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So sorry everyone having alarms and excursions..  Hope your tummy is better today JCJ. Lawks, Katy, Mum falls over, ED having troubles and GS not well. all worrying.....and tea all over the floor.....yes, there are worse things.  On the bright side, glad you enjoyed tea with GD.

 

Down here, SIL's Mother (in a home 93 yrs old) has been moved onto end of life care.  There is, according to the Drs., something wrong with her digestive tract (she can't eat and is being sick every time she tries). Drs. wanted to put a camera down, she refused to have it done. so palliative care only. So hard on SIL .

 

Eldest GD diagnosed with depression, now on anti depressants,  I'm trying to help her too.  She sees her Mum as "that's what Mum's say" but seems to see me as an Oracle.  Help!

 

Haircut today, faced the mirror, and now looking better.

 

 

 

 

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Hope your tummy is holding out JCJ and you have managed your swim tonightSmiley Happy

GS is improving, is a little brighter, looks a little better, he's very needy as he obviously still feels yuckety yuck, so YD has banned all visitors until at least the middle of next week, whew! We were all terribly anxious but are calming down a bit now.

Went out for tea with GD tonight, we had a lovely time and spoke about X present, so pleased as instead of money she has decided she would like a ring, came home and ring is duly ordered, woo hoo! I am happy because I would rather still give her an actual gift.

YD was making tea when I arrived home she dropped the whole lot all over the floor and cooker, what a mess!!! Just shrugged my shoulders and smiled, there are worse things.................

Had afternoon meeting regarding care home fees etc, only lasted around half an hour so that is the almost final thing that had to be organised for Mum.

ED's baby is due in Jan so still a while to go yet. xx

 

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Oh good grief, Katy! It never ends?! I hope GS is ok. When is next GC due? I hope it's not too long - sounds very ouchy for ED! I've heard of "glue ear" but I think that's something different to mum's experience? Smiley Tongue

 

Stomach much better today - never got to the dashing to the loo stage; just "am I hungry or do I feel sick?" stage. Hope it continues to stay better: too much to do to be ill!

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Thumpy head much better now, BUT am on the "really????" bench................

Mum fell last night and split her ear open, after a long wait she has had things glued together again.

Baby GS was supposed to have his first immunisation today, couldn't be done as he had started coughing and sneezing, phoned health visitor and then doc, saw a doc and he was rushed down to other city hospital, gone straight into chest. Airways cleared, bloods taken, results good, was supposed to stay overnight but so many children in ward with contagious things going on they thought it would be safer for him to be at home, so an anxious night ahead. ED was also at hospital, her muscles have split because baby is lying hammock style and very low, so they will keep an eye on her.

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Hope your tummy is improving JCJ, so many bugs at this time of year!!!

Hope you also manage to keep knitting without having to run to loo too often xx

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Hope your thumpy head is better now, Katy, and everything crossed that they DO open up a lido ward in your city. That would make life sooo much easier?!

 

Don't knock it until you've tried it: muesli with the addition of chocolate peanuts (or chocolate peanuts & raisins) = delish.

 

Had a dodgy stomach for the last 24 hours - reminiscent of 3 years ago, but I think it's probably the bug that's doing the rounds at school (some schools in the area are actually closed because of it!) Managed to stagger around S*******y's tonight and I've got most of the Christmas shopping in - just in case we don't go again before the big day (3-weekly shop would be Christmas day itself!!) There's the fresh fruit & veg to get, obviously, but we can pick that up from the farm shop when we collect the turkey.

 

Now I'm frantically knitting Christmas tree decorations for my stall at the school Christmas Fair on Saturday. Received our first Christmas card yesterday and I haven't even started making mine yet! I seem to leave it later and later every year!!

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Choc peanuts and muesli?????????Mince pies and choc peanuts????????

Hope all went well and you had a lovely time with daughterSmiley Happy

Yes FF I am persevering, still half and half or maybe slightly less, have purchased a few and when I was sorting Mum's house I lost 2 yes 2 of them, men who were clearing found one of them. I spend half my days searching for them..........................drives me crazy, will have to tie them around my neck cause used to do same with my glasses, grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

Had my lido on Fri, bit of a thumpy head still going on but can live with that. Had to have a consultant do canula this time, went to loo and he was waiting outside for meSmiley EmbarassedSmiley Embarassed haha.

We are being moved to a different dept and are assuming there will be more of us as there only 4 people treated each day, consultant says a ward maybe opened in my city soon, that would be truly wonderful, they are really pushing for us so fingers crossed.

It has not stopped raining here for days and it's cold, winter is here, indeed xx

 

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Wet and very windy here too.

 

Hurrah! for having sorted Mum's house, KTC, hopefully life will calm down a bit now. Can you get a smaller "thing" that you can keep in a pocket so you don't keep losing it? 

 

Glad my finger crossing worked, FF, (although dodgy hips can be successfully replaced whereas spines not so much?!) I agree with Katy about your job. 

