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foxyferret
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

What a day! Did all housework, house now looks (and probably smells!) a lot better. I'm not a great fan of cleaning and have had an excuse recently for sitting on backside doing not a lot. I suppose now I've proved I CAN do it, I'll have to do more. Oh well.
Katy I was reading the new Jeffrey Deaver book "XO".

Friends arrived about 5pm and I've just waved them off to their B&B and will see them tomorrow.

SLUGS ugh!!!!! Far too many about. I have just put my rubbish out for the dustmen, suppose I ought to call them refuse collectors these days, so I opened the front door and just avoided standing on one on my path. About 3 inches long!! So glad I saw him in time.

JCJ - I know what you mean "the why won't they go" bench. I think it's because I live on my own and am used to the quiet. When my family come round, of course I want them to and I love to see them, but the noise that they generate, especially when they all come together which they mostly do. Four children aged 8,7,6 and 2 in a small house can raise the roof! After a while I'm just thinking "please go home and I'll see you all again in two or three days"! Then they DO go home and the peace is wonderful for a while and then I start to look forward to them all coming again!

Hope you all have a good week whatever you are doing.
JCJ
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Grumpy, I think EVERYTHING's got slugs this year - we had a tent FULL of them - had to remove them from ubrella before opening it and being showered with the little (and not so little!) bu**ers!! Had one in my shoe! Ughh! Bleurghh!!

Sitting on the guilty bench for a while having been on the "Why won't they go!" bench. Son's GF and 4-year old turned up unexpectedly while I was in the shower this morning and stayed for lunch. Lovely to see them, (when I stopped worrying that there was something wrong with son, or a major break-up or something - he was off somewhere else!) but I had planned a CBA day with a FEW vital hosework jobs in amongst.

Hoovering half the campsite off the carpets was one of those vital tasks. 4-year old kept presenting me with bits of grass and tiny stones he found whilst crawling on the living room floor with his cars!

Now feeling guilty that I should make the most of such 4-year old visits - who knows what's around the corner! I did do all the right grandmotherly things - just not in my head!!
grumpy
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Well, ladies, not quite sure which Bench today ..... did a 'garden sort-out' and tip run yesterday (why DOES everything keel over and die when you take your eyes off it??) so could be on the Smug Bench for a bit.
Today planned a Big Walk with the Girls so could sit on the Cream crackered Bench after tea BUT surprise surprise it's been pouring down........

So having to sit on the Catching Up with Paperwork Bench, just one step above the Housework Bench, and nearly as tedious!

Found the missing garden chair, upside down hiding behind some shrubs - was it trying to show sympathy?

And the spudlets have got SLUGS so I reckon all in all I need to be on the Stop Moaning Bench for a bit
grumpy (sitting on the grumpy bench)

katytc
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Ali, you are on the "fabulous" bench!! and yes I'm sure a bag of salad can feed 21 people, you just have to be inventive! Cake sounds lovely, we don't care about calories in Benchland!
FF, What book were you reading? I expect you are up cleaning etc now...........
Thank you RevCat for the replenishments enjoy your week off!
Bottom is firmly placed on the CBA bench this morning xx

Ali_H
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Wow.... I've been out for a meal to celebrate sons birthday, not one mention all night of BC, being poorly, doing too much, or looking really well all things considered...it was fabulous!!!!

The cake is covered in chocolate buttercream icing, and decorated with giant cadbury's buttons, maltesers and marshmallows. It's a gazillion calories a slice, but it's all right because there's also a small bag of crisp green salad. Do you think this is enough to feed the 21 people coming tomorrow??? It's been really nice to concentrate on something joyful and put the whole cancer thing on a back burner for a bit...
foxyferret
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Well.... I got up this morning with good intentions. My best friend and her husband are coming down to stay tomorrow and I intended to clean the house from top to bottom. A very good book got in the way and I've done zero cleaning!
As they won't get here before 2pm tomorrow an early start is on on the horizon!
Will be great to see her, she's been the recipient of many phone calls and has been a good support to me. Also her husband, we have this great " flirtacious" relationship over 35 years.
So am sitting on the "it's all going to be last minute " bench but then that's the story of my life! Always have left everything to the the last minute.......but it's always got done!

