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GD takes after you then KTC? *ducks*

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Woo hoo grumpy!!!!! Happy birthday, hope you have had a lovely day!!!
Birthday cake in the shed, balloons on all the benches and barrels of glitterberry juice on tap! It's party time xx

Ps my gd never stops talking xx
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Happy Birthday to yooooou!! Grumpy. I hope you had a good one.

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Happy Birthday Grumpy.  I so nearly said that last night as I thought it was your birthday but wasn't sure enough and didn't want to look an idiot!  Hope you've had a lovely day.

 

I've had a very quiet day cutting out cushion covers ready for making and watching some of the Xmas tv programmes I recorded.

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Happy Birthday to me, happy birthday to me, happy birthday dear grumpy, happy birthday to me!!!! Yes, I was a new year baby!

I'm 68 now, and don't look a day over 70 (says Joey, who has not yet learnt his sums...) Still they clubbed up their pocket money to buy Mummy some nice perfume from Boots (other chemists etc) but got their paws in a tangle trying to wrap it. Just give it 'ere said I.

Here's hoping we all have NICE stuff this year - it's shaping up quite well isn't it, with a wedding to come.

love

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On the smug bench. I've started the year as I have absolutely no intention of continuing it: by cleaning my 'new' ovens. They have been on my 'to do' list since the summer holidays. I was determinef to keep them nice by regular cleaning. Yearly is tegular, right? Didn't take YD's advise which was to move house to avoid cleaning them! Smiley Tongue

 

I have also made a lasagne for dinner, from scratch. Enough for 4 portions, so I can freeze 2 for another time. I'll put some in the shed too, so help yourselves. Salad and garlic bread alongside! Smiley Happy

 

Feet up with my kindle (,other....) for 40 mins while it cooks. Bon appetite! Smiley Happy

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Happy New Year Girls, 2016!! May it be happy, healthy and fun.

All quiet here, one grandchild later for a sleepover, first time I have been on my own at Hog and I must be getting old cause I wasn't at all bothered, haha!

 

Was on the "crazy thinking" bench earlier but have calmed down hugely, aaah it's amazing what a blip does, friend that went for a mammo (other breast) at surgeons request is fine whew so, so pleased for her xx

 

And JCJ it WAS you who always sparkled the bad words, not moi!

How fab the fireworks were, aliburgers and glitterberry juice consumed by all, really don't know how FF manages itSmiley Happy! xx

 

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Meg and Joey snoozed through the fizz bang pops - only raised their heads when cheese and bics were served....... nothing new there!!!

Happy New year to all Benchies, may 2016 be full of joy and lovely things.

Grumpy (and squiffy)

Xxxxxx

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*Sings, (silently of course)* For auld lang syn (or however you spell it!)

 

Someone in our village jumped the gun and massive load of fireworks went up 5 minutes early. Fools!

 

Benchland fireworks have been amazing and I particularly enjoyed FF's ferret dance on her head, holding sparklers with both feet! I did't know KTC knew so many 4 letter words!! I hope The Duchess and ASBO boy aren't being scared by fireworks.

 

Wishing everyone a Happy, healthy 2016! xx

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It's 9.30 on New Year's Eve and my virtual self is enjoying the party in Benchland. Looking forward to the fireworks.  Great outfits everyone.  How do you walk in those heels?

 

My real self is pinning and tacking material together for the backs of new cushion covers and watching re-runs of QI.  

 

Once I would have really been out partying, how times change! 

 

HAPPY NEW YEAR everyone. I hope 2016 will be kind to us all and our families.

 

 

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Don't know about "last crumbs" of Christmas cake, FF, we haven't even cut into ours yet!! Still scoffing mince pies, Welsh cakes and pudding. It'll probably last until Easter! 

 

Talking of which, I spent nearly all day looking for a holiday cottage for the school Easter holiday. (Because I can this year! Smiley Happy)  Got  shortlist of 4 that were either Sunday changeover (OH's preference) and/or not too far away and preferably fairly near sister - so we can visit.  Looked again at shortlist. Don't like any of them for different reasons. Back to square one. Smiley Sad

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Watch out for KTC, T4T, she's been known to write rude words with sparklers! Or was that me? Can't quite remember! Smiley Happy The fireworks will be a.maze.ing, of course, everything we do in Benchland (especially weddings Smiley Tongue) always is.

