Oh mate that is fantastic news, think a BIG celebration is in order tonight for you my dear. Best news today xxxx
the phone rang this afternoon and it was my BCN. My heart sank when I heard her voice. She said that my consultant had asked her to phone me so i wasn’t waiting for a letter with my results. EVERYTHING IS FINE!!!
She said the pathology showed that the lump was due to changes in the skin structure following radiotherapy and that it was just unfortunate that it had formed a perfect large pea shaped lump.
I am so very relieved and burst in to tears when I came off the phone to her.
onwards and upwards again now!
Thanks Janey, Delly and Beth for the advice re the plantas nasty,
This morning they weren’t as painful when I got up as usual, thinking down to the rolling of tins of beans several times yesterday, got more painful as day goes on. Ordered those insole hobbies and going to try Beths exercises. The great news is that you told me it can go away, I was worrying that is was a permanent condition.
Grey and gloomy day here though the sun did make a brave attempt this afternoon.
Fee, so glad your gp has been of some help though not totally reassured you. Hope you enjoy your pampering session and you make some nice friends you can get support from and offer support to.
i feel your pain in your feet!
I had that plantur thing about two years ago and boy it can be painful. Hubby has had it too. I saw a podiatrist once a week in the end and he (lovely man lol) massaged my foot and did some ultrasound on it. He also gave me some exercises to do which in the main were to stretch out the calf which he said was the starting point of the heel pain. Standing on the bottom stair with your heels over the edge and then slowly lowering yourself down so your heels were lower than the top of the stair (does that make sense?) and doing it for or five times twice a day. Also going up on to tip toe slowly - I did it while brushing my teeth so I could balance on the sink lol. Have you got any of those tumble drier balls? The spikey ones that help dry clothes quicker? They’re great for rolling around under your feet too. Also, if you can stretch your calf before you get out of bed, it really does help. Just pull your toes back gently before you get up.
It took about 7months for it to go completely so it was a while........and all happened because I slipped in flip flops on holiday 😎
hope you find some relief from it! Xxx
i missed your birthday!! I’m very sorry lovely..
HAPPY BIRTHDAY for yesterday my friend. Hope you had a good day and are feeeling well rested today
big hugs to you lovely xxx
Clair - scarf colour wise, I'm very much a blue person, strong blues beyond powder but below navy, coral pinks good also, but blue matches my eyes. Shall sit and wait in anticipation.
Droll Janey - AyYey!! to employers ever considering menopause!! They'd lose half their employees. Hope your swede cabbage and sprout concoction didn't go anywhere near an open flame!! No need for anyone to feed the gas meter with a £2 coin then!! (don't do it - Arrrrrgh!!!!). Just put in Janeys Camper trip funds. Yerrrr Nice.
Lush - heels. Difficult to diagnose from the page, no. of reasons for heel pain. Could very well be plantar fasciitis? Gives a pain that is generally immediately just in front of your heel area. Combination of anti inflamms + insoles to help support your arches and take strain off that area would be my prescription. If it's directly over your heel, could be simply down to your natural fatty padding dimishing and so try gel heel pads in your boots. Lot depends on how it feels in the morning, when you first step down onto your foot, and whether it progresses or lessens as the day goes on. If you don't waanna see a Podiatrist, you can buy "general"insoles (i.e. non prescription ones made specifically for you by a Pod) at Boots, to put in yer boots!! and see how you go on.
I'm very touched to see Carolyn and Bluelayla here also, giving me Birthday wishes. Thank You. Hope you get your backsides onto this thread more often girls. It can only do you GOOD.
Much luvvo from me xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Just look at all those kisses!!