Grumpy -there's nothing like the the taste of newly dug potatoes - enjoy! We used to dig up our new potatoes and then rebury them in a tin and dig them up at Christmas and have them with Christmas dinner and lots of butter - wonderful!

Revcat - thank you for the hankies,cupcakes,spoons and alligator thwacking, enjoy your holiday.

Best wishes to everyone.
RevCat
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MMMmmmm yum, thanks Ali. Very de-lish indeed.

Just sitting quietly on the ponderous bench today... Benchland is looking very beautiful with gentle sunlight, green grass and the deceptively blue Lake of Guilt. Had to nip down and chuck some in this morning... survivor guilt is a nasty, pernicious thing. Feel better for dumping it though...

Now, then, alligator thwacked with big ladle, hankies ironed, cupcakes replenished and spoons aplenty... ah, that's better, I can go on my hols (from home) with a conscience as clear as a clergyman's... which is perhaps as well!!!

Love and hugs to all Benchlanders.
Ali_H
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Ok ladies....best bit...who wants to lick the bowl out?? 🙂
grumpy
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IT'S STILL RAINING (no men though!!) and we've had 3 sets of clothes on, so we're all on the Feeling Soggy and Hacked Off Bench. Dog towels festooned over the dining chairs........
BUT I've been on the Smug Bench - rushed out between showers to dig up 2 rows of 'earlies' so I've got lots of lovely little spudlets to eat. Poached salmon and new potatoes tomorrow....yummy. Hope there will be some cake left over somewhere in Benchland.

grumpy

Lilac51
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Do NOT go to a certain newsagent/sweetshop in Burnham on Sea. My son saw a packet of Cadbury choc covered pretzels and wanted to try them. I gave him a ten pound note and he went to buy them at the counter. He came back with a fiver and fifty pence. I looked at the price ticket and they were £4.50! To make matters worse he doesn't even like them, so I've been forced to eat them all. xx

katytc
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Hmphhhhhhhhhh! She says wiping the smeary choc from her face, dribbling and drooling all at the same time! Cake is lovely, now where are the pretzels????????xx

JCJ
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Don't give any choc cake to Katy - she'll only spread it all over her face and blame the dentist!

Only kiddin' - as long as I can have some too!

Really excited today because I've just found out Cadbury are making chocolate covered pretzels. Had some years ago at Christmas - and then haven't beeen able to find any since. They were extremely more-ish! They still are! At £1.50 for a bagfull, I was hoping they'd last so I can share them with my daughter next weekend - but they're still just as delicious so that's probably too big a stretch for my will power - well I had to check they were as good as I remembered - then I had to check again..... and again..... and again..... Oh dear there don't seem to bemany left! 🙂
Ali_H
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Hi Katy yes, lots of Choc cake...my epitaph could be "never knowingly under catered..." 😉
katytc
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Yipeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! Ali, good that your son is making plans and your smear was clear!!
Dentist was fine didn't need the alligators, only ever having had a few fillings, this impressions and xray malarkey, when did all these new fangled gadgets come about???????
Walked into town afterwards and popped into opticians, had to get my reading glasses adjusted, so was telling the girl and she said "come to the mirror and show me" went to the mirror and saw that my face was covered in gunk from the dentist, my face went red wasn't a flush this time. The moral being always check before venturing out after being at the dentist!!! Why did no-one tell me?????????
Do you think there will be any choc cake left for the hungry wee souls in Benchland??? xx

Ali_H
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Lol ladies, loving the dance of the 40 cardis!! Dentists....eurgh, not good with teeth and pain...
Son missed his grades by 20 points, clearing doesn't seem to have what he really wants so we are thinking out of the box (got that phrase from a friend in management, good innit?!) and finding lots of alternatives for him, basically a year or two out to take a different exam course which will stand him in excellent position for his chosen uni course..(which is something to do with maths, computers and AI / robotics...don't ask me, I'm a dressmaker!) He's 18 tomorrow, how did that happen??
Better go make birthday cake, chocolate rocky road with chocolate icing!
Have a gentle, smile-inducing,sun filled weekend everyone x

Oh and smear result came back normal :)... Nice to have a clear result in something!
RevCat
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Oooh JCJ welcome to the synchronised flushing squad! How exciting we can enter the triples as well as the doubles next time. Soon we will be up for the team event at this rate.... whoooooooosh.

