to laugh and laugh. Dad had a few beers and glasses of wine and was having a ball himself. I think we all needed it after the last few months.
By 8.30 though I was so very sore. It's no use wearing a bra for any length of time right now. I'm wearing a really soft non wired one but it still presses on my node scar. I can cope for a while with it (with painkillers) but it's as if someone flicks a switch and the pain and tiredness becomes totally overwhelming, also makes me feel a bit nauseous too.......so home we came. Thankfully hubby was driving (too painful for me since rads). Anyway in through the door, changed in to pj's and off came the bra. Such relief.
Have any of you ladies who are post rads felt like this? How long will this take to settle. I've got dressings still over that scar from the rads team to help protect it a bit and give some cushioning but arghhhhh. 😢
Other than being red raw underneath the boobicle and a peeling nip, both of which are manageable this node scar is the only area that is really causing me any real problem. It's been sore since about day 3 of rads and got worse as it went on. Booooo hooooo
on a cheery note, James Bond is on and I've just watched Daniel Craig in that scene when he walks out of the sea in those little blue shorts. So dreamy!! Lol
hope all of you are ok this evening. Lesley - I'd call someone anyway, even if he is protesting against it. Better to be safe than sorry.
Helena I'm so glad rads was better today. That's four under your belt now!!!! Smashing it lady!
last mission for me this evening is to see whether the flush I had after a largish glass of baileys last night was just a coincidence!! I've NOT had a flush for WEEKS so it was a surprise to say the least. Another poured now to test it out! Fingers crossed lol
finally.....my mother turned up on my doorstep this afternoon but wouldn't come in because of.......you guessed it........germs. She just wanted to hand over Christmas presents so I did the same back. Then she was off. Wonder if it's germs from her, or her picking germs up from us? She did the same with my sister apparently too. Bless her, she is unique.
Lots of of love to you all on this Christmas Eve Eve night
Just thought id better check in, don't want to spoil anyone's evening, you've all got enough going on at it is. Himself is in bed. He has eaten his dinner which is good as he doesen't have much of an appetite at the best of times. Still not well but not as pale. Will not go to the hospital, will not let me ring anyone, but I'm not as concerned as I was earlier though still not completely happy. If he's not right in the morning I'm calling a taxi and taking him whatever he says, told him that.
Thank you for your concern. Enjoy your evenings one and all xx
HaHaHaflippinHaaaaaaa xxxx Oooo, wish to delete my prev message, as I'm now catching on to faaaar more major, serious going on here with some of you. Need desperately to catch up you. xxxxxxx
Darlin-Dizzy - again. Just went further back in your posts to me. Sweetheart, she was totally justified in her thinking and reaction to me. I can/could see all of why she reacted such a way, because I know/knew how my behaviour could have come across. I was there and am able to self analyze my behaviour. You and ALL of you are simply being lovey and protective, but I still think Poor Woman. BUT, albeit a bit extreme in recent reactions. Lot of it with me is simply FRUSTRATION. However, think I was just wanting to express my "shock" to it all. Not necessarily wanting/wishing a reaction. Thanks though, you're all absolute sweetiepies. Think you should all just come sort me out. - Yes pleeeeease.
Dizzy - we've had private chats/conversations. I very much apprec and understand your way of thinking, on a par with. Please at least attempt to get your "differences" with your bruv sorted. Same for you Helena.
Diizzy-Darlin - it soooo saddens me your bruvs lack of acknowledgement. Not once did my bruv contact me through my two yrs of having bloody boobs cut off and recovery. No "'Eck Adele, I'm soooo sorry about your health probs and it's effects on you/life". It Hurt . . . BADLY. But, I don't think he could cope on top of his own "stuff" at the time. Took me a while, not having been in touch very well for a while, that. . . . and took me a while to just fllllippin forgive his MISGIVINGS basically. Plus the fact he was a "bloke"!!, less sensitive n all that. Fact IS, he's not here any more to want/wish to be able to do anything about. GONE - forever. My cousin, who'd been like a "sister" at times throughout our lives, had she EVER realised and acknowledged the damaging impact of saying to me "I blame YOU for what your brother did" and APOLOGISED for it, I'd have looked on it completely differently and not felt it necessary to just have to cut her out of my life, BECAUSE of.her and the dire damaging affect it had.
I would meet her part way HAD she done.
