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katytc
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Thank you, FF, perhaps we could "do" a duet??? We may have to go to the "very faraway from everyone else" bench, what do you think?
Only 12 more to go, just rest as much as you can and keep slapping on the aqueous cream, are you allowed to take your cape home? If so you can fly and I'll use the transmat.
Can you also tell me what is a robin cake ? Very intrigued.
Where's grumpy with the script??? Really hoping there's a part for me xx

foxyferret
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Oh dear the ability to spell has left me, that should read pretty good robin cake!
foxyferret
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Katytc that's great news, you sing all night if you want to.

Ref. panto please no singing part for me, I sound like a cat being strangled slowly at best and at worst.....well! I am not good in the culinary dept. but can make a oretty good robin cake so will bring that along.

Someone told me today the I was brave, now I knew how you all hate that description but now I really KNOW!!!!! Dear me! I was in a restaurant last Saturday with my son and his family and there was a man in there who had two prosthetic legs and one prosthetic arm. He was wearing a t-shirt advertising Help for Heroes so there were no prizes for realising what had happened to him. Now THAT is bravery!! (sorry for small rant there).

Had 3/15 rads today and then went to work and felt rather weary hope thats just because its the tail end of the week, feel better now I'm home. Perhaps it's just the driving.
katytc
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Thank you JCJ, am on the "happy singing" bench, earplugs are in the shed xx

JCJ
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So pleased about your bone scan Katytc! 🙂 🙂 sing as much as you like - in whatever key (or keyS?)!
katytc
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

PS I may just be great for the part of the apple because I am one of the best at synchronising my flushes, so a round red apple, sounds the perfect part for me won't even need a costume lalalalalalala!! Skippity doo, doodly oo xx

katytc
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Bone scan fine, yippeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!! Have other problems but it's not BC, Hurrah.
Do you think that because we are in Benchland I may actually be able to trill along with the best of them???
Will give it a bash, tra la la la la, no glasses breaking so far....................xx

JCJ
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PS Benchland is definitely one of those "You had to have been there" things - my OH completely nonplussed about why I find it so amusing! He he he ha ha ha - Ooh! cue for a song? perhaps in B(oob) flat major?
JCJ
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Paying the price for doing so much yesterday: On the CBA bench, as predicted, giggling like a fool, reading all about our Benchland Panto preparations.

I can do virtual sound and lighting if you need me to! 🙂

Chris x
CanonJane
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Love the panto theme! I want to SING though...... Tra la la, la la
There must be loads of people who can do refreshments, judging by all the cakes we used to get in The Woods... I'll start it off with Tiffin - very yummy... but it's upset my mouth and a speckled bird is now in residence again (hence the warbling!)
I'm on the K*******ed bench... this work lark tends to take over life.... so I may not be up to much rehearsal - can we do a panto without rehearsal? THAT could be interesting!

Now... what part are we thinking of for RevCat?!

Jane xx

katytc
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

PS, if I can't be "fatty" can I be the apple??? You know the one the wicked Queen prepares, soooooooooooooooo excited xx

katytc
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Ok Panto Season is upon us, I can provide malteeser cake, sardine and potted meat sandwiches and lashings and lashings of ginger beer, courtesy of the "childhood" bench.
I can also virtually set up a "sewing machine" bench to provide ALL costumes.
Make-up and wigs can be provided from the vending machine in the shed.
Whew!
Just awaiting script now, HI HO HI HO it's off to work we go lalalalalalalala HI HO......................xx

grumpy
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Ladies
Well the panto idea has definately caught on!!!
I will start on the script and post a list of parts for virtual auditions asap.
Provisional title is be 'Jack, Dick, the Cat with the bald but nicely shaped head, Ali, Snow White with the Big Red Booby and the Beanstalk'
As well as virtual 'cast' we shall need a virtual crew - refreshments, Bar, props, set, stage manager, call boys (!!!!) and makeup to name a few, so get your thinking (cold) caps on and decide what you could do.
I've penciled in Revcat for the leader of the chorus - The 40 Synchronised Flushers - on the principle of if you go away and don't come to the meetings, you get the rotten job.....
Oh and the (virtual) ticket money will go a charity of choice .....
Does anyone know where to get virtual makeup, wigs and costumes? We must have ladies in Benchland who can help with this.
Anyone from Lancaster - a friend met people with small dog named Mr Parme-something, named after a surgeon of great skill - does this ring a bell??!!
grumpy - and excited

JCJ
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FF Try giving a different house number and if they notice, tell them you've moved next door - that tends to cause evaporation of sense of humour too! 🙂

I think Snow white and the seven dwarfs live in woodland which is full of birds: blue tits, great tits (the ones that haven't been operated on - or stunning 'remoulds'??) robin redbreasts but their friend thrush is not always welcome! Brown speckled tit wants to take part too, but the ornitholigists deny her existence!!