Awwwwwww shucks, Girls,
I'm so bowled over with your flowers, cakes (Ruby, how on earth did you get my name on that cake!! You never cease to amaze me with your piccies!!!!) and all of your Oh so loving birthday wishes/messages. Sorry that I'm so late coming on to receive them. My friend cancelled yesterday, for today, due to flu. But it was just as well, as I was zonked out till 4 pm!! from 12 last night, with these meds, that I've finally given in to giving a proper try. Started Thurs night. Maybe I should have chosen a better time to decide to, but didn't think about timing, and certainly didn't think they'd hit me so hard on the Zzzzz factor. Even such a low dose. Sooooo, I missed most of the day !! But, even so, since waking up, have opened cards and had calls and chats, and opened a parcel of goodies from my bessie. I'm feeling very loved up with all of yous and others. THANK YOU ALL SOOO MUCH - means so much.
Just wanted to get that out to you all before attempting to catch up on other happeneings.
Love to you alllllllll xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Many happy returns of the day darling Delly Delicious, sorry I’m a bit late xx
Janey, I have googled that plantis thingy and it’s def sounds like it, I have been roll8ng tins of beans under my feet and it does seem to help. But I really do not want to stop walking, does it go away in time, or is it something I’ve got for ever? Xx
Evening gorgeous Willows,
quick pop in as busy day tomorrow, so many happy returns of the day for then Delly Delicious, hope you manage to get out and do something nice. Think we’re all the same, still feel 21 in our heads and 70 some days in our poor bodies. Managed to clock up 9 miles today but my poor heels are now causing me a real problem, used to only cause me pain when I actually stopped walking and removed my boots, now they’re Painful when I’m walking, so annoyed as I do enjoy walking, it’s the only exercise I get and I love it, so hoping it’s not go8ng to be taken away from me. Trying rolling tins of beans under my feet as I’m watching telly as recommended on internet.
Good luck with the job application Beth and well done with the weight loss, you are insperational.
Hope you’re all enjoying your weekends xx
Evening oh fluffy ones! Beth you are a complete star and so impressed with that weightloss, good luck as well with possible new job, 2018 is going to be a good year.
Very grateful to have got through to Saturday, work is wiping me out, but I'm managing to keep anxiety at bay. A lovely moochy day of housework, getting excited about the arrival of seed potatoes and a pot luck supper of everything I could find in the fridge - I just hope my creativity tastes good - although I should at this point add I could mainly find swede, cabbage and sprouts languishing! I even had a good hour with the paper and there was an interesting article about effects of menopause being given consideration by employers - not sure that will happen but at least it's being spoken about.
Looking forward to a lazier Sunday and back to face time with my sister. Ann your plans sound good. We are planning lots of camper trips this year, but saving up now for Australia in a couple of years. I have a £2 coin unbreakable piggy bank and am feeling reassured that it's starting to feel heavy after 3 years of snaffling any £2 coin I could find. A friend filled hers right to point no more coins would go in before she smashed hers and had about £700 in there.
Anyway, as the house is now smelling a little sulphuric, I'd better sign off and get on with my creation. Love to all xx
Hiya, I have been finishing off a cross stitch birthday card for a friend, watching indoor bowls (well theres a surprise!!) and doing my ironing so a busy little day xxx
Hope you are ok xxx
Evening fluffilisciouslies !
Hey Fee - Glad you took up the nudge and good to see you dipping in and posting more often on here. As you've already found, we will try to help in whatever way poss - patch up your big pants when they develop holes!!! Sometimes people can feel a bit awkward "breaking" into a long standing thread, but I hope you now don't. Yeh, do have a good vent, it does do you good, whatever stage you or we're at. Nobody's gonna judge you. I lost both my boobs, didn't need rads or chemo, so I'm a bit ignorant there. Doesn't stop me being compassionate or sympathetic to any of you that have tho', and from educating myself to. Hope you get some answers to your head lumps at the docs today, and counselling.
BethyBoo - Yey on the booby news, lymphoedema AND weightloss.Sooo glad you've healed well. ooOOoo, good luck with the job application then.
Thanks Janey. I'll have a serious think on what it actually is I'm wanting to ask!?? Glad you're doing better. Did you find out what's causing your vertigo?
Hope your heels settle down Lush. I was looking at a load of crocus bulbs coming up in the park today too, and I too am always oh so glad to see the days gradually lenghthening. Hope your friend's doing okay with her "outing".