 

Lots of banging, crashing and sawing noises coming from next door yesterday and a Borough Council van parked outside until nearly 9pm. OH said they must be converting to make the house more accessible for Mrs H. How? It's a bungalow! OH said they might be widening doors for wheelchair access but I had to point out it's an ARM she's lost, not a leg! Dawned on me today that it's probably the bathroom they're adapting (toilet in the skip outside was a clue!). Perhaps that's where she fell? Smiley Sad Walk in bath or shower? Anyway, these major renovations probably mean she's coming home in the not too distant future. Smiley Happy

 

Good news today, OH has sorted transport for his Friday night swimming for the next four weeks so I don't have to do it and will have my Friday night "me time" back up until Christmas. Yipee!

 

Observation at work this week. Think it went OK but observer summoned back to her own (reception) class, in the middle of it, so we could have a fire drill! Not had official feedback yet, but I'm not going to stress about it!

 

Had to get OH some cash, after swimming, tonight. This meant walking past the chippy. Twice! I managed it. Just. But had to have 2 pieces of toast when I got home instead! Oh, and some of those pesky charity sweets jumped off the counter at swimming!! Smiley Tongue Chocolate peanuts in my muesli in the morning then. Smiley Very Happy

 

YD coming for the weekend for the mince pieathon. Christmas must be nearly here! So much still to do!! Don't panic!

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FIND that thing that I persuaded you to buy and use it, please.  I do not want you to end up like me on meds and hoping for rain! Smiley Wink

Glad that you have sorted out Mums house and given back the keys, that must be a weight off your mind. And baby doing well too..  Is Mum now settled into her new home?  Nice for you to have tea and a catch up with GD too.  I rarely see my eldest GD these days but I know what's going on from my Daughter.

 

Very windy and rainy down here.........town has been briefly cut off from the rest of the world through floods but all roads now passable with care.. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Oh my gosh JCJ, your poor neighbour, awful how things can turn.

It will take time for your OH to make adjustments, you always think that'll you will manage and it's so difficult to come to the realisation that you won't get better and you will have to change, it's just coming to terms with the fact that aids and appliances do make things betterSmiley Sad extremely difficult.............

FF, glad it's not your hips although having arthritis in your spine is no picnic, let's hope physio can ease things off a little. You may have to think seriously about work as no point in making things sooooooooo much worse as it is a physical jobSmiley Sad

Hope you are doing ok, ali.

Mum's house is DONE, keys handed back yesterday, woo hoo. Am having migraines constantly, obviously due to stress, fingers crossed I can feel calmer soon. 

Baby is now 7lb 1oz, woohoo.

Haven't been seeing GD too much recently, so have arranged that we are going to have tea out every few weeks for a catch up, she is growing up so fast, makes your heart beat faster.

Still raining here, so boring arrrgh..............

Keep losing that thing you persuaded me to purchase FF, drives me CRAZY, will have to tie it around my neck, grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr xx

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Finger crossing worked JCJ, hips are ok.  That neck to groin CT scan that I had two years ago is now proving helpful as that is how they are comparing these new x-rays.  So hips show no change, Yay!   It's just my spine that is falling apart Smiley Sad. I asked the Dr. today did the degeneration have a name? Is it arthritis or osteoporosis or .....?  Answer...."We generally talk about wear and tear and getting older but since you've asked it's osteoarhritis".

 

I told her about the Xmas shopping yesterday and the many sit downs...... and the fact that my back is so much worse today after it, she was sympathetic and in nice words said " you can't do what you used to do"..

 

Apparently physio could well help but I'm still waiting to hear from them.

 

Two more weeks signed off work, how long is it going be before work gets kranky?

 

 

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Good luck today, FF, I hope they can sort your hips out. Fingers crossed. xx

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Well I wasn't washed away, the yellow warning turned into a bit of a damp squib.  Yes, it rained but not enough to flood around here, thank goodness.

 

So sorry to hear you're coughing for England/Scotland JCJ, but glad you're still managing to make us a lovely dinner!  Selfish? Me ? No!

It must be so difficult for your OH to reconcile what he once could do and what he can do now.  Your poor neighbour, awful news. You are so right in saying never take anything for granted!

 

Glad that your results were good Ali.

 

Been to local City today with Daughter, shopping for the December event, got some things, had to stop and sit down many times as back was complaining, thankfully there are a lot of benches along the High Street. 

 

Drs tomorrow to find out the results of the hip x-rays.

 

 

 

 

 

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Coughing for England - and Scotland! - and do feel a tad yukky. Despite this, I made a super hman effort and took OH to his volunteer allotment so he could clear some c**p out of the garage (to make room for a mobility scooter???? Maybe not yet) I messed up reversing his great beast of a car off the drive, so the trip didn't start well (I'd tucked it in tight to the hedge out of the way of my car coming and going.) 

 

He had a bit of a melt down while we were there - memories of when he was fit and well and enjoying being there. I said, after Christmas, when I'm working part time, I can take him - and any other volunteers - a couple of afternoons if he still wants to go. Not so long ago, he was saying it was becoming a chore and he was looking for excuses not to go. Perhaps that was just the stress of driving? You don't know what you'll miss until it's gone?