 

The bruising might be due to blood changes (eg. less platelets) - maybe due to your meds? The blood tests will probably determine the cause so stay calm! x

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Yes t4t, there is a New Year's Eve party tomorrow.  Silent choir will sing Auld Land Syne, alliburgers, Xmas leftovers, the last odd mince pie, crumbs of the Christmas cake and various other foods which may or may not be out of date will be on offer. Be wary.

 

Stick to the alliburgers, they're always fresh! 

 

FIREWORKS at 11.45 to see in the New Year but I may well be in bed by then after a nice hot chocolateSmiley Happy

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Try not to worry Katy, unexplained bruises can be a sign of a vitamin deficiency, obviously what the blood tests are for but yes, speak to a Dr. if you are worried.

 

Been shopping today with daughter, promised her a new coat for Xmas but to be bought in the sales.(I didn't have a Yorkshire upbringing for nothing!)  Walking from the car park to the nearest shops I got absolutely drenched.  It was raining heavily, no hood on my coat and an umbrella was not an option as it was blowing a gale.  We'd tried on a few coats before Xmas to see what she fancied but there wasn't much. (She's a size 16/18 and a lot of things make her look larger). First shop we went in today, first coat she tried on, fitted, looked good and was bought at a price that I was really happy about.

 

Then she made me walk round every shop imaginable looking for shoes, clothes for her daughters etc. My back was killing me!  Eventually she dragged me into a clothing retail store which we had visited before Xmas where I had seen lovely knitted jumpers for my grandsons and had rejected because of the price.  £45 for a childs jumper?....I don't think so!  Today they were £12.99.  Guess what they are having for their birthdays which are in January? So glad I went there.

 

I really hope you are all staying dry. Some flooding aroung here today, a few roads closed and trains stopped but not too serious yet although it's still raining. 

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I'm rather surprised your daughter hasn't already asked the benchies to be her wedding planners, JCJ.  It's shaping up nicely imho Smiley Happy

 

Off to the mother-in-law's tomorrow for a quiet new year.  Are there fireworks (other than the hot flushy ones I already get) in Benchland on NYE?

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Oh geez just changed into my jammies and have another huge bruise on my other leg, am at nurse for blood tests tomorrow will ask if I can speak to a doc, a wee bit worried now, not telling anyone else so have to say it on here. xx

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Ooops overstepped the mark regarding The Duchess, a ringbearer????????? What was I thinking???

Hope the weather is kind to you grumpy.

Am on the " hopping mad" bench, brand new coat now has a small tear, grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr, boo hooSmiley Sadxx

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The Duchess has graciously consented to be a flower girl only repeat ONLY if the flowers are pink and lilac to match her new collar.... honestly!!!!  Joey doesn't know what a ring bearer does, but as long as he can be centre of attention he will ' give it a go'. I predict disaster ahead.

Rain coming again over night and Floodline map looks grim for the next few days. At least we got off lightly compared with other areas.

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I "direct messaged" YD rather than broadcasting to all my Twitter followers (only family at moment as locked account!). She never replied. Not sure if she's still reeling in shock, thinks it's too stupid to warrant a reply or never read it. Whichever, I am not going to push it! Smiley Tongue

 

Lovely sunny day today, so we packed a Christmas picnic: Turkey sandwiches, vegetable crisps, mince pies, Welsh cakes and clementines, with a flask to make tea, and went for a walk by a reservoir. Then we had chippies for tea. Yummy! 

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Oh my good grief!  I would pay good money to see you in that "Veronica" Leotard JCJ.  So what did your daughter think about our suggestions?  

 

Surely the Duchess will want to be a flower girl?

 

I get two lots of itchiness Katy, one is caused by the Relon brand of ta'poxi'fen and is not really a bother. The other is an "undiagnosed dermatitis" .  Had it for 30+ years, seen dermatologists, had many tests and they still don't what it is but if I can get the steroid ointment on it fast enough it's not too bad.  I know it's stress related though and with daughter as she is I'm getting through the ointment at a rate of knots! It only happens on my forearms and back......most strange!

 

Been shopping for clothes today ( I hate clothes shopping but I've lost so much weight worrying over daughter that I had nothing that fitted).  I was really shocked to realise that I now fit into a pair of size 10 supermarket jeans. I've come home with clothes to fit and cream cakes to put some weight back on!!

