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GIJaneH
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

can hear the music playing...... da..da... dadada DA da DA da daa daaaaa

Slendablenda
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"Then I'll begin" ..............
Oh, the comfort. Just what we need.

GIJaneH
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multi-coloured lilies no problem! We could decorate the woods with them too! Lessons begin in half an hour..... on the "back-to-childhood sofa"... Now, boys & girls, "are you sitting comfortably?" Jane

katytc
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and for sharing hot flush stories.......

Lavenderlassie
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A Midnight Feast-just the things for those Steroid Nights!

katytc
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Am up to my elbows in lemons for the homemade lemonade, when I finish am off to little shop to purchase potted meat, sardines and buns for the Midnight Feast. Can someone cover for me I should be in the library studying, can't remember room numbers for feast, help!! Anyone seen Darrell she'll know. Getting on my bike now. Thank you Ninja felt very thirsty. xx

ragamuffin
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Yes please Ninja.

Will bring chocolate mud cake to the midnight feast- which dorm are we in?

(feel like reading Mallory Towers again to remind myself)

Ninja
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SHHHH
Miss may hear you!

Anyone for lashings of ginger beer?

katytc
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Just been outside for a quick game of lacrosse, have now made a cup of tea, refilled the hot water bottle, ate my scone (raspberry jam, no cream) and swallowed two paracetamols. Must have been all that exertion. Jolly good show says me! GIJaneH, have never done "origami" before, probably too busy playing lacrosse and jolly hockey would you be willing to do a little teaching?? I can imagine just strategically placing these lillies around my home. Can you use coloured paper? Am off to plan our Midnight Feast. It's all just super fun xx

GIJaneH
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Golly Gosh! Is there an origami bench too?? Haven't made lilies for years!!!

katytc
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What ho, ragamuffin, thats a simply jolly smashing idea! Tucks up. xx

ragamuffin
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Re "A "blether" what a great idea, and a cup of tea and a hot scone with lashings of cream and jam"

In Enid Blyton style -I think ladies, that that is a topping notion!!

Have been thinking of making some strawberry jam and that's just the incentive to get on with it, so I'll bring the jam. Will get me off the guilty bench for a while too.

katytc
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WOW!!!! Val, am well impressed with the new sofa, my favourites were the St Clair and Mallory Towers girls, I just loved the stories. I did read The Secret of Spiggy Holes but can't remember too much about it now. I preferred the boarding school stories. My new sofa is sooooooo cosy, you're most welcome to come over and munch the scones, trying not to drop any crumbs, oh my, feel a little guilty but not moving!!!xx

scottishlass
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New Sofa ordered for Kaytc that has a heated underblanket and a soft light goose-down duvet. May just cuddle up beside you! Val

katytc
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Lovely day here too, watching people just wearing t shirts walking along the walk (short cut into town). I am always cold and have on jumper and two t shirts, am sitting with a hot water bottle too and will have to put on coat when I go out later!!I moved here pretty recently and am sure people must think I'm a little eccentric but I'm really cold. I am going to bring my duvet over to squishy sofa, looking forward to LL's homemade scones, I'll bring jam and cream, yum yum xx

scottishlass
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Hi Jeanette, Weather varied throughout the day. Bursts of sunshine then it clouds over. Hope your pre op assessment goes Ok. Not sure if I am well enough to visit you in hosp right now but keep me posted and I will play it by ear.
Scones sound perfect. Edid Blyton. Did anyone read "The Secret of Spiggy Holes" or the "Secret Mountain". It wasn't eh famous five series but set in Cornwall/Dorset/or Devon and inc=volved smuggling. read it and read it and read it over the years. Lent it to someone who forgot to return it to me. Would love to read it again now I am in my 60s!
Love to you all, Val

J01
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Now I should go off to the smug/guilty bench...or sofa??? as I have to say it is BEAUTIFUL here warm and sunny!!!

What is the weather like up there Val I am up tomorrow, just for the day, a flying visit for pre op assesment ready for JMD to do his stuff next Monday!! Hope you are soon feeling a little easier ...Lots of love Jeanette XXX

Lavenderlassie
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What was it with EB and lashings? Lashings of ginger beer, I remembertoo.
Would rather have the lashings of cream and jam though.
I am beginning to believe that just thinking of food makes me put on weight.
It's really grey outside, budge up on the squishy sofa and let me at the scones

katytc
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Hi Val,

Settle back and enjoy your squishy sofa, everything is at hand so you don't have to feel guilty! A "blether" what a great idea, and a cup of tea and a hot scone with lashings of cream and jam, takes me back to my Enid Blyton days!! x x

scottishlass
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Can I request an "out of puff" bench/sofa. Not managing very well at mo and spending a lot of time in bed sleeping. Low HB is the reason. But I would love to have a "blether" and some female company to moan and groan and listen and learn. Hugs to all. Keep the thread going I just love it! Val

GIJaneH
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never mind the bench Lavender Lassie - there's a whole THREAD for you (and me!) Yes, I've been on the smug (I've finished) sofas....