Ann - Glad you haven't disappointed. Thailand's somewhere I'd like to go. Would imagine Feb's a good time to. What are you meaning about the Royhingya people? You'll have to forgive and excuse my ignorance - I don't watch the news very often.
Helena - Are you and Colins' tums fully recovered now? Was having a look at Belle's Kofkas, made to your recipe, on the "Need a kick up the bum" thread. Look Yummeeeee
It's my birthday on Sunday. 59!!! - bloomin 'eck,where's the last 20 yrs gone. Feel like 16 in my head, going on 70 in my body some days, think I still look 36 till I look in the mirror!, so I try not to look in it too often!!! Going to look at a gallery at Birkenhead with a friend, for a short walk by the sea (feet and weather permitting) on the West Wirral coast and lunch at a favourite restaurant that has a beautiful view, overlooking the Dee estuary to Wales, Flintshire, with a distant glimpse of Snowden in the background. Hope the weather's good.
Nitey, nitey. xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Just a quick dip in tonight, been reading all your posts and sending you all hugs
how is everyone?
all been happening at this end. I’ve had the stitches out and the nurse said it looked like it had healed well. Still have a dressing on until tomorrow so I’ll be able to have a look at it after a shower in the morning. Not bothered at all at yet another scar but I want to see what it looks like!
had lymphedema clinic today and everything was good. All the measurements taken to day show my arm has now stayed within normal ranges for 6 months so the daily massages are working. They’ve discharged me from their care now and don’t need to see me again, but I must continue with the daily routine that I have developed. It feels like another milestone has been achieved and I was so happy driving home. Such a relief. All I need now is the results to be good from this lump and I will be well and truly on my way.
Weight loss going well and lost 6lb this week. I’ve walked and walked and walked and I think that has given me the boost I needed to get rid of the Christmas gain. 3st, 4.5 now. Happy days.
Ive also applied for a job! No pressure to get it so we shall see what happens! Admin work in a local solicitors office. Lovely environment so fingers crossed.
Hoep everyone is ok, sending hugs to yOu all xxx
like Janey, sorry for absence,life is just so busy at the moment, so many things in the diary, so nice, some not so nice.
Just read Fee’s posts, Fee, I finished rads over 18 months ago, my boob was tender and I got twinges/stabbing pains daily for almost a year, I still get them occasionally now though not as often. I only have been able to wear my “normal” underwired bras the last couple of weeks, and then only for a few hours so it does take a long time for some of us. The anxiety never goes away and posting on here reassures you as you realise that you’re not alone, we all feel the same, some days it overwhelms you, others you’re fine. Do look into counselling, it helps.
Think I need to follow Beths lead and join a fat club, Ive gone from trying to put on weight to gaining too much, everything is too tight and uncomfirtable and looks awful. Think I just need to get moving more but now developed a problem with painful heels after walking, I’m ok while I’m walking but as soon as i get back and take my boots off I’m hobbling around in pain for a couple of hours, this ageing lark isn’t fun.
The evenings are getting lighter, my snowdrops are in bud and walking on Saturday I even came across some daffs actually in bloom in a sheltered spot in in the park, feeling Spring is getting nearer xx
Hello fluffy ones. Sorry for being a slacker on here, but thinking of you all lots. Doing okay with work and shortened week, but it is taking all my energy. Delly, it's fine to PM anytime, I'm not being very good on here but promise to answer. Fee, I think it was about 6 months post op I suddenly started to have some pain and was reassured on here and by BCN it was nerves repairing, as my body healed. I was horribly worried but the pain has now gone, other than the very odd twinge. I'm about 18 months on now.
So glad you are feeling better Helena and Lesley hope you're okay out there in the virtual ether. Not going to name check all of you, as I get myself in a tizz, but sending love and hugs xx
I still occasionally get twinges and I finished rads 12 months ago, so it is still quite early days for you. It might be worth giving what ann says a try in gently massaging the area, also you could give your bcn a call and see if there is anything she could suggest that might help. The other thing to bear in mind is that you need to get used to the way your breast feels now so that if there is anything unusual you can get it checked out with your bcn. I know its scary and we canall relate to that fear, but it is worth getting to know your breat post rads anyway.