 

Bad news from next door when we got back. Lovely elderly couple in their 80s, been our neighbours for 20+ years. I got up to go to the bathroom at 3am one night last week, and saw flashing red lights. Had a nose and it was an ambulance next door! Oh No! Watched them wheel Mrs H out and drive off VERY carefully. No sign of anyone in the house, but we got to talk to her son a couple of days later, who said she'd fallen and shattered the bones in her shoulder - of her good arm, she has a not-Parkinson's tremor in her other Smiley Sad . Owy owy owy!! Today, we have just heard that they have had to amputate the arm because it went black. I cannot begin to imagine what the poor woman is going through, but apparently she's managing to laugh and joke with her family!! I keep thinking of all the things I do, that keep me sane, that require the use of both my hands. Never take a moment for granted!!

 

Dinner is cooking: lamb shanks, braised root vegetables, roasties, Yorkshire pudding, cabbage, broccoli, gravy and mint sauce followed by individual chocolate cheesecakes (bought). I'll have to go VERY steady on the lamb - can't digest it and I'm already sleeping badly due to coughing and a head full of snot!

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hope you are not coughing, spluttering and barking JCJ and cold has not taken hold.

Had a reasonably quiet day yesterday and fingers crossed today too, woo hoo!

It started raining here last week and hasn't stopped since, oh how I hate the rain, it's all fine as long as I don't have to go out...........

If you feel too yucky to even contemplate dinner tonight, I will step in, a takeaway of course, orders can/will be taken for local chippie soon xx

 

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Unexpected couple of hours to myself tonight. Yippee! I was expecting to take OH to his swimming and sit in the carpark again, like last week, but his friend came to collect him and he's getting a taxi home to give me a night off! Just as well, because the dreaded cough has started - inevitable whenever I get a cold. I'll be barking for weeks now! Sitting in a cold car for an hour would have been even silier swimming myself last night?!

 

Weekend! Woohoo!

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Sleep swimming, no, probably not a good idea - although if dreaming of swimming has the same health benefits you may be on to something!

Finding money, woohoo! I occasionally find a fiver in an old handbag (or the posh going out handbag, tbh I have more handbags than fivers - there's probably a link!) and that feeling of unexpected riches is rather lovely Smiley Happy

And yes, it's been bloomin cold here too! I assumed it was just me getting over the op, I've been huddled under a fleece blanket in front of the fire all week but if you think it's cold too then I can blame the weather. I'm struggling to get going again but my friend reminded me yesterday that it takes three weeks for the anaesthetic to be properly out of your system, not just one, so a snooze in front of the fire is perfectly acceptable.

Black Friday, hmmm. Anyone find any bargains or am I being too bah humbug about it all? As a small, independent  shopkeeper it's a nightmare trying to compete with online prices at the best of times, maybe I'm just not in the mood this year? Good for electrical gadgets though and those strange technology thingummybobs my OH and son love Smiley Happy

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woo hoo scooby/booby dooo, ali, great newsSmiley Happy

bet you are soooo relieved, a couple of years ago I had huge bruising all over my legs after numerous tests it was discovered a med I was taking was causing bruising, could it be something like that?

 

Oh no JCJ you cannot ever swim whilst sleeping..............chippie tonight?

FF, hope you are not in too much pain, hugs flying your way.

 

Few things to do today, keep saying to myself only a few more days of craziness then things will be calmer, touch wood haha.

Visitors have been here every day this weekSmiley Frustrated,WHAT............am used to relative peace and quiet...........

tidying out a drawer yesterday I found £80, woo hoo, usually put money aside for xmas stuff, so at one side was the money I have been adding to and on the other side under a duvet was the 80, think it must have been from last year am well pleased xx

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Woohoo! Ali, that's good news! Not the dreaded C! Yey! Sleep well.

 

Washed away FF? I hope you're not going to have to heft everything upstairs again, THAT certainly won't be good for your back!

 

My cold is making me feel c**p. Nearly didn't go swimming but dragged myself out and just managed the mile, but there were several moments when I thought about my bed and snuggling into it, and just stopped swimming. Not good when you're face down in 6ft of water?! 

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Well, they don't know what's causing the bruising but pathology reports are clear so it's not cancer!!!!!!!! Woohoo Smiley Happy

Im back in a month to see if my skin has calmed down and to discuss reconstructive surgery, sorry to dash in and out but I'm so tired and I suspect I might actually manage to sleep tonight. 

Seem to have selected italics ..... Xxx

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Been thinking of you today Ali, hope all is ok.

 

I'm fine as long as I don't try to actually do anything!  I've had the hips x-ray done this Monday, results of that next Monday.  We will see.

 

Not freezing down here but preparing to be washed away in the next couple of days.

 

 

 

 

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Thinking of you today, Ali, hope your news was good. xx

 

Hope you're ok, too, FF.

 

Freezing here today! Had to scrape the car INSIDE as well as out. -4°!! Brrrrr!

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Hope all goes well for you tomorrow ali, fingers and toes crossed xx

 

Wet and wild weather here, brrrrrrrrrrr!!

On last legs of Mum's now, quick tidy and some hoovering to do, read electric and gas meters, then hand keys in either Fri or Mon, will be glad when things are finally done, one less thing to worry about..............