A cape?? Wow! But I suppose as I didn't have to sit in a waiting room, other than fully clothed, I can't complain.

Is there a dwarf called Droopy? I could play that one!

Treked all the way over to Warwick - 70 mile round trip - for occupational Health appointment. What a waste of time! She read out the form that I had filled in with my HT, that had been emailed to me to check and correct before it was sent to Occ H. She then hand wrote all the same information again and asked a load of completely irrelevent questions, about which I had to restrain myself from telling her to mind her own business!! She clearly spends most time dealing with teachers who are on phased return due to work-related stress and had no understanding of the impact of BC! She was trying to suggest I might feel I need counselling at some point in the future, and I told her that, if I did, I would ask my BC nurse to refer me to the BC specialist psychologist support that had already been offered!

She said that the phased return (when she finally read it properly - I had to point out where she had misread it!) that my HT and I had planned together was ideal, and similar to what she would have suggested. ARGGHH - Good news but why drag me all the way there to tell me that???

It was a lovely sunny afternoon and OH had driven me there. We had never been to Warwick before, so we made an afternoon of it, had a wander round and a picnic tea (M&S salads!) in the park and chips on the way home. 🙂

I am now on the guilty bench because when we collected my car from outside school at half past 7 tonight, several teachers' cars were still there - and I had been swanning around Warwick like I was on holiday because I am "too tired" to work a full week. I am seriously cream crackered now though - so will be camped out on CBA bench tomorrow!
foxyferret
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Could someone please write in a bit part for The Fallen Madonna With The Bright Red Boobie, I'll be able to play that in week or so and rehersals will take at least that long!! Great idea for a panto in June, surprised no-one's done it yet but I suppose it takes us inspirational women to come up with such a good idea.(sorry!) Let me know when rehearsals start I'll bring refreshments.

CM I tried the "and I had toast for breakfast" and I got a blank look, no sense of humour some people. Things are looking up though 'cos the radiologist today was a lovely chap in his twenties I guess (not good with ages) and he looked after me much better and was much more careful of my dignity. Hope I get him again!
ch280
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I really like the sound of Ali Baba and the 40 synchronised flushes - there must be plenty who could fill the role of one of the flushes! But if we are doing the Snow white then I think I had better audition for Dopey - who I see as a dwarf who is always half asleep and also quite befuddled - really describes me to a T!
Is the script ready and when do rehearsals start?
Christine

katytc
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Can I be "fatty" please? No singing (not blessed with a singing voice) though I maybe able to manage HI HO if not I can mime in the chorus xx

grumpy
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Choccie I just love it!!!!
Script will be written shortly, and virtual auditions can be held....
Who wants to be Baldy, or Fatty? I would like to be Knacke@@@.

grumpy

ChoccieMuffin
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Grumpy, I'm loving the panto titles. Can't think of any good ones to add though. Except maybe Snow Whitescalp and the seven dwarfs: Pukey, Sleepy, Dopey, Baldy, Fatty, Knackered and Stupid.

Foxy, when they start talking numbers over you, ask them what the numbers mean. They do sometimes appreciate a patient being interested. I also used to give them my name, address, hospital number and added a report on something silly, like "and I had toast and jam for breakfast a week last Tuesday" or "and I'm wearing blue nailvarnish on my toes" or something completely unconnected.

grumpy
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Can't decide whether I'm on the Cheery Bench - cos I now have a choice again re nip and tuck - or on the In A Huff Bench - I don't think I'm getting a part in our new play. Everyone kept saying oh you're so good at props and set...... yes, and last year I did it all while coping with hormone brain fuddle from the letrozole. It only worked because a mate ( from the Health Centre - she was on protection duty!!) was there every performance, and we had great big lists pinned up with the prop tables in the wings.
We could have a virtual play in Benchland - perhaps a panto? Wuss in Boots?? Jack and the Juicing Stalk? Ali Baba and the 40 synchronised Flushes? Dick Whittington and his Hairless Cat (but with the nicely shaped head)?
love to all
cheery Grumpy