 

Off to watch Gareth on tv.....lasso missed him after the carol concert.....grrrrr.......

 

 

 

 

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Hahahaha love the "Veronica" and my with your superly flat tum JCJ, you will look wonderful, instead of confetti we'll throw GLITTER.................it's going to be sooooooooo much funSmiley Happy!!

This will change your daughter's life forever, a day she will never, ever forget, woo hoo!

You and OH can ride in on Hump and Dink, just think of the ooohs and aaaaahs, everyone will be sooooooooo surprised, and when you step down in the "Veronica" can just imagine the gasps...........

 

Tat you too can be a bridesmaid, just select a colour, thinking the Duchess and ASBO boy can be ringbearers.....

 

Dreary me............had to go to docs, back still sore, skin has turned really itchy and a small bruise I had on my leg turned into a monster bruise in a couple of hours. Doc thinks I have bruised a muscle in my chest, doesn't know what itchy skin is nor bruise so have blood tests on Thurs. What was your itchyness FF, can't remember??? xx

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I logged on to see how everyone's Christmas had been.  Then I spotted that JCJ's daughter is getting married and thought what a lovely thing that is to look forward to.  And then, the usual benchie madness I have come to love took over and I'm ROFL at the planned bridesmaid attire.  Brilliant 😂. My kids snigger over my wedding photos - the hair, the clothes - but these are timeless classics 😬 Do you know if they do pocketed versions?

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Oh gosh, it just gets funnier and funnier. I had to tell YD about your suggestion for the wedding, Katy, because earlier on today, when she was googling (other....) "Made to measure women's suits", looking for wedding outfit ideas (neither of the brides will wear a dress!!) she stumbled across this: (warning: not for the faint hearted! My sister's broadband settings blocked it!!)

 

http://libidex.com/made-to-measure/made-to-measure-womens2.html

 

As (one of) the bride's mother, I think I should wear the Veronica leotard?!

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Haha JCJ, just think of the sheer surprised looks when we turn up in all our finery, Smiley Happyall that LYCRA!!! Hee hee. Mother of the bride outfit, glitter, glitter glitter, it's fantastic!!

Forgot to say thank you sooooooooooo much for all your hard work, the carols, you did superbly well, bravo!!

Well done FF, a Winter Spring clean type thingy, woo hoo.

Mum is a whole lot better, thank goodness, back seems to be calming slightly, we'll see, scared to say too muchSmiley Frustrated!! xx

 

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Oh Katy, that really made me laugh. I was watching TV with the girls and they looked at me expectantly. Assumed I was looking at Twitter and waited for me to share the joke. Wondering how they would take it, debating whether to read it to them, and imagining the horrified stares just made it even funnier. I didn't tell them. Daughter would be amused - not completely convinced about her OH - she probably would, but let's not take the risk?! Smiley Happy

 

They've just left to drive home. I miss them already. Why do they have to live so FAR away (heads to GetAGrip bench - they could live in Australia FFS!!) The house feels very empty so I'm consoling myself with mince pies, Welsh cakes and chocolates. Now feel a bit sick. Trundles to FB bench - good job I added extra reinforcement to it for Christmas?!

 

Ah well, ES's birthday today. 31! How did that happen??! He says he'll be up sometime soon. And this year I'm not waiting for liver mets  investigations, so I can book our Easter holiday. Yay!

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Sorry your Mother was not well enought to enjoy Christmas Day with you Katy, glad she is better today and also hope that your back improves.  Your shenanagans (sp?) at the Chariot race are probably to blame for that. Your ideas for the wedding are brilliant!  Just what they need!

 

On Boxing Day it's the tradition that we all go to son's for tea and nibbles and we still did that today although we had been been there all day yesterday. So I had a lot of the day to myself and I woke up in just the mood to sort out my conservatory.  It's been the place to put stuff that needs to go to a charity shop/tip in the last few months as daughter has been moving and I've been meaning to sort it out for ages but couldn't get off the CBA bench.

 

It's done, it's sorted, it's cleared, it's cleaned, it's tidy.Smiley Happy Boxes and bags in the car ready for a tip run tomorrow. Am I mad? Boxing Day and I get the urge to clean? Yes, probably but I have to make the most of these times when I'm in the mood.