Katy, thinking of you at scary dentist person. I'd be tempted to take an alligator with me to bite him/her if needed...

Bucketing with rain here, so joints extra achey and stiff. Way behind on sermon prep this week... too busy doing other stuff. So have to work extra hard today to cacth up. Then a week off chilling and enjoying visiting places from home 🙂

Ali hope yur son is feeling brighter today.
katytc
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Ali, hope your son is fine, my girls are past that stage thank goodness. It's a nerve wracking time and he has done really well!! Fingers crossed.
Lottie, what a day! Hope you were able to relax on the comfy sofa!
JCJ, welcome back! Ofcourse you can join we received a GOLD medal this year and are now aiming for 2016 games to regain our title, the synchronising is a little difficult but you will soon get the hang of it!! I'm having a bit of bother with the bright red face at the moment, looks like I'm sunburnt, difficult cause we haven't had much sun!!!!
Off to the dentist today, first ever crown, not scared of the denist but a bit apprehensive...............................xx
aaaaaaaaaaah the dance of the 40 cardis how I've missed that, may join in after my cup of tea xx

JCJ
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Well! Back, today, from 2 1/2 weeks camping in SW Wales and it's taken me over an hour to catch up with you all in Benchland!! Fed up that I missed ALL of the olympics - apart from a couple of hours on each of 2 days, over dinner, in a pub when it was raining! Really hoping the beeb do decent coverage of the Paralympics.

Still, mustn't complain, we had a lovely holiday - even stayed longer - we were originally intending to come back on Sunday! And we got home with a dry tent in spite of a wet and VERY windy night.

RevCat + Katy: Is there room for a third in your synchronised flushing team?? Don't know if it's the Tamoxifen or the Zoladex, (or probably both!) but my "I don't seem to be having any side effects" is no longer true! 😞 It's particularly noticeable at the moment now I'm back indoors after 2 1/2 weeks in a tent!! I've been paractising the dance of the 40 cardies!!

Well, musn't linger on here. Loads to do.
RevCat
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ALi your son has done brilliantly - those are HARD subjects (I know, I did them a very long time ago!). I also recall the sinking feeling when my A level results weren't what I wanted/needed. I was lucky enough to get the course I wanted and did really well at it. Really hope he gets a place to do what he wants to do. Hugs for you as you support him.

Janice you've had one helluver day and are allowed your bench of choice, large pot of tea (or something stronger) biccies and indeed whatever you need by way of comfort treats. Flippancy aside, be very kind to yourslef, you've been through the mill today. Hopefully tomorrow will be kinder to you.

Hugs to all.
Ali_H
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Janice, sit yourself down on the in need of a spot of TLC bench, I've put the kettle on for a nice cuppa and there's biscuits in the tin...special non fattening but still delicious ones. Comfy slippers, there you go...relaxing music...breathe deeply...let it all go.... today has been full of stress and sadness, but tomorrow is a new day x
lottie63
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Oh Ladies , what bench can I go on ... Just got back from a 11.10am rads appointment its now 2pm ! While I was waiting to be seen a lady was waiting with her 6 year old son hes had Leukemia for 2 years it went and came back poor little mite, really upset me , once in Rads they didnt like the look of my red swollen boob, me neither so sent to see a Dr in clinic, been put on Anti biotics fort 2 weeks grrrr , while waiting for prescription 1 hour 15 mins some poor soul died in the corridor !! Now ive come home feeling totally depressed, I have spent the last 3 hours feeling totally cancer-fied I know theres no such word but Im just feeling sooo deflated , Guilty, Sad you name it I feel it

I soooo hope tomorrow is a better day ... going to find a nice soft bench somewhere to rest my weary bones

Janice xx

Ali_H
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Just settled myself on the think my son's missed his uni grades bench...he knows he's got a B in maths but has had to go in to sixth form to find out about further maffs and physics, and he's sure he failed physics! I'm incredibly proud of him, he has diabetes (and a fear of needles, not a good combination), I was diagnosed in jan just as full scale revision and exam prep started and yet he's got a good result in a subject I could never get to grips with...unfortunately the courses he wants are all AAB. I hope he can see what he's achieved rather than thinking he's failed....
RevCat
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Mmmmmmm blueberry muffin - fruit 'n' everything VERY healthy, one of five a day... yum yum yum. The salmon tagliatelle sounds yum too... all those healthy omega oils to boot.