Was up to see Mum today, she was looking a little tired but chatted away fine. Learned yesterday that the delirium was/is not the cause of Mum's balance issues, it is chronic arthritis in her hip and spine, so chronic she is unable to successfully stand upright. Felt really sad when I was told this, would have been better coming from the consultant.................not that it makes a difference as she would be unable to have any ops anywaySmiley Sad

Today is baby's actual due date, was weighed yesterday and is now 6lb 10oz and doing fine xx

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Hugs. Ali. Fingers crossed. xx

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BCU have just rung me to go in this Thursday at 4:30. Hmmm. But, at least it's not long to wait....

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Big hugs flying your way ali, fingers and toes crossed all goes well for your appt.

FF, when does your physio start??

 

Thank you JCJ for dinner, yum yum, tummy is soooooooo fullSmiley Happy, hope sore throat calms down, there is always something..............

It's not changed much from your days ali, infa*** is what YD is using and baby massage, think it is awful, he is not screaming for hours on end, thank goodness, touching wood etc, but is obviously pained and discomfort is obviousSmiley Frustrated

Carpet is gone, woo hoo, 3 carrier bags to come back to mine and it's done, now 50 ton of paperwork to do. No POA yet so have to take stuff up to Mum for her to sign, hopefully will come through soon. xx

 

 

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Reciprocating the hugs, Ali, gently. Glad you're not too ouchy. I hope your follow up appointment comes quickly - (but not so quickly it causes alarm?!) and they can sort out whatever the problem is.

 

FF, I hope your physio is not too ouchy and they can help you get comfortable again. 

 

Baby colic! Oh how I remember that! Pacing the landing with a screaming baby (ES) for HOURS (days?) Also remember trying to get the lid off the gripe water (probably banned nowadays as it contained alcohol!)  and dispense it via a teaspoon whilst simultaneously juggling a writhing baby! Such fun. I see the children's medicines come with neat little dosing syringes now. So much easier. Far less medicine up the walls when the baby/toddler/child knocks the spoon out of your hand!

 

Dinner tonight is steak braised with mushrooms and onions, roasties, Yorkshire pudding, sprouts, carrots, broccoli and garlic buttered courgettes, followed by gooey chocolate pudding and chocolate sauce. Help yourselves. You're welcome.

 

The braising steak was because we shopped at C*-*p instead of S********'s last week because I had twighlight training, so was already later leaving school, and OH decided to need picking up from the town in the opposite direction from S's. The traffic was hideous and I just couldn't BA to drive back, so we ate and shopped at C*-*p. Stressful trying to find everything.  No joints of meat smaller than that required to feed 10. Smiley Sad Tried to get some at the local farm shop yesterday: same problem, but they did have locally reared braising steak and one home reared lamb shank (OH can have that next week - I'll have to have a chicken portion or something; lamb shanks usually cause me stomach problems! Smiley Sad

 

Yet another trip to the hospital tomorrow and yet another afternoon off work. OH got a physio appointment. I've told him, if he's got to go again, to get the appointment as late as possible. School are being brilliant but I really don't want to take the p!

 

Had a terrible sore throat on Friday night but Strep***s Max strength sorted it out. Just a snivelly nose now. Let's hope it doesn't convert to my usual hacking cough!

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Upright again! Slightly tender but nothing too ouchy, if anything I feel less uncomfortable than the implant was. Please excuse the rubbish grammar, I'm sure you get the drift! So just waiting for my follow on appointment to come through, because although I didn't tick all the boxes for cancer there's clearly something not right - and there are lots of things that aren't cancer Smiley Happy hoping they give me a prosthesis too so that I don't scare my customers when I go back to work.

Colic, poor babe, my son had that. I remember painting myself with infacol before each feed but that was 24 years ago, I'm sure it will be something different now!

House sorting and clearing, yes, you have my sympathy! It took us eight months to clear my mum in laws house after she passed away in January, we still have boxes of stuff to find homes for...don't ever buy cocktail sticks , she bought them in trade boxes and we have enough to build a replica Eiffel Tower.

Pain and aches and pains, awful, can really make you feel low and the worry of what may or may not be causing it doesn't help - in fact you're all going through it at the moment in one way or another, so sending out HUGE BENCHLAND HUGS to you all!!!! Xxxx

 

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Ouchy ouch FF, no wonder you are painedSmiley Sad, what happens next more painkillers or an op?? ouch.

Hope you managed everything JCJ and enjoyed your coffee with friend.

Is it a plastic brace?? Mum has one and they look soooooooo uncomfortable. It is hard to go down that route, you have to process it, when you make the decision, you have freedom............which is sooooooooo worth it.

 

Clearance DONE, took almost 5 hours.................had everything in boxes apart from furniture.........a very long day. One carpet to get rid off now and that's it, woo hoo!!

Have been neglecting my own home so had a "superclean" today, feels like home again. Clutter drives me crazy, YD is out so went mad in there, she will be annoyed but order was needed haha!

GS has colic, have no experience of that whatsoever so we are trying out lots of different things to try and ease the discomfort, evenings are wild here at the moment.

Have also managed to order X food, woo hoo! Another tick on that never ending list..........xx

 

 

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Ooh er! Degeneration of bones! Sounds hideous, but I suppose, at our age that happens to all of us to some degree? I know my scans (when they were investigating the gall stones symptoms) flagged up bone degeneration. Freaked me out a bit at the time! I hope they can sort you out so you're not in so much pain. 