Whole point of me wittering on at you about ALL of THIS, is that all of these gawd awful losses tend to make you think and see very differently. Try and get those differences discussed and SORTED out - however PAINFUL or upsetting it may be to. Nothing lost in TRYING. Because, once they're GONE, they're GONE and it's too flippin late then. And you're left with a whole load of what ifs and regrets. And it then becomes a kind of torture!!
Hope this hits home to some of you who've mentioned your various family difficulties. Am only speaking from a horrible sadness of not addressing such with my bruv. Breaks you're heart, even if you aren't/weren't particularly close. Please DO attempt to SORT IT. If nothing results, then at least you've tried. But, then again, it still won't be enough. I tried and tried - nuthin/Nada. But it still gets to me!!!!
Sorry, just had to get all that out.
Of course we know what you mean, darling Delly. We get down to the real truths on here, as well as the nice pictures. It's been brilliant to be left to talk on here about anything, and know that everyone understands, and to hear that other people have the same fears and worries.
Sending love and hugs your way, you sound like you need it tonight.
Sorry Delly, I didn't mean it to sound even slightly like she was justified, just that maybe she isn't thinking straight. She should have been reassured by your letter, there isn't any need for her to be like that. Anyway, as you say, it's something to put down to experience and leave behind. She probably has plenty of issues of her own.
Awwwww, i'm soo soo lovin all your cat pics. D'ya know what gets me sometimes with people and families??? Now that I'm back to picking up the phone and contacting people. how bloody easy it is to forget the IMPORTANCES. I just spent an hour chatting/catching up with/on with my "Step" Uncle, my fellow BIRTHDAY boy, yes the very same day. That poor man had his leg amputated last Christmas, in his early 80's. I have so much more compassion/admiration for HIM, than I do most other people. I can't be doin with what I call the "superficialities" of life or "superficial" people any more. I know you lot on here actually KNOW what I'm talking about there?? Yes????
Lesley, just looked back to your post re the chest pains...I think I would be ringing for an ambulance. I know I'm a worryguts, but you could be a long time wishing you had. It's not easy if he's digging his heels in, but if he already has a history... Anyway, I hope all is well.
Dizzy-darlin - yes, exactly - vulnerable. All the more reason my letter would have fllllippin explained my NO FURTHER CONTACT, UNless she wished to contact me. Shame, she obviouslt hasn't read it. Saddest thing for me is that she isn't the only person to have TOTALLY misunderstood my behaviour, espesh when I'm in an "upper"/hyper state. Othe people meeting me, for 1st time when I've been in one, have remarked. Even people that know me well. And the WHOLE point me taking the time nad considerable EFFORT to write DAMNED said letter in the first place. Totally UNjustified misunderstanding. However - I've tried and, in actual fact, just made it worse. So . . . now written off as yet another totally frustrating experience FULLSTOP. I shall contact the said Dating site, change my name and profile slightly and see what that then brings. Thank You ALL
Yes, Moijan, I can't keep up either!
Anyway, just popping in & as we're onto cats, here's one of my lovely Leo.
Have a wonderful xmas everyone & loads of very best wishes for 2017 🍾
Hi everyone, just checking back in. Finally the errant son has arrived from Schipol, delay was caused by them doing a full body search of every passenger, even down to hands inside the jeans. So it needed about four hours instead of two to get through all the formalities. So finally everyone is assembled.
Delly, your lady sounds over the top, but I wonder if she's scared herself a bit? She too has broken all the rules about meeting in a public place. Does she know your address? We can joke about bunny boilers, but she's probably worked herself up and adding two and two to make twenty, and maybe feeling quite vulnerable.
It doesn't excuse the over reaction, but it might explain it a bit.
Helena, I'm so glad you had a better experience today, and now you can relax for the holiday.
Everyone else, hope you're all well, pain free and flush free, and having a good evening.
Nothing really..Charys, ...... but actually, I dont think I could cope with this thread full time!,😃😂
(have just seen Cla....had some mainecoons too...luvverly)
I know everyone will agree here....animals are even better at loving us than human beings....loyal souls who dont judge us....just love usxx
Delly pick yourself up, dust yourself off and heres a hug from mexx👨❤️👨
am off to a mulled wine doxxx
Here Moijan ! Have I missed something ? You aren't trespassing AT ALL.....you are most welcome to join the crew.
Okayyyy, just seen (on pc now, not phone), you left me a PM. Have replied.
There's no territory here honestly, well occasionally a few ur**e leakages take place (I won't name the culprits so publically, even though they've already named themselves)....but don't let that put you off. They aren't deliberate territory marking, but loss of bladder control LOL
this isnt my territory, im trespassing....but was trying to track down the illustrious, but unreachable, Charys, and spotted lovely Patch!
What an adorable cat....do you think he might have a little bit of the 'upper class' in him? He looks as if he has a lovely ruff...I had a beautiful rescued maine **bleep** with a similar ruff, once! MaineCoon....no bleeps!
Keep toasting - 'up yours' everyone, and have a great Christmas..
Well now there then Wonderwomen,
Still haven't caught up, but have decided not to allow it to stress me, as I always have the more peaceful late night shift to go onto. Yeh, Yeh, I DO appreciate your thoughts and to bolster me up. BUT . . . I also recognise and consider her side of things. Is just the way I am - I always prefer to try and examine/ananlyse BOTH sides to the story / argument/ disagreement - without being judgemental AGAINST. But . . Thank You all for your, what is basically . . . "don't let it get you down Delly and please keep on trying" ENCOURAGEMENT. THAT Means a great deal to me, can't tell you. Helena keeps saying the SAME thing - "Don't know what I'd do sometimes without you lot of such wonderful women on here to "harp" on to" and just basically HAVE there. It's HUGE. MASSIVE, SUPPORT. And all the more reason to have an eventual MEET. But it has to have lots of HUGS and silly dancing !!! xxxxxxxx
Oh Lorac, I soooo need to get myself another puss, form having looked at your pussy photo. Praps just forget my thoughta of a partner - just stick to the feline kind !!!! Awwwww - Beeeeeautifullll !!! xxxxx
Not long come round from meds and what a lot has been happening, both on here and here (like out and out out). Himself is in bed with chest pains, won't go to hospital, says he'll wait until after Christmas. Last time he was like this was when I was convalescing in Wales early Septmber and in ended up in the heart ward for four days. No reasoning with him so given up. Friends daughter still I. Labour after being induced yesterday poor thing.
Delly, can't believe that woman! As everyone here has already said, she's got a big problem, think youve had a lucky escape!
All those pics of beautiful cats. I'm a dog person myself though did once have a cat called Chopper Wilberforce who I loved dearly. I left him with the parents when I left home and he lived to a ripe old age.
Now I pain free though woozy I could just eat a slice of that Bakewell tart Beth. Nothing sweet in the house except box of Quality Street young couple from next door dropped off when they asked us the keep an eye on their house while they're away over Christmas.
Saw mention of Alan Rickman, He must have lived quite near here as he always used to be in the parade when they turned the Christmas lights on, and though I never saw him personally he was often spotted drinking coffee sitting outside Costa in the high street.
Logging off now, eyes had enough. Catch you all later xx
i think her response says far more about her personality than yours!! What a way to react! I appreciate it didn't to plan on the day but her response shows a complete lack of compassion.
Youve still got all of us on here!!!!
Of course your advice re photo helped Charys, there was I taking all the credit. back through the catflap for me.
So, Scruffy is one of those cats who you buy nice beds for and he choses.....piles of washing...etc. He looks like a big boy...is he?
Hello Patch, you're a handsome fellow .... my mummy didn't get me an advent calendar, I'm not happy with her at all. Think I'll leave her a little message behind the cupboard!! Purrs Ruby xxx
17!!!! No way does he look 17! He (sorry Patch, called you a SHE earlier, well it was a 50/50 wasnt it) . Carol you get extra marks for posting a Christmas related cat image
CAROL !!!! Wonderful picture. My doggies have advent calendars too. 'She' ? Has such special unusual markings.
Errrm Delly......WHAT ON EARTH ???? I don't get it, seems a tad of an over reaction. I mean I know it was disaster date and all that, but taking someone a letter of apology and having a text back like that? All seems a bit odd. Call the police and say what exactly....someone dropped me round a letter of apology after a bad date? I know you say that you 'behaved a bit oddly' due to some anxiety, but eerrr.....did she seem normal?? LOL
Before I get down to catching up with you, have just received an upsetting text from Date-woman. Any further contact and she'll call the police!!!!
Awwwwww, don't think she'd even read my letter of explanation. "Items will be returned later today"!! Doesn't even know my house etc., guess she'll recognise my car. What a nasty turn of events. That'll teach me to never ever sway from my original date plan of meet up at a restaurant first. Poor woman. And I'd clearly said in my letter - no agenda behind, no expectations. I shalln't be contacting her again, but should she ever wish to, that it would be okay. UUUMPH, well and TRUELY blown and cocked that one up girls. Have to put it behind me as a written off disastrous experience and LEARN from it the HARD way, as I always seem to have throughout my life !!!!