Yes, back to waiting... descriptions of next phase sound suitably eyewatering but hey, it has to be done. In the meantime next week I am having a week of holiday, not going way but have a friend up and some days out planned.

Sun shining today as all school here are now back and it's one of those unwritten rules.

Hope everyone has a great weekend - will report back when there's anything to report, but have just checked all the spoons, hankies, ladles (extra large order of those), boingy stuff and alligator traps. Made the error of listening to 'Always look on the bright side of life' on You-tube and now it is glued firmly in my mind! Altogether now....

Benchland looks on the bright side of life (whistle)

More lyrics anyone?!
katytc
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Aaaah the waiting begins again RevCat, one bit over anyway! Had no sunshine today and now we have torrential rain, yipeeeeee!
Hello grumpy sounds an exciting journey home, hope you're not on the FF bench.
Stirred myself off the "snivelley" bench and went over to the "healthy eating" bench, (NOT) cause I had salmon tagliatelle but it's made with cream and a dash of vino. Ate a blueberry muffin thereafter..............
Muffins available near the shed and hot chocolate with marshmallows tonight girls, slurpy slurp!!xx

grumpy
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Oh Revcat, are you sure you're OK after all that prodding and furtling about???? Did you remember which end of clothes to remove? I saw my GP re 'irritable bladder' a few weeks ago and started to strip off me top - not me keks - much to his surprise!!! This is the chap who wore his pink net tutu to do the Fun Run to raise funds for breast cancer research......
Beryl is fine thank you, I have thought the garage could perhaps sort out MY hot flushes and staggers, full fuel injection clean out (OUCH), check all gaskets and leaks etc. Must mention it to the onc next time I go to clinic.
Boil Wash completed so dogs snoozing on the hearthrug as next best place to personal cushions, and my stuff has been through on several Quick Washes - why do holidays produce so much laundry when staying at home just makes one load??? (Sorry, dreaded housework topic)
And someone asked me today how I coped with a vehicle breakdown 'on top of everything else you've had to deal with' Answer: life goes on, with or without breast cancer, and she nearly said oh you are brave but (sensibly) decided to keep silent!! We know it's well meant but it's still annoying......
And I've used the jolly as part of the Stop Smoking Plan, and it's going OK, just had 2 fags from the breakdown driver to help with the stress bless him. So it's patches still and those little nicotabs to suck for a few more weeks yet.
AND IT'S STILL BL**DY RAINING
grumpy

RevCat
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Hi Grumpy [waves] we've missed you. Poor Beryl the Peril, hope she's fixed soon.

OK, so GP was adamant ... no to backflips... even pressed down to make sure I did not try! Been poked, prodded, scraped, sawbbed and other things too numerous to mention, well actually no, that was about it. Now just have to wait for referral to "the other side" of the river for gynae O/P where they will do even more yukky probing and prodding "to rule things out". GP seems pretty relaxed about it, she's sure it's the Tamoxifen but they have to make sure... On the soft cushioned bench now

Lovely sunshine now... and back to work!
grumpy
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GOOD MORNING, LADIES ....
Been on a little jolly to the West Country - lovely - but had to come home 2 days early cos Beryl (the Bongo campervan) decided to have several hot flushes, and the staggers. I know how she feels...... Anyhow had to be relayed home, and the doggies had to stay in Beryl on the low-loader, so OF COURSE they both had a wee on their cushions in spite of frequent stops for 'walkies'
So now I'm on the Boiling the Washing bench, shortly to be followed by the Gardening bench - strange that 2 of my garden chairs have disappeared while I was away, on no, found one all smashed!!! If this is due to branches falling off that f###### tree overhanging my garden that I've been trying to get the landowner to cut down I shall be on the FF bench!!!

grumpy

katytc
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Hope everything is ok, RevCat, been thinking about you xx
FF glad you have decided, you may have NO side effects whatsoever! Keeping fingers crossed!!
Am on the "totally over the top emotionally" bench as I seem to be shedding tears at everything, not blubbing but silent, tear flowing, firstly it was the olympics, then a tv programme and finally this morning wait for it................................an advert!!!
Will be popping over to the "getting on my own nerves" bench shortly if I can stop snivelling xx

foxyferret
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Good luck tomorrow Revcat. Will be joining you very shortly in the synchronised flushing as I have decided (finally) to take the dreaded Tamoxifen.
Had the appointment with onc last week and discussed it thoroughly and after much research and soul searching have decided that I have got to give it a go. It is still a bit unclear as to how much good it will do me, but I've decided I can't live with the "what if?" if this bc comes back and I hadn't taken it. My thinking pretty much changed when he showed me the path. lab results that said my results for ER+ were "100%, strong". Until then I didn't know how ER+ I was and that gave me a kick up the proverbial!
I need to deal with the here and now, not what might happen in the future!
I think I've spent so much time trying to downplay this diagnosis with my family that I started to believe myself that it was no big deal!

