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Re: Babies and other people getting pregnant

Hi Goldie

so sorry you are feeling like this

i think the desire for a baby is such a strong pull, especially if you feel that time is marching on

my bc has come after my kids were born, but I have still mourned the loss of choice

i think you should speak to someone about your options, I would hope those professionals involved in your care would appreciate how you are feeling and be constructive. you have time still but you also need to be and stay well

take care



Re: Babies and other people getting pregnant

Thanks Lizzie xx


Re: Babies and other people getting pregnant

Hi Goldie112, 


I am sorry that you are going through this difficult time and I am sure other users will be along to offer their support soon.


In the meantime please do call our helpline at 0808 800 6000 who will be able to talk to you about what you have been feeling and offer a friendly ear. The opening hours are below.


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Babies and other people getting pregnant

Hi all
I just wanted to talk to someone who might understand how I was feeling.
I was 36 when diagnosed and hadn't started a family. I was really lucky to have the opportunity to save some eggs before I started chemo. It's nearly five years on now (hurrah) and other than the depressing reminder that is lymphoedema, the joys of tamoxifen and a monthly zoladex injection I'm fully functioning (ish).

One of my very good friends who has been trying for kids for ages has just told me they're pregnant.

I'm truly happy for them. But it also makes me a bit sad for me. And makes me question whether I should come off my treatment and try for a baby...

But then I think - unknown risks, advanced age, should i just be happy with the hand that has been dealt me?

I'm in a perpetual dilemma and it's just not going away. And I think people who haven't been through it think 'just have a baby'... And that I can't want it enough..

Also i dont want to be someone who can't be happy for other people's happiness.

Sorry for going on xxxx