 

Yey! For getting through the house clearance and other tasks, Katy! Soon be able to settle back on that CBA bench? Smiley Tongue

 

Had to take afternoon off school, again, today, to take OH to his orthotics appointment. He now has a leg brace to try to stop his leg bending backwards when he walks, causing pain in his foot and knee. He had high hopes for it making walking easier but he's very disappointed that it doesn't seem to help much Smiley Sad On the way home, we stopped off at a big garden centre to have lunch and look at some mobility scooters. I'm trying to persuade him to get one as it will give him back some independence, but he just can't accept that he's that much of an invalid. I'll have to back off and let him come to that milestone by himself, in his own time. 

 

Friday tomorrow! Yey! Pajamas for Pudsey day at school. I've got to go in OH's car so I can take it for its MOT straight after. Meeting a friend for a cuppa and catch up while the car's being seen to. Think I'll take some proper clothes with me - not sure I'm brave enough to brazen it out in my PJs at the garage - or in the pub where I'm meeting my friend! 

 

Got to take OH swimming again tomorrow. I'll probably take my tablet and/or kindle and a flask of tea and sit in the car playing silly games while he swims - save a big taxi fare. I've decided I'm not going to change my swimming night. I like Ladies night at the nearer pool. There's ladies there that I've been seeing every week for years. Also, it's ME time, away from work or OH, and that's important. Swam another mile tonight. Now 36% of the way around Jersey. Talking to someone who lives near us - mother of ES' best friend when he was at school - in the changing rooms, and she said she was impressed with my fitness!! Nobody has EVER said that to ME before!! 

 

Hope you're ok Ali! 

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So, Drs. appt today, blood test shows I'm deficient in folic acid so tablets for that.  X-rays were compared to the CT scan I had two years ago and there is evidence of degeneration in bone and loss of cartilage between the bones.

 

Dr. had me up on the examination table and moved my legs around until I said ouch!.  Didn't take long!Smiley Sad Now she wants more x-rays of my hips.  Signed off for two weeks and referred for physio. 

 

Ali. I hope all goes well for you and that stepmum continues to inprove.

 

 

 

 

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Hope all goes well tomorrow, FF and you too ali, fingers and toes crossed for you both.

Glad your step mum feels better.

Are you still wearing odd socks JCJ?? Fashion statement or what??

You don't have to be too concerned regarding reports now especially after excelling last timeSmiley Happy

 

Went out for tea last night, had a very nice meal and it was lovely being able to just relaxSmiley Happy

Today, Mum's solicitor sorted, visit with Mum, flat sorted so am superly pleased. Clearance tomorrow morning.

Feel as though I'm getting somewhere instead of going round and round in circles.

Baby weighed today 6lbs 2 oz, how good is that??? xx

 

 

 

 

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Hellooo Ali! Good to see your name pop up! Good grief! That sounds alarming - mysterious bruising! I hope they find the cause during their rootling around tomorrow. I'll be thinking of you with everything crossed. Glad your MIL is feeling better - I hope she continues to improve.

 

HMI in school today and tomorrow. Seemed to go OK today. Who knows? We were all wearing odd socks for "celebrate difference" in Anti-Bullying week. Smiley Happy Thank goodness for Christmas socks because all the rest of mine are black with coloured toes/heels so they all look the same with shoes on!

 

Grrrr about your back still giving you gyp, FF. Time to look for a less physical job? Hugs.

 

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Morning all! Sorry I've been quiet of late, step mum finally had her heart op after three cancellations for emergency patients, she's feeling so much better Smiley Happy

Ive had lots of appointments to try to work out what's causing the dark bruising on my recon breast, basically I'm a mystery! They're removing the implant and the skin tomorrow, my surgeon says she will "just have a good look in there and see what's going on ".  Cue all sorts of mental images involving my surgeon rooting around my ribs Smiley Very Happy apparently the implant is showing signs of reaching the end of its life (I'm not sure I chose the right term there....) so has to be removed anyway, it's not leaking but the surface is wrinkling . I'll be flat on that side for a bit but I'm more bothered about what's causing it!

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 Katy - glad that your flat sortimg has got down to three smallish piles.  Hope Mum thrives in her new home.

 

Loving the hoodie modelled by Bear JCJ.  Steamed up windows?  Well........ Thanks for dinner, very yummy.

 

Went back to work last Weds. well that was a mistake, practically crawled out of school on hands and knees again, trouble is back is fine while I'm just at home pottering about. So I think I'm allright. Managed to work Thurs and Fri by taking painkillers at the right time and also because KS2 Teacher cleaned her own class tables and put the chairs up for me. Today I couldn't hack it, I did the basics and left early. I have a Drs. appt on Weds to discuss the results of the Xray and the blood test. So we will see.

 

 

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Ha ha JCJ, a steamed up car??? What are you like???

Aaaah that's not so bad the taxi..........

Thank you as always for lovely dinnerSmiley Happy

 

3 smallish piles now left at Mum's to sort through hurrah, have a charity coming to collect everything JCJ, makes life so much easier and do think it's lovely that Mum's things will be useful to others.

Lots going on again this week, said to YD think I'm going to have a meltdown/breakdown at the end of all of this haha.