Let us know how you get on tomorrow at the docs, the lumps sound really annoying and for peace of mind it is always worth just getting things checked out.
I and the other ladies are always here for you whenever you need us
Oh bless you, we are much better tonight and have had dinner so everything seems ok again, I am wondering if it was the pie that we had on Monday night as that was the only thing we had the same on that night.
I think a good nights sleep tonight will be a big help xxxx
Hey never worry about ranting on here thats we we are all about, we know exactly what you are going through and how you are feeling.
How long has it been since you finished rads now?
The fear of every ache and pain being something more than just that does get better with time mate. I think it is a good idea to get some counselling, I found it very therapeutic because I was talking to someone who didnt know me and who I was not going to upset by being honest about how I was feeling, so go for it.
Those big pants come in useful some days dont they. Please do not feel guilty at all you have no need to,
Just come on here whenever you need to and we will always be here for you
Sending you loads of hugs
oh thank you, just a bit tired because of course not slept much in the two nights.
How are you doing xxxx
Sorry I have been absent for a day or so, but not sure if it was a bug or something we ate but both of us have been a bit "off" if you know what I mean since Monday. Feeling much better today but it has taken it out of me a bit so rather tired.
Hope everyone is well
Delly, the beach walks depend on how energetic we feel, and the weather. Most of the coast path is very steep and muddy, so you have to be equipped and enthusiastic if you're going to tackle it.
The other day was sunny but a biting wind, so we went to Tyneham, which is a ruined village which was requisitioned by the army in the last war, and never given back. You can still go into the school and see all the children's work. From there, there are some lovely walks, we only went to the beach at Warbarrow, along quite a sheltered path, and not very far. The longer walks are very steep and muddy. We have to keep Daisy on a lead because the army use the land for tank shelling, so you have to keep between the posts in case of stray shells. Though once there was a herd of cows on the path, we had to choose between going straight through the middle of them or risking the shells round the outside. And to be honest, the shells seemed vanishingly unlikely so we went round. I've never heard of the cows getting blown up...
We don't often walk at Studland, it's flat but I hate trudging through sand, we're much more likely to be walking along the cliffs than actually down on a beach. The beach is for watching Daisy swim in summer, most often at Lulworth Cove.
The sun has suddenly come out here after a very grey start, so talking of walks, I'd better get my boots and go...
Rubes - I was so hoping your absence was for good reasons and not bad, so I'm glad to find it was good ones. Missed you, catwoman. So your happy for your royalties to be paid in the alcoholic liquid kind? Good, that's official then. Did you have a lovely Xmas and New Year? as you didn't say much about it, except that it was very busy. Is your ironing cat available to hire for other household chores to order?
Zoe - Was very glad to hear you sounding and feeling more up. Hope you still are.
Dizzy and Clair - Was thinking about you both last night, whilst watching Julia Bradbury's favourite walk - Studland to Old Harry rocks. One of my favourites too, except to Swanage and then bus back to the Sanbanks ferry. Clair, am hoping you're feeling recharged at work from your break. What's your little garden project then? How are you both now physically, boob and lymphoedema wise? Dizzy, I could do to swop appetites. I'm the opposite of a comfort eater. Which beach do you tend to go to for a walk?
Hi Ann - Have you got your next holiday lined up yet? Don't disappoint me.
Helena - Crikey bobs to the cooking marathon! Smells wonderful. Don't think I didn't notice the venison! I let you off as it's not Xmas!
Hi to everyone else bobbing in.
Better go - sleeps up the shoot again.
Loadsa love to you all, Dellypoos xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Helloooo Gorgeously Lurrrrvely Fluffy Poppits
Apols for my absence - down to mental battles again.
So many Panettone girls!!! - Wo' yer like! What would you be eating or tempted by before Panettone? That's the question??
Firstly FEE and Corrina - How lovely to see you both again. Thank you for your wishes. A very Happy New Year to you too. Please do pop on more often - I get bored with this lot on here (only teasing girls. Not ever Never! Honest!), but you're always so welcome.
BethyBoo - So what was(?) your motivation to lose weight? You haven't said. But if you could let me know, we could start bottling it - add it to the Not-So-Fast Ruby Liquer Gin bizz. Brill you've lost the 3 lbs the Christmas pud, mince pies and other sweetmeats plus the extra strong Slow (spelling intended!) gin put on over the Xmas period. Note - I've not mentioned the turkey dinner! that's pretty harmless. Hope your boob's doing well, is it?
Janey - Shades of lovely memories of, but a cold - Chimchiminee Chimchiminee, Chim Chim Cheree then. Awwww to your emotional reunion with your Sisses and separation again until? Sounds like you had a great time. You over your nasty cold/flu bug now and do you know what's been causing your vertigo? An inner ear infection, Meniere's or something other? Do ya think I could have a chat with you by pm, Janey, and also please ask some advice from your mental health friend - would that be okay?
LushyLesley - I can sooo relate to your friends late but much needed "epiphany" and "coming out". Sounds sooo similar to my own experiences. I'd previously "outed" myself as being "Bi" (half way, but realised I was still kidding myself!!!) to a chosen few at 30 but not as gay until 37, which included my Mum (who'd had her suspicions). Then not openly or freely until I had to give up my practice at 45!! Had always kept it quiet from my patients for fear of jeapordising my business. It's not easy. Also, bear in mind - we're a minority, therefore the chances of meeting the "right" woman are slimmer/fewer. Plus, we more "feminine" gay women, don't wear the stereo-typical badge or uniform (no offence to any other gay women), so aren't so obvious to attract the attention of other gay women. I still get chatted up by men, which is still always very flattering, but not the required or desired sex!! But I do agree with everyone else - I don't see the harm or need to keep it secret from your hubby (are they ever likely to meet anyway?). Just don't let her know until she's more comfortable with her new skin, so to speak. I'm wishing I was 10-15 yrs younger, I'd give you my number to give to her! Could possibly have been a first Fluffies romance! Wedding with fluffy hats, followed later by cat babies! oooOOooo
Gonna break off and break up a long text xxxxxxxx
Panettone is my worst sin over Christmas, it's a good job they don't sell it the rest of the year. And I like mine with lots of butter, which is even worse. But I've been through the cupboards and got rid of anything tempting, except the chocolates which will keep till Easter when the house will be full again. I keep putting off booking those blood tests till I've undone some of the damage I've done over the last few weeks.
Happy new year Fee! Helena, please can you consider a new career - food by post?! I'm still swoony (OH still feeling impressed with what he thinks is his influence!) but enjoying my Monday off, even though I'm cold because chimney sweep is laden with crows nest and in and out of the front door - actually, isn't that supposed to be lucky?! Beth, please start up your own weight loss motivation business!! I am eyeing up a panettone right now! Much love oh fluffy ones xx
Hi Fee, thanks for your good wishes, and the same to you. Hope you're doing well with your treatment and have found some good company for this journey.
And it will do an infinitely better job of it than I do.
Ho very dare there be people in your pool, get the cat to see them off 🙂
I must arrange to go on one this year, there were a couple last year but the days did not fit in with my diary.
Might even be able to do delivery if I can sort out a little freezer in my car so that they dont defrost before I get to you 🙂 🙂
Its a lot of hard work initially but it does pay off when I can take a container of it out of the freezer and just reheat it in the evening, plus it always tastes soooo much better than on the day it is cooked. ALso I know exactly what has gone in it. The big treat is that we get two giant yorkshire puddings and the beef casserole goes inside them, lovely.
Mind you I could have done with two slow cookers today, we thought we still had our old one but then remembered we gave it to my brother last year when he moved into his flat.
Huggles and cwtches right back at you xxxx