Gold medals to everyone here, we all deserve them in one way or another. Olympics were fabulous, don't know what to with myself now there's nothing to watch. Hope the BBC give good coverage to the Paralympics.

Best wishes to everyone.
GIJaneH
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I should think the gynaecologist is hoping you don't do double flips.... brings a whole new meaning to "synchronised" !!!!!!! Hope it al goes well tomorrow Revcat... have a hand to hold....

Off into the Great Silence tomorrow, but I can still hold hands.... which reminds me, when I was being kept awake by StEroid last year, a friend lent me a dvd of an order of completely silent monks who lived in the Alps... she hoped it would be sopporific - which, to an extent, it was... I watched it one night, nodded off and woke up to see these monks (in white habits) having an amazing time sledging down a local slope in their "free time". It was SO funny and unexpected (and woke me up again!) But it did make me laugh (silently, of course, so's not to wake anyone else up!)

The olympics bench is looking sad... roll on the Paralympic bench...!!

TTFN, love to all, Jane

RevCat
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(Flushed ever redder)

Aw thank you Katy. Squeaky that's what I hope too - crazy hormones for a crazy vicar - quite appropriate, don't you think?

Murky and muggy in old Glasgow town today. Synchronising flushes.... whoooosh! Will let you know how I get on with the first round of gynaecologicial acrobatics tomorrow! Hope it's not like the diving where you have to do six differnet attempts with double flips 'n' everything!!!

Hugs to all, stay cool, and DON'T FEED THE ALLIGATORS!
katytc
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Special, special thanks to RevCat for her wonderful words of wisdom and kindness to others in need of reassurance, always there even when she has her own issues so belated gold medal on it's way to you along with many hugs xx
Well even though olympics are over am still keeping up the sychronised flushing just have to try and find a way to calm down the bright red face, perhaps another event???????
Murky day here yugh xx

squeakymouse
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Revcat hope your test goes ok, its hopefully just crazy hormones. Enjoy your holiday.

Squeakymouse

Ali_H
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I'm on the 'been a good girl and had my smear test done' bench. Lovely nurse was just reading my notes as I arrived, she obviously didn't want to distress me by saying "cancer" or "mastectomy" but we managed quite a nice chat along the lines of "and how are you feeling after the ummmmmm, errrr, op? " along with a running commentary about my cervix being hard to reach. Bless her!!
ChoccieMuffin
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GIJane, you've had my daughter asking what I was cackling about again. I'd LOVE to do an induction course with you, though I promise I'll avert my eyes at the right moments.

Just completed (finally) the Jobseekers application pages on the internet. Couldn't find the box asking what I had for breakfast a week ago last Wednesday but they asked questions about everything else... I hate that kind of thing, and I get all in a tizz. Ridiculous, I know, but I think that sort of stuff is designed to scare off people who don't like dealing with numbers. I didn't even do the ESA when I would have been entitled to it. You never know, I might even be entitled to it now. Cancer recovery and depression, do they count?

Anyway, back to less miserable topics, I spent yesterday evening with some very good long-standing friends who I don't see nearly enough, and we had a Closing Ceremony gathering. Four women, four teenagers, two of whom had been Olympics volunteers. What a weird - and totally British! - closing ceremony. I doubt anyone from outside the UK would have 'got' most of what that was all about. One question we asked was, 'Who did Emily Sande sleep with to get such high profile?' Thought she was dreadful, and sings through her nose. (Someone else said 'we could ask the same question about George Michael'.) But at least the two Sirs (Cliff and Paul) weren't allowed out of their bathchairs.

Oh, oh, I'm going to visit norberte tomorrow! Can't wait, it's been far too long since I last saw her. (I admit, I still have her Christmas present to deliver...)