ED came along today to show us some baby clothes she had just purchased, nearly all PINK haha xx

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PS swimming run is 25 miles for the round trip. So taxi ride "just" 12.5 miles. Still pricey. I'm going to wait for him next time, I think.

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Just came on to put the Sunday dinner menu up. Smiley Happy

 

Glad things are getting sorted, Katy. Do you have Freecycle up in your neck of the woods? Online community where you give stuff away to save it going to landfill. You post the offer, people reply, you chose someone and they have to come and collect. Somebody would be interested in free carpets? Or can you do a deal with the landlord. Might he want them left?

 

Dinner is roast Welsh lamb, roasties, Yorkshire pudding, smashed roots, crispy kale, cabbage, gravy and mint sauce followed by lemon tart (bought) and raspberries.

 

I took OH to a nearby Country Park (one we used to walk to from home!) so that I could go for a walk and he could sit in the car, listen to his CDs and at least be away from the house for a bit. The autumn trees were beautiful, but, by the time I got back to the car the windows were so steamed up he couldn't see out! It took me 5 minutes to clear them before we could drive home.

 

Another crazy week ahead juggling work and taxi-ing. Roll on Christmas. 6 more weeks.

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ooh hoodie is lovelySmiley Happy

mmmmmm a taxi for 25 miles??that would have been expensive, would he feel comfortable on a bus? Bit daunting if you are a bit wobbly though.

 

Things are looking up, clearance people should be at Mum's next week, they will take everything apart from the carpets, so will just have to figure out how to get rid of them now. Was along yesterday and have emptied everything apart from bathroom, it will not be a big job. Have paperwork and millions of photos strewn across the living room, am going along tomorrow to sort those all out. Really feel as though I am making good progress now.

Am about to pop out for storage boxes so when I bring photos etc here I have somewhere to put them!

Will there be a dinner tonight JCJ? xx

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I'm sitting very still (on the CBA bench), Katy, so the weather gods can't possibly misconstrue any movements as a rain dance!

 

Glad you are starting to get things sorted. One step at a time. A month already?! Your YD will be fully into new mum routines before he should even have been born?!

 

Hope your back is easing, FF, and that the bloods/x-rays have not caused any concern. Still got everything crossed.

 

It's been a week of juggling work and taxi-ing OH about: Physio appointment Tuesday afternoon, detour on way home on several days to collect him from wherever he was. Next week will be much the same: He's got a dentist appointment on Monday morning and an orthoptics appointment on Thursday pm apart from any social/leisure things he wants to do. School are being very supportive at the moment and just rearranging adults in school to cover me where necessary. I'm hoping he can arrange all future appointments to be in the afternoons because that causes less problems at work - and in 6 weeks time I'll be free then anyway! I took him to his swimming last night. An hour's driving in dark, wet windy weather and I only got an hour's peace at home before he returned in a taxi! Not sure it was worth the effort! Or the cost of the taxi. 9pm on a Friday is definitely PJs and cuppa time not a time to be driving 25 miles! If it was summer, I'd take my knitting and Kindle and sit in the car to wait for him while he swims and meets up with friends, but it's cold and dark at that time now.

 

I did manage to finish the first hoodie last night though. Here is one of the bears modelling it. Smiley Very Happy

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Oh my I don't know what it was eitherSmiley Very Happy!!!

 

Am getting there slowly but surely, clearance people cancelled at last moment yesterday, new date arranged. Stayed at Mum's sorting out stuff most of the day so an achievement has been made. So much stuff..........

Solicitor sorted for next week and another appt made. 

Flu jab tomorrow.

Baby GS is just over a month now, honestly where did that time go?? His jaundice is fine, saw consultant this week and all good. 

ED fine too.

Am popping into town later, am really hoping I can stroll today and not RUN!!

And please can rain stay off...................xx

 

 

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The Sunday takeaway was delicious, thank you KTC! I'm not sure what the brown squidgy stuff was but it tasted fine! Smiley Happy We had Indian takeaway - for the first time in years - on Saturday too. I had mango chicken. Yum!!

 

Made the usual Sunday roast - very little ever gets in the way of that! Chicken this week with the usual and broccoli, cauliflower garlic buttered courgettes and gravy followed by homemade blackcurrant and apple pie and ice cream. Leftovers in the shed.

 

You scared me about ED's "issues", Katy, hope everything is ok. Don't make yourself I'll chasing around for your mum. I hope things settle down soon and you can have a rest. Hugs. x

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Oh dear am on the bad behaviour bench because I ordered a takeaway for Sunday Dinner, I just can't pretend any longer it was me who cooked that wonderful spread...................

 

Glad you are feeling happier JCJ, morning hours are so much better, you have free afternoons, woo hoo!! Am also pleased your report was excellent!!

FF, are you feeling any better? When are your results?