katytc
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A cape FF???? Are you flying around Benchland?? hope you don't mid air crash into RevCat on her broom! Be careful out there.........
I had a lovely popper top, very dashing just my colour maroon, blended well with the red boob, aaah those were the days.
Grandaughter's first Sports Day tomorrow so will be cheering from the sidelines!!
Get scan results on Thurs, just feeling a liittle nervous now, tummy a bit burbly, keep your fingers crossed girls!
Am on the "how can I be sooooooooo tired" bench, it's tiring being tired xx

foxyferret
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Hi ladies
Well, one down fourteen to go! All went well I suppose but I must say I have never felt so much like a name and a number! A nice lady collected me from the waiting room,showed me where to change into my cape(yes, it's official I'm Superwoman). Another lady collected me from another waiting room and took me to the radiography room telling me that would explain every step to me. Did they hec!! They got me on the table ,put me in position and proceeded to talk radiographerese to each other. told me a screen would move in front of me and left the room. I knew this would happen but they didn't tell me anything!! Very cold and impersonal. Good job I've been on this site and read every pamphlet they've given me as otherwise I would not have had a clue. Absolutely no mention of moisturising or keeping hydrated!!

However then went into city and had a very nice lunch with daughter who had accompanied me and a bit of retail therapy and then came home and went to work! So not too bad a day but I can see this getting very boring for three weeks especially as it's a two hour trip to the hospital and back. Still, no choice! Will have to see if fatigue hits me or skin problems I always feel that if I refuse to have SE's then I won't!!

Have a good evening, may all your SE's ne little ones!
grumpy
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Choccie I've sent you a PM but as this is the first time I've done it with the new website I don't know if it will get through.
I've just remembered that CABs often have a Macmillan benefits advisor who deal specifically with people like 'us' and that may be useful to others on this site.
And no you didn't let yourself down, you just showed them up for the insensitive incompetent w**kers they are.
hugs
grumpy

JCJ
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Bit of blue paper? There's posh! I was offered nothing at all. I was just advised to keep my camisole on and just roll it down on the bed. This was so awkward to do I found it easier, and actullay far less embarassing, to take everything off (top half only, obviously!) and just hold my T-shirt clutched to myself to walk to and from the rads bed.

Anticipating rads is certainly more nerve wracking than actually do it tho', so you'll be fine Foxy.

HUGS to CM - I've fenced the alligators in one end of the pen just in case you fall in - and made sure there are life belts available at regular intervals!
grumpy
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Choccie , rushing out for auditions just now but I will PM later this evening, promise.
grumpy

foxyferret
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Oh, and please don't throw yourself in the alligator lake!!
foxyferret
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CM you posted while I was still typing. I'm sorry that your work related whatever didn't go well. It's just not right that work throws spanners when we are already coping with so much. I've no advice I'm afraid but having posted that I hoped it went well and then finding it didn't I couldn't just leave it like that. I hope that you can get some advice from somewhere.
foxyferret
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Thank you to those of you who responded to my post, Revcat for the hug most comforting and especially to ChoccieMuffin for the comprehensive and most informative guide to rads. Some of it I knew and some I didn't (e.g. going topless) I am very grateful for the information Please rest assured that EXCESS alcohol will not be taken!!!!
A piece of blue paper!! Good grief!! I've been given a rather fetching little cape affair to change into for the waiting room but as it has metal poppers on the front and shoulders I guess that will be coming off! So I may get your piece of blue paper. To be honest as I now have a tendency to walk into a room full of strangers and immediately flash my boobs I'm not that bothered.
I hope your work related whatever went o.k.

I am back on the optimism bench and am about to have a strawberry fruli (just the one!) as I was reading about it on the Dark Dark Woods thread and am curious as I had never heard of it.

I wish you all a good evening from my rainy part of the world.
ChoccieMuffin
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CSL bench for me this afternoon. Think I blew it today. I was so stressed and angry and upset, I don't think I did myself any favours, but I don't know anyone who's at their best when they're under attack and have been found guilty of something they haven't done. I feel like I've been found guilty of witchcraft and am waiting to be thrown in the pond. If I'm innocent, I sink and I die. If I'm guilty, I float and they kill me.

Definitely CSL bench. Either that or drowning at the bottom of the alligator lake.