Lavenderlassie
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And I have to come in and sit on the stupid bench, was just going to post to Stargazerlily to enjoy her day at home now she is out of hospital forgetting how she might be feeling mid chemo. Now do I worry that I seem to have forgotten how it feels mid chemo - or encourage you all that you do leave it behind eventually?
Oh, well then, off to the bench for people who say stupid if well meaning things.

katytc
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Have you been lounging around on the sofas GIJaneH??? xx

GIJaneH
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Yay! I've been feeling guilty about not being on the guilty bench!

katytc
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BENCHLAND has now officially reopened been very quiet for a while. There are sofas but I am afraid none have been allocated for those of us who are feeling guilty, just hard benches, I mean we would feel even more guilty just being a little comfy!! x

Slendablenda
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Welcome back J - i'D forgotten about the benches.
Time for a reshuffle. Plenty of room for you.
Hope you feel better in time for your op.

J01
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I am so glad to come home from hols...mind you not so glad to come back with an horrendous ear inmfection and a stinking cold!!! Especially as it's mx/recon next monday, so I was glad to find someone had changed the benches to sofas just in time for my op....oh it wasn't done for my benefit....oh well perhaps it's time for that spoiling bench SB and daisyleaf and I agree put Val on for comfort and we can have a volunteer bench....sorry sofa... and anyone feeling on the bright side can sit on it and take turns in mollycoddling everyone else....???

Slendablenda
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DFS - Good idea - we'd buy one and get one free-in time for Christmas delivery!

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We need an 'I need spoiling' bench - or really that should be DFS's best sofa - and Scottishlass gets first place on it - Val, hope you are doing OK and feeling the benefit of your op very soon darling xxxx

DJ007
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Reminds me of the time that a friend and I walked up Snowdon - it was early spring and was quite snowy and icy towards the top, blowing a gale too. We slithered our way to the top - arrived red-faced and quite proud of ourselves, just as a train arrived and a gaggle of lasses in mini-skirts and heels got out!

Ninja
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Not a chance - that was me running up it in my shorts.

In my dreams, these days; I can barely get up the stairs sometimes, never mind go fell-running again...

Slendablenda
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Just seen the pits pic Ninja - you should be so lucky !
Thanks for giving me a laugh. x
It wasn't you who abandoned that 4x4 up Snowdon the other day was it............?

Slendablenda
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Hi Ninja
I thought we women were supposed to hold maps upside down -so if we print a bench map upside down we'll be fine !!

Ninja
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"what's the point in having a map? us women can't read them!!! "

That made me laugh - as an Outdoors Ed instructor, I used to teach males to nav. One of them suggested that I might have a problem joining them as I wouldn't be able to drive my car up the mountain. Cheeky s*d
lol

katytc
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Hi all,

My Mum phones me everyday to ask how I am I usually say "I'm fine" but having been feeling awful the past couple of weeks, so obviously she's concerned when she phoned today I said I had a sort of crampy feeling like when I used to have periods there was a long pause then she said I think it's you mopping your floors (honestly a 2 min job) I had to stop the burbling laughter!! You've got to love them!! Oops back to the guilty bench for me xx

emmy
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Not too sure how the benches are planned but a F@@@ it all! one could be next to the I am gonna blow one then I can hop back and to, hhmmm could lose that weight that I gained? as for the can't be a@@d bench for housework it could be next to the can't be faffed getting dressed bench P.J party anyone? It is a great thread this been following and a few things make me smile these days but this is one of them! Take care all...x

scottishlass
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I am only 3 days out of hospital after an operation on my leg and You have cheered me up very much! I think it should be made into a play for the radio so people out there can perhaps begin to understand the emotions we all have to deal with having cancer as well as the boring everyday frustrations too.
I would like a bench made of feathers, yes feathers that we can all kick or punch without hurting ourselves and get out all that anger and frustration we feel. Thank you so much for this marvellous thread. Have added it to my saved ones. Love to all. Val

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Okay, I may not have a map but I'm now riding around Benchland on a mini railway (too tired to walk and it would take too long), handing out chocolate, icecream and tissues. The nurse in me....oops nearly ran over someone trying to get from one bench to the other...

dizzycloud
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lots of room on my bench slendabenda, I will budge up.

I have also had from my mum statements such as "no more swearing, I didn't bring you up to swear, so I don't know why you are" when I was in hospital and suffering from lack of pain killers

More recently she keeps telling me my daughter should be looking after me, cooking, cleaning etc (she is 14 and does do a little bit for me) as everyone she knows kids totally ran the house while they were recoeving!!

oh and I can't forget the constant reference to work paying me while I am off, so I should jump to attention when they ring and ask me to do something as "you have to look after your job" and "if you are off a long time you might not have a job to go back to"

EDIT - todays convesation involved me saying today I had to do some work for work, have some ironing to do and need to prepare tea. The response was well make sure you do your work first before the ironing and tea, "daughters name" will have to wait for her tea??!! (does that mean I should go hungry too?)
oh and I havn't finished yet - mentioned I will probably gain weight from steroids given during chemo and was told well you can lose that weight straight after, you don't want to look a mess!

I think we will all end up with sore tongues from biting them so often!!

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Slendablenda
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Shove up Dizzycloud - I need to sit on there with you.
My Mum is 89. I don't want to worry her too much so have down played the chemo side effects -consequently she hasn't a clue of how I feel really,although I did eventually give her a BCC leaflet about chemo. I realise now she actually didn't want to know what I'm experiencing.
Told her on the phone this morning that I'd go and see her today if I felt up to it. Went to see her this afternoon. She said " You look a bit white and spiteful" and proceeded to tell me how tired she feels.
I do love her dearly, but sometimes have to bite my tongue.
Room for 2 ?

Slendablenda
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Shove up Dizzyland - I need to sit on there with you.
My Mum is 89. I don't want to worry her too much so have down played the chemo side effects -consequently she hasn't a clue of how I feel really,although I did eventually give her a BCC leaflet about chemo. I realise now she actually didn't want to know what I'm experiencing.
Told her on the phone this morning that I'd go and see her today if I felt up to it. Went to see her this afternoon. She said " You look a bit white and spiteful" and proceeded to tell me how tired she feels.
I do love her dearly, but sometimes have to bite my tongue.
Room for 2 ?

Lavenderlassie
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Dear Dizzycloud,

That sounds maddening! if it wasn't for the fact that they sound as if they would interrupt and drive you nuts, I would suggest taking them along with you to your chemo education session!
The only reasonable response to your initial comments would have been "Don't worry, if you can't work, I will help look after my darling grand daughter"

A mute button or a sound proof screen- there's money to be made out of these ideas...

dizzycloud
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I need to jump on the "need to shout at my mum" bench, though if I am going to be sitting on it for a while (I think I will be) it needs to be a nice comfy sofa. She phoned me today for her daily check to see if I am ok and I started talking about chemo and my worries about being able to work thoughout it and what would happen if I was hospitalised etc (have daughter to look after). She then started to say I read too much online, I am overdramatic and that her friend sailed though 12 months of chemo with no problems!!. I then said that everyone is different, and thought silently I am sure her friend didn't have a problem free treatment. She told me I shouldn't worry until I go through it - easy for her to say that. I then got told that my sister (who is a nurse) thought I might just be on chemo tablets - so she is an oncologist then FGS!!! - so does that mean being on chemo tablets is easier than being on the drip version; I think not!!!. I love my mum dearly but sometimes I wish I could use the mute button ......

DJ007
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I'm sure that some of them are on a sort of rotary contraption that means you can hop on and off them without having to walk too far....

Ninja
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I'm sitting on the 'thinking murderous thoughts about HR' bench today.

Also got my feet resting on the 'the quacks stole my chemo and I really do not know what to think or do now' bench.

I also still have half a cheek on the "f*****g furious" bench.

I'm glad they are close together.

katytc
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Tina67, a map would mean strategic planning, are we in rows, circles, some benches CANNOT be near one another ie ****ing furious and crazy sobbing lady. Smelly bench is alone in a corner somewhere. If you don't feel too good you don't want to be walking too far to find your bench, oh what to do???? I feel I do not have the expertise required, perhaps others can input and we can make one together! In my head it's a lovely grassy area with pretty flowers and trees, am I in the right place???

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Could someone please draw a map - I'm now not sure which bench I'm on...but could I bring the dog...she loves benches!

GIJaneH
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just added a "no I'm not *** over it" bench....beside the "you look well" bench ...

ChoccieMuffin
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Ah, that'll be the guilty bench with your feet up on the "can't be ar, bothered" bench. I'll shuffle along, shall I?