 

Am on the "struggling but putting on a brave face" bench, started clearing Mums, have lots of meetings to arrange (Mum) and lots of loose ends to tie up. I literally feel I have no time to do anything at all but am trying. ED was at consultants today and had to have a scan, some issues had arisen, she texted to tell me and said she would be back in time to take me to my appt with consultant, I felt panic surgingSmiley Frustrated, took lots of deep breaths...............baby is fine whew! xx

 

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Spoke to exec HT today. The deed is done: I'm mornings - and some lunchtimes - only, from January. She was very sympathetic and supportive, even gave me a hug! Smiley Happy She says they will do whatever is necessary to keep me, but that I must do what's best for me, taking whatever time I need for appointments etc. (I'm sure it helped that my performance management (ugh! Hate that phrase) meeting went extremely well!! Smashed it!! Smiley Very Happy

 

OH is very happy about it. I'm still getting used to the idea, but at least it means I can carry on working, and I'm sure I'll find plenty to fill my afternoons - probably mostly the good old CBA bench??! Smiley Tongue

 

Hub cap collected. OH's car booked in for MOT next  Friday when I can take it in after school and wait for it. Actually, it's not his car any more it's mine! My second car. Mwahahaha!

 

Glad your daughter not hurt in her car prang. I always dread someone rear ending me when I'm stopped at a junction. 

 

Good to hear Purdie wasn't too spooked by fireworks. I've said many a time that I'm glad we've not got pets because there's been "wheeeeeeing" and banging every night for weeks now. So sick of it.

 

I hope you get your snow defenses in place before they are needed, FF - actually, putting them in will probably guarantee no snow at all this year? Smiley Happy

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I agree that it was good that it was OH's decision and it wasn't forced upon him.  A friend of mine when faced with the same problem sold his car,  put the money into a taxi account,  added to it weekly with the petrol money he would have used then added yearly amounts for the tax, insurance and MOT.  Six years later he's still going where he needs to,Smiley Happy  And I'm so glad OH's not in a strop or taking it out on you.  It must have been very difficult for him to face up to.

 

Glad your car went through with just minor things.

 

Katy - so looking forward to trying your cooking, what are we having? (No shellfish, please).

Thank goodness your ED wasn't hurt, just her poor car. It's always the car behinds fault when you are stationary, it happened to me many years ago.

 

Family over today. Son fixed up my new remote control for the tv, (I leave technical stuff up to him).  SIL measured up the conservatory for snow precautions..  Last Spring when we had those snow storms I was seriusly worried that my conservatory roof was going to cave in, as I could see the support beams bowing under the weight of the snow.  Taking measures now to ensure support of roof and peace of mind if it happens again. 

 

Firework display tonight about 150 yds from my house. Wondered about Pudie, I'd switched on the calming diffuser about an hour previously.  When they started she was not particularly bothered, just ears pricking and flattening. I turned up the tv and did my best to distract her and the 20 min display passed with no dramas,  and it was loud!!

 

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Aaaaah so sorry JCJ, but the decision has come from OH and that is really good. It is major when you have always been a driver and it is sad. Because he won't have expense of running a car use the money for taxis, well worth it and may not be as expensive as you think. He will then be able to keep his social side which is equally important to him as your sanity is to you. You both need your own space so taxis are the order of the day. No more tears and it will now be less of a worry than when he was driving.

Glad your car was not too expensive and even though you had to faff around, cafe visits are fun, haha.

 

Had a large pile of to do letters on my table, all cleared apart from 1 and that will be done tomorrow, woo hoo!!

ED had an accident with her car, lady drove straight into her when daughter was stopped at a junction, her car is drivable but has a nasty crack on bumper, insurance companies involved well, lady's as she was at fault, the main thing was no one was hurt, all just had a fright whew.

Still lots of visitors arriving here, normality is nowhere soon...........

I can make dinner for you this week JCJ, a warning though it will never be as good as yours.................xx

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Well, it's happened. Smiley Sad OH has come to the decision that he can no longer drive. 😢 We knew it was inevitable eventually, but we both hoped it wouldn't be yet. He can't control his legs well enough. I was, frankly, scared when he was driving on Friday, and it was a relief to take over. He is feeling some relief about the decision, because driving was becoming more and more stressful, but our worlds have just come crashing down. No more Sunday afternoons or Friday evenings when he takes himself off and I get the house to myself and some peace. He can't walk very far at all, so getting out will be almost impossible unless we purchase a motorised wheelchair or buggy.(He's always wanted an electric vehicle - though I think a car is more what he had in mind!) He can't go to the volunteer allotment any more, or drive the other men there (none of them drive). He can't meet up with his friend at swimming on a Friday night. The pool they use is too far away for me to drive him there and back - unless I swim then too, but it's 9pm on a Friday - I'm in my PJs by then!! His friend lives in the other direction, so it's too far for him to fetch him. 

 

He's going to go insane if he's trapped at home all the time - and so will I!!

 

I've come to the conclusion that I'll have to make this my last year at work - possibly even reducing my hours so that I can be home in the afternoons. I'm going to have to have a  chat with my HT tomorow and see if we can come up with a plan.

 

We've both shed a few years this weekend. At least he's talking, not sulking - or blaming me this time! I hope he continues to feel that relief and the enormity of the situation doesn't hit home! He's only just renewed his car insurance and his car is booked for its MOT next week. I'll have to try and take it after work, because we can't sell it without - if that's what we decide to do.