Cackles
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What a day. No more "I am really surreal" but her memory and teaching has been left behind. the garden will never be boring again. I "see' the beauty thanks to clare.
Revcat Bewitched it a good term for you. Always there when needed twitching you nose an giving good advice. Take care in that new sporty number.
Choccie your Radiotherapy advice is spot on. I took low dose enteric coated asprin and wasn"t even pink. I also slapped the aqueous on thickly at night donned a cotton tee shirt and let it soak in overnight. Hopw all goes well Foxy.
Debs tand Vecors hanks for posting re Clare on Facebook....It is such a shame BCC is no longer the first site for so many....What a mess all because of trying to improve things.
I am now going to deliver my old cotton tee shirts for a friend who starts Radiotherapy on Wednesday
Cackles xx

grumpy
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Choccie - some thoughts, and apologies if I'm teaching grandma how to suck eggs -
1. take someone with you to make full and verbatim notes
2. list all their mistakes with dates etc, keep a copy, and present it to them
3. refuse to discuss the matter further until you have a WRITTEN response
4. insist they contact you ONLY at home, email is easy to use
5. insist that appts are outside working hours or at very least at the end of a working day - how dare they expect you to come out of work when the whole point is to get you BACK to work. Medical appts are different - doctors decide what you need not employers, and you shouldn't be expected to use holiday allowance for medical appts anyhow.
6. contact you Union/professional association or CAB - you need an advocate to make sure that THEY follow all the rules just as employees/clients have to.

Sorry if this sounds too full-on, but many years of advocacy/trade union work has shown me that a lot of 'agencies' don't actually understand the Rules apply to them as well as us.

Go to it, girl, and good luck
grumpy

katytc
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Benchland is full of snowdrops and the colour turquoise today, in memory of Clare xx

ragamuffin
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CM hoping that all goes well with The Great Un-Named Who Cause Grief and Think They Always Know Best.
Support support support and love Diana x

AnnieK68
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Have bumped up but just in case here's the link
http://www.breastcancercare.org.uk/community/forums/i-am-really-surreal-place?page=61#comment-2034737
Well done on Race for Life, we're doing it next month - there's one thing for sure, there always seems someone worse off than you doesn't there?

Ax

supertrouper
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My message posted twice.....

supertrouper
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I looked for Clare's thread tonight and for some reason couldn't find it. I wanted to post a message to her to say that I was thinking about her whilst I was doing the Race for Life today. There was a woman pushing her daughter in a wheelchair - on the womans back her "I am racing for" sign said "I am racing for my daughter who is terminal" Her daughter looked about Clare's age. All the time I was doing the race I was reading the "I am racing for" signs - and I felt very humble. My daughter was with me and her sign said "I am racing for my wonderful mum who beat this" my sign said "I am racing for ME and my fellow survivors".
Anyway - can someone please bump up Clare's thread so that I can post a message to her? I am going to bed now but will look in the morning. Thanks.

ChoccieMuffin
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Foxy, at one rads session (towards the end) my lovely rads lady Helen said "how are you today?" My answer? "Hung over." Helen didn't bat an eyelid, but did laugh a bit. Don't think she was used to such honesty!

Seriously though, it is a good idea to keep yourself well hydrated during rads, and excess (I stress - EXCESS) alcohol can be very dehydrating. However, the odd small glass of something relaxing, that helps you sleep, is not going to put everything in jeopardy. (This is personal opinion, I have no medical training, just personal experience and an interest in "stuff".)

Rads can feel a bit "full-on" because you're there every day, but I found it quickly fell into a bit of a routine. I got to know the staff, how they did things, where I needed to be and when, and I found my four weeks just dashed by.

Look after your skin. Don't use anything on your rads area that hasn't been cleared by the rads team. Even your shower gel. Aqueous cream is a great shower gel, and dirt cheap. It has nothing nasty in it (but if you have some, bring it in for the rads peeps to check the label) and I found Holland & Barrett aloe vera 99% gel was incredibly soothing to apply many times a day. Went through lots of it, and it makes a great hand cream if you have any left over.

Some people advise NOT wearing a bra, but personally I found that my post-surgery very snug sports bra was just the ticket, to help avoid ANY rubbing of skin against clothes. Going bra-less for me was very uncomfortable. But everybody finds their own best way of doing things. It is certainly a good idea to have some time just lying around with the air getting to the skin, and at least it's not absolutely freezing this time of year so it should be achievable.

Best of luck for next week and the following weeks. It's the start of another unknown, and therefore stressful, experience. But I hope your team are very supportive.

Oh, just a thought. If you have some kind of wrap-over top, you might want to bring it with you. Some people feel a bit vulnerable being completely exposed. Depending on where you are, you might be provided with a regular hospital gown (which I found worked best tied at the front so I could keep the un-radiated breast covered) or perhaps a specific breast gown, and others just expect you to be happy with a piece of blue paper. But if you have your own top that will let you maintain your dignity as far as possible, that might make YOU feel better about it.

Expect to be asked your name, date of birth, favourite film and what you had for breakfast every time. (ok, so the last two maybe not, but you get the idea...)

I'm not sure what bench I'm on. The tiddly bench, probably. Or maybe the indecisive one? Not quite sure... At least it's not the CSL bench. That could change by tomorrow evening though. I have a meeting with the organisation that cannot be named tomorrow, and I'm really dreading it. I've been spending the weekend reading their procedures manual (which I have only just been pointed towards) and I'm completely horrified at how many things they've done wrong over the last six months. OK, I hear you say, then you have right on your side. Perhaps, I reply, but they have a record of making the wrong decisions so I have no confidence they won't just carry on in the same vein. I am so distressed about all of this, I can't begin to tell you. I must make clear that this is personal opinion and not the opinion or view of BCC. Just in case the moderators decide that my post needs to be moderated...

RevCat
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Foxy.... a very quick reply (I'm meant to be ironing clothes ready to leave at 5 a.m. tomorrow morning!)

BIG BIG hug for you.

And as for rads and alcohol... that's rubbish, you can have a drink if you want one, just don't go mad. It's alcohol on the skin (in products) that's the no no not in the mouth! A night cap is fine... trsut me I'm a vicar-type, a TT one to boot, but it is defintiely OK to have a little drink now and then during your rads... just don't spill it on your boob/scar 😉

Keep up the moisturising of your skin (aqueous cream or 99% aloe vera) and try to keep active to fight off fatigue.

Back a week on Monday but offline till then. Ciao for now Benchlanders.
foxyferret
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Will be wearing turquoise for Clare, have read her thread and have laughed and cried. Wish her whatever she wants its so difficult to put into words.

I have had two weeks back at work feeling fine and doing normal things. I had pretty much managed to put this "bc thing" to the back of my mind. Now today I've spent on my own and Rads start on Tuesday and its all being brought to the forefront and am having a dose of the collywobbles and am on the gently snivelling bench as it all becomes so real again. Both children tell me that the bc has been removed now and that the rads are just pre-cautionary but I know different...... and I am so NOT going to tell them, daughter has health problems of her own and more stress will not help her,and son,I think is still in denial as does not say anything and as their Mother I will will shield and protect them from anything nasty. BUT this does leave me feeling rather alone...Have not long moved to where I live now and friends are at the end of a phone and not here.

Oh dear have just re-read this and I do sound sorry for myself,must give myself a kick up the proverbial and get on with it !

Also , quich question have read somewhere that alcohol is a no-no during Rads. Is this true? If so, oh dear there goes the nightcap.
katytc
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Have to agree, beautiful words xx

ragamuffin
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Revcat I know it's been said before, but I'm going to say it again- you really do have a wonderful way with words! You hit the spot every time -thank you. I'm wearing turquoise today too and have been out admiring how well my white camellia, named Clare, is doing after I followed Clare's advice in how to plant it. She has been constanly in my mind today and I too hope she gets her wish to slip away in her sleep. x

RevCat
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Today I am wearing my turquoise suit - a lot of my old ladies love it as the skirt is VERY long and they approve. But I'm not wearing it for them. Today I'm not even wearing it for me. Today I'm wearing it for Clare, lover of turquoise, and hoping her pain is soon over and her release peaceful. I will miss her, we will miss her, but look - over there, in Benchland where anyhting is possible, the snowdrops are pushing their way through the dark earth, reaching for the sunlight and waiting for their momnet to reveal their green hearts of love and life once more.

Big, big hug for you Twinky, you have been a wonderful friend to Clare these past months. Now we stand alongside you in quiet gratitude.
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Hi Ladies
I'm on the quiet bench as I just read the post from Clare's sister about Clare choosing to remain at the hospice. It's so hard knowing you will lose someone who has shown herself to be a very special & inspirational person to so many. We all knew this time was coming but all wanted her to keep on going! Sadly it's not possible & the best we can hope for is that she goes peacefully in her sleep. That's what we spoke about when I delivered the rose tree. She just wants to go in her sleep. She must be feeling poorly as she was still very anti with regards to the hospice but the time was obviously right for her to go there as the pain became worse. I had some texts earlier this week but she's gone quiet now. I know she was finding it harder to concentrate so I hope she is finding it peaceful out there on her patio overlooking the gardens.
Hugs to you all, goodnight

Twinky x
grumpy
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Twinks, when I thought I was going to have chemo, my Senior god-daughter decorated two little pull-on hats from an outdoor shop with beads, sequins and embroidery, and they are LOVELY so I'm sure you will be able to create a good wedding hat.
Now I've actually taken in the notion that I CAN have a nip and tuck, I'm exhausted with it all. Why is high emotion so wearing???? and I didn't need one of Revcat's thwacking ladles so I haven't been carted off in a police van...........
Had to sit on the No Money Bench today - got the invoice for having the house painted OUCH!!!! but it's a good job so that's OK.
love to all the lovely ladies in Benchland
grumpy

katytc
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DO DO, DO DO, DO DO DO DO DO, I'm thinking more of Bewitched RevCat! Makes me smile, I'm such a 60's child, Endora, Aunt Clara and Samantha, now RevCat!
Twinky hope your wedding is great and you have lots of fun!
Congrats everyone who is nearing end of treatment, big sigh of relief.
Wonderful, wonderful news grumpy, soooooooooooo pleased for you.
JCJ it's pouring here too, hope you get to see the tennis.
Jane, enjoy your quiet day, fingers crossed.
CM, feeling guilty because I can't think of anything, brain blank.
Have a good day everyone no matter where you are flying, driving, training, bungee jumping or trampolining! xx

CanonJane
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What a kind thought CM.... My unit certainly gets lots of chocs and biscuits, ao I think fruit is a good option for those trying not to put on weight (most of them!)
Hope the wedding's brilliant Twinky.... Everyone will be looking at the bride, so relax and enjoy...
RevCat, you seem to have created a pagan bench, flying in on a broomstick and giving out lucky charms! Or maybe it's New Age.....I tried 20 consecutive days the other week - it's not good for us! I won't be doing that again! When you come south are you coming near us?
I'm on the Phew! Bench. Had THE most manic week, lots of aggro with a volunteer, and yesterday I "flew" round the hospital at 100mph, did loads, left with the place sorted, statistics done AS WELL, coffee cups washed up.. thinking to myself "I haven't worked at that speed/intensity for a long time! Yay! (and Phew! with delight and exhaustion!) Must have walked miles... (nearly!) So... can anyone tell me why I then couldn't sleep?????

Got a rare day to myself, bliss.... (hope pager doesn't go off!)

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Well done! and Congratulations! to those of you nearing the end of treatment.
CM How about some really nice biscuits? - (easier to grab and munch on the go than fruit?) - or home made brownies, flapjack or similar usually go down well.

As for paragraphs: If you press SHIFT and enter it should work. It did before anyway. Don't know if they've tinkered again!!

Supposed to be going to Edgbaston for AEGON tennis today (tickets were a birthday present from daughter! :))- play starts at 11am, weather forecast for this pm is dire, we have 30 min, drive, 20 min train and 30 min walk to get there and OH still in bed (10am). Tickets only refunded if there is less than an hour's play in total. At this rate we will miss the only tennis played. 😞

On the fuming bench.
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Twinks, I hope you enjoy your day today, and don't overdo it. Final chemo is a milestone, but I found it more satisfying to celebrate 3 weeks AFTER the final chemo, because I was celebrating that I WASN'T at the hospital being poisoned!
Three weeks from yesterday I will be celebrating my final Herceptin. I'd like to bring in something for the chemo unit, but don't want to just bring in chocolates. Any suggestions? I was thinking maybe making up a fruit basket would be a nice thing to do, what do you think?

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I see they've been tinkering with the site again. My paragraphs no longer work......LEAVE IT ALONE
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Hi Ladies
Grumpy....pleased that things are getting sorted to your satisfaction & that you're not grumpy! RevCat...thank you for the reassuring words. I have decided to ditch my attempt to look for a suitable scarf/ hat for the wedding & instead wear one of my. Kemal hats that matches my outfit do that I feel more like the current me rather than trying to struggle with a new look just for the day. I have been to buy a flower to stitch to one side of the hat as a concession to the ocassion! Think I feel quite relieved about that after watching videos of scarf tying!
I do seem to be on the wobbly bench though ( I'm the wobbly one, not the bench do put your tool lot away RevCat). Suppose it's a combination of side effects plus the emotional moment of heading for my final chemo. it also brings the return to work closer which I have very mixed feelings about after being ignored/excluded by my work colleagues. I'm quite shocked at their attitude & not sure I will ever feel the same way about them again. I will be making some career changes in the medium term but for now I have to grit my teeth & carry on as the main breadwinner in the household ( lol no pressure then)
Twinky