Anyway, back to playing silly games on Facebook. I would be out in my garden but in my mad moments I went wakeboarding on Friday and completely ricked my back. No, it wasn't the wakeboarding that did it - it was putting on my wetsuit! I was completely incapacitated, and couldn't even walk without having someone to lean on. It's still REALLY painful, but I have ibuprofen, and some left-over cocodamol to take the edge off. Darn nuisance, this is the last day of reasonable weather for a while and I wanted to get out and cut the grass and do some more garden improvement tasks (have a few laylandii to cut down) but really don't think I should stress my back for another few days yet.

So I suppose I'm on the Enforced Rest bench, and feeling rather frustrated by it. Ho hum, should be better in a few days I hope. And at least the cushions here are comfy.

RevCat
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Katy, posted on your new thread, but have a Benchland hug too...

Realised I typed some twaddle the other day... 'postmenstrual bleed'? Nope. Should have typed 'post-menopausal bleed'... evidently after 12m they term any bleeding thus. Still not too perturbed but not looking forward to the acrobatics and internal investigations required to rule out anything nasty. I'm convinved if it were men that'd have a blood test by now... 😉 Reputable websites don't help on this as they say medics 'assume sinister until proved benign'.... thanks!

Anyway, Olympics over, and on my wind down ready for a week of hols next week. Not going away but have some plans for chillin' locally 😄

Hope all are OK , especially anyone in waiting rooms or having treatment.
katytc
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Thank you Jo, great help!!

Jo_BCC
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Hi Katytc,


To start a new thread, choose the area you wish to post in from the list on the left hand side of this page (you will have to scroll down quite away as they are in the wrong order again - technical hitch - sorry) click on the forum this will then see a small purple bock with the words 'new topic', click this and you will then see a grey page, scroll down this page to nearly the bottom and you will then see an area with boxes, one for your subject heading and then one below where you can type your text. After completing these two boxes scroll down a bit further and you will see two grey boxes, one on with 'post' and one 'preview'. If you're happy with what you've written click 'post', this should now be directed onto the forums.


Hope you can follow that and it works for you, any problems let us know.


Jo, Facilitator

katytc
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What were you getting up to Jane on that induction course???????????
Can anyone tell me how I can start a new thread please, can't seem to find any answers!! xx

scottishlass
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Love it Jane!

GIJaneH
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Ah.. RevCat... these referrals can produce the most surreal moments... had to go for a colposcopy.... entered the room, new female gynecologist (however you spell it). She looked up, smiled and observed that I was a member of staff. Yes I was... We've met before haven't we? Yes we have, at..... "Ah, I remember, I knew it was more than in passing"... 10 minutes later, i've got my legs in the air, she's looking into a dark place when she suddenly looks up and says "I recognise you now! You gave a talk at the induction!"... and you recognise me from THERE????? Made me laugh...

welcome back - you've been missed!!!

love Jane

RevCat
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Goodness gracious - even with this new forum and its v-e-r-y long pages of posts we slipped onto page 2... there was a time in the 'old days' when we'd have been hald way down page 3 and making appropriate jokes!!!

Anyway, just as I think I might fade away, I get dragged back to the Land of Benches by the elastic cord known as bungee. Have just had GP give me a gynae referral following what she termed a postmenstrual bleed 22 months since chemo tried to wipe out my menstrual cycle. Not too concerned, as it's most probably just one more Tamoxifen side effect to add to my collection, but it is a bit of a nuisance. Well Woman Clinic and something with a weird set of letters on Wednesday, and watch the post box for hospital appointment... So, on the bemused bench, twiddling a large thwacking ladle just in case I need it!

Have loved the Olympics, and am just so glad to be bascially well again. Hugs to all Benchies.
GIJaneH
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Rant away Eve! I was training volunteers last month and one of them heard "don't try to pin silver linings to someone else's cloud"..... Love it! She thinks I said it, but it was new to me, so someone must have said it in a group, but it's so true.... "Rightly pissed off bench" methinks! Thwack!
jane

Eve76
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Now seriously, if one more person tells me how well I look, I'll get out that thwacking ladle...! Argh!!!
On top of that my Onc was as jolly as Santa Claus, pointing out how well I am doing 'being half way done with chemo' -
hold on right there - I still have to get through the next 2 weeks and finish this cycle, before I reach the halfway point!
Mentioning that my last treatment should be on Oct 8 she happily declared 'it's August, only 2 more months and you're done.'
No, chemo doesn't end on the day of the last treatment, there are 3 weeks of crappiness following and even after that I'll be far from my pre-chemo self!
I guess, I teleported to the 'mightily pissed off' bench. Hoping there are lots of cushions available...
Sorry for the outburst and thanks for listening to me ranting away! xx
katytc
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Lovely news Ali, glad you are comfortable now! Where are those creme eggs???
Eve nice to see you popping in, hope you are feeling a bit better, do enjoy the extra super duper comfy sofa.
Good luck to eveyone with appointments, fingers and toes crossed for you all.
Been glorious today, can't quite believe it!!
Still on the olympics bench, do I feel guilty? Not a chance enjoying it too much! xx

GIJaneH
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Hope appt goes well Eve, and you are "heard".... for me, it felt important to plan treats for the 3rd week after chemo, before I got battered again. Need something to look forward to, in the middle of teh grot - so well done you! Love the Ed. Festival! Totter gently, and see if you can flop into a sofa today, rather than a hard bench - they are dotted around! The Olympics sofa's quite crowded - might need another one...
Jane

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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Thought I pop in and see what's been going on in Benchland.
FF - I hope your (ex)friend apologised for the highy insensitive comment. I am all for using the thwacking ladle.
Sorry, but all that talk about snails and froglegs is making me a bit queezy... Am not usually that squirmish so will blame it on the chemo.

Been absent for quite some time, turning into a bit of a hermit. At the end of the second chemo cycle last week things started finally catching up with me, going all emotional. Luckily I had a friend drag me out of the house and we enjoyed a lovely Sunday with a visit to the Edinburgh Fringe, lunch at a restaurant - no cooking for me! - and a glass of bubbly (first one since treatment started) - well deserved if you ask me to celebrate the 1/3 mark of chemo in style.
Had my third treatment on Monday, but felt rougher than last time, so more reclusiveness and plenty of rest to have enough spoons for the one fun outing of the week (which was last night and absolutely worth it). Also bummed I haven't been able to enjoy all the lovely sunshine we've been having - better not dwell on it and chuck the guilt in the lake, watch out...!

Had a quick visit to the 'pissed off' bench - thanks to the benefts' people... (don't get me started).
Now on the 'am not quite sure how I am feeling' teeter totter - as I have my appointment with the Onc later today.
Not sure what to expect...

Hope you all have a good Friday and wonderful weekend! xx
Ali_H
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Thanks ladies, I'm not bothered by the lack of nipple at all but a couple of my non BC friends thought it was strange to not want one...maybe you don't know till you're there. So I'm pleased to read that I'm not weird after all!! Actually the stick on ones sound like a good compromise. 🙂

Hadn't found the word games Val, will have a look for them. It's nice just to be able to chat to ladies who understand how you feel without having to explain all the time!!
scottishlass
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

I have managed without having a new nipple for 23 years and I wouldn't say I hve missed it. But everyone is different. I am just pleased that my new boob still looks as good as it did when I had my mastectomy with reconstruction. Pity gravity has affected the old one though! With a bra on no one would know anyway and my Oh says he is happy with the way I am and is just pleased I am still around after all this time!
Now going in to have a complete hip replacement as the pin they put in my leg last year has fractured! Any day now. So I am going to sit on the quiet bench to watch the sun go down. Good to see Benchland back as I have missed the thread.
Do all of you know about the word games on the Chitchat (see left hand column) as new people are not joining it and I would love to keep it going.A few ladies have already posted that they did not know it even exisited! It used to be a very active thread and was a chill place to be where you can escape BC yet communicate with other people and get to know them. If you are in Benchland and fancy a game or two we would love you to join us. Val

RevCat
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

That's great news Ali. 18m on I've become totally accustomed to the one side with and one side without nipple look, and actually not sure I can be bothered with the nipple recon option as it will be a minimum of 6m after my symmetry procedure which won't be anytime soon! My hosp offer you stick on ones (made to measure!!) if you don't want a surgical one. There is no right or wrong answer, just what is right for you. I quite like my smooth perky boob!


Hope you continue to enjoy your new look and grow in confidence daily.