 

So much to sort out, so many decisions to make. PD is so cruel. Smiley Sad

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Dropped car off at 8:30 yesterday morning. Walked 1/4 mile up into (small market) town to waste some time while I waited for it. Had a leisurely egg on toast breakfast in a cafe, strolled to hairdresser's with my kindle, expecting to have to queue for a while (it's a no appointment place) only to find they'd just opened, I was the first and only customer!! 10 minutes later, I'm back outside!! Of course, if I was in  a hurry,I'd have had to wait aaages? Potter about - luckily it wasn't actually raining - buying some bits and exploring the charity shops. Another cafe for a tea and Danish. Phone call. MOT failed. Oh no! Smiley Sad But all minor things: tyre, number plate bulb, brake fluid and windscreen wipers. Phew! Told them to just sort it out and call me when it's done. More tea. Read kindle (other ereaders...) Cafe starts to fill up with lunchtime customers so I head back to garage to wait. Comfy couch, warm waiting room - offer of a free tea/coffee - no thanks I'm awash!!

At 1:30pm my car was eventually ready and not too hideously expensive either. That's a relief! If I'd known it would be 5 hours I'd have got the bus home and got OH to take me to collect it, but it's done now. Hopefully sorted for another year.

 

Mincemeat assembled and marinating. Shoes and boots polished. Dinner cooked. More of GD's jacket knitted. Swim swum. A productive day, but how on earth can it be Friday already?? Sunny today and OH wants to go out for the day. I just want to slob at home, but hey ho.....!

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mmmm FF, don't think I would be able to wait..............hope results are here soon and you can get everything sorted, is it your hips that are giving you more pain than your back?? Fingers crossed for you and big hugs.

 

Glad you had a good time with girls and it is nice that they are sooooooo excitedSmiley Happy, we are also same here, no prams or cots at home until baby is born, olden day traditions, methinks. 

 

Managed to sort a few things this week, honestly have no idea where my time is going??? 

Baby GS is doing well 5lbs 3oz now woo hoo, still has jaundice and will have another blood test soon, health visitors and midwives not worried. ED has her consultant appt next week.

Mum has fallen in new place and they have today taken her for xrays, she is saying she's not in pain, am going up tomorrow and will see how she is then, she now has literally no balance at all, as soon as she tries to get up she falls over. She will not use buzzer to alert anyone and she will try to get up even though she is aware that she will fall over. Most of her personal bits and bobs are up in care home now. Am phoning tomorrow to find out about a clearance, don't feel too bad as Mum never really liked house anyway. It will be sad to see some pieces of furniture and other things going because of the memories, but have to be realisticSmiley Frustrated xx

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Just back home. We stopped at a favourite pub for a meal on the way because OH had got cold waiting for me at the car - he'd caught an earlier train back while I was meeting up with an ex-colleague for coffee - and because we CBA to cook! 

 

Lovely sunny day today and Monday, when we spent most of it on trains, but yesterday was vile: wet, windy and cold. We went to a big garden centre place that we went to last time we visited the girls and the weather was c**p (EVERY time??!) Had lunch in the café, explored the festive seasonal merchandise and then visited the huge craft shop where YD helped me choose some lovely, soft, grey baby wool and some green wool. I'll finish the white hoodie and then make 2 different ones. Pink is definitely off the menu!!

 

They have already started collecting some adorable baby grows (none pink or in the least "frilly") and have been given loads of stuff by colleagues of D-I-L. Other grandma has bought them a cot and they've got a cheap pram/carrycot/car seat/pushchair thing from a colleague of YD's. I had a bit of a private worry that they've got too much to soon, something could still go wrong, but they're both so excited I kept that firmly to myself! 

 

I'm nervously about to see if our shower is working. Need to wash my hair as I intend to get it trimmed at the hairdresser's tomorrow, while my car is being serviced & MOTed (fingers crossed on that too!). Can't bear the thought of them washing it - or the extra cost! - and I'd be embarrassed for them to cut it if it wasn't freshly washed, but when OH had a shower before we left, on Monday, the trip switch went off along with all the upstairs lights. We switched the shower mains switch off, reset the trip switch and went away. House still here when we got back and all electrics appear to be working but I've yet to turn the shower back on...... Watch this space!!

 

I hope your bloods and X-Rays don't give anyone cause for alarm, FF, and that they can sort out your back problem. Take it steady. And throw that guilt about having more time off to the alligators!! (We can fatten them up ready for alliburgers at the annual silent, invisible firework party! Smiley Happy)

 

Have you started the house clearance yet, Katy? I hope it's not too distressing and that the landlord is not hassling you too much.

 

Right, off to brave the shower - or manage the over bath contortionist act!!

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Thanks for dinner JCJ, delicious as usual.  Hope you enjoy your time with your two and a half girls. Just knit a little bit of a pink stripe into the grey hoodie......

 

So glad that Mum appears to be settled in Katy, no wonder you ended up on the CSL bench after all the stress of the last few weeks.

 

So I saw the Dr. last week got signed off work for a further two weeks, an X-ray requested and a blood test.. I had the X-ray today, actually two X-rays one back to front just standing and other one side on. " Just move your hips to the right "  Well if I could do that without pain I wouldn't need the X-ray!. Results to the GP in a couple of days, did I have an appt?  No, as I''ve got to wait until 7th Nov for the blood test I'll wait until both are back for the appt...