 

Had a most enjoyable time at son's again tonight, wasn't home until almost 10pm. The game of Trivial Pursuit didn't happen, we were too busy talking!

 

 

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ooooh how wonderful JCJ, a weddingSmiley Happy!

Now was thinking if it's Aug (MMU 4) we could combine, wedding on the beach, wedding breakfast in Rita's, cars (our chariots) and a humongous muggatea at the Kings. And biggest surprise Benchland Bridesmaids!!!! WOWEE!!!!!

 

Had a fab day yesterday, food was demolished, haha! dessert for 16?? No it was dessert for 4, could hardly move..............

Lots of lovely gifts and some pennies to spend, have already spent the pennies.........bought a coffee table sooooooo very pleased.

The bad news, no Mother for Xmas Day, she had a bladder infection and had to call doc, who came out with a prescription, good news she feels better today, whew!

And moi, back is being awful, so have swallowed lots of painkillers, spasms are s*****, fingers crossed it calms down soonSmiley Frustratedxx

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Glad everyone seems to have had a nice time. YD & "D-I-L" arrived 7pm Christmas Eve and we fetched a takeaway from our local Indian restaurant. (Strictly NO leftovers allowed!). We had an ENORMOUS Christmas dinner at 1.30pm yesterday and were all so full that I didn't bother microwaving the pudding and we had fresh fruit salad instead (which I always have on standby at this time of year - a refreshing antidote to all the rich food!) 

 

The girls did the washing up, bless them! After opening some of the presents, a sit about and a short walk, we managed to force down a Turkey, stuffing (2 kinds)  and cranberry sauce roll each and some mulled wine.

 

Today we will have boxing day pie (a cunning, lazy a**e, but delicious meal I devised a few years ago, that has become part of the essential festive routine!) Chunks off the turkey and the ham, smothered in bought white wine & cream sauce and topped with bought puff pastry. It takes about 5 minutes preparation, and is delicious served with leftover vegetables! The Christmas pudding will follow that down beautifully! Smiley Happy

 

I expect, if the rain holds off, we'll go for a walk to get some air and burn off some calories!!

 

I had a text from ES yesterday too, to say he was enjoying his day ("we" - so spending it with GF - which was a relief, he hates Christmas and I was worried he'd be moping on his own!) "We will deal with you later in the week" Smiley Happy Smiley Happy Smiley Very Happy 

 

Both offspring happy. Made my day! 

YD's wedding likely to be July or August 2016, because they're hoping to have it in a pub garden! 

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That's so lovely, Foxy. I, too, have had a wonderful day being force fed and winning at cards. YESSSS!!!

Hoping everyone else has had a good day 😀
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I've had an absolutely brilliant day.  Dinner at 1.30 was wonderful and we were so full up we had pudding at 5.30! Totally delicious.

 

We spent the intervening time opening presents (I've been really spoilt this year, great presents!) and playing Trivial Pursuit. One family against the other. Me, my son, DIL and three kids against Daughter,SIL and three kids (one of whom was fast asleep having worked a night shift! and another who's only 16 months old!).  So we fancied our chances and got off to a great start but were slowly overhauled and we LOST.  The rematch will be tomorrow but grandaughter who was asleep will be awake tomorrow, so I'm not hopeful!  If we do win tomorrow we'll have to plan a decider at New Year.

 

This has been the best Christmas Day that I have had for years. I am so grateful.

 

Now at home to watch all the tv programmes that I have recorded.

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Merry Christmas one and all!!!! 

Lunch with friends and family in the village, and now it's RAINING......

 

Meg and Joey have new collars - meg is all pink and girly, and joey is tartan and ever so butch.

 

Waiting for Downton frocks now - why did I get to wear Mrs Patmores frock? Surely I could have been loaned one of Dame Maggie's outfits.......

 

Big Walk tomorrow, weather permitting - weather forecast is still a bit iffy.

 

Love to all

Grumpy

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Merry Christmas girls x have a wonderful and very happy day x x woo hoo !!
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Merry Christmas! Wishing everyone a lovely day. 

 

I've put the oven on to roast the beast, made a mugatea, and now, thanks to the fact we have no excited children bouncing about, I'm considering going back to bed for a wee while. No-one else is awake yet. Or I may head to the quiet reading bench. If I can get past the CBA bench!! Smiley Very Happy

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I thought our silent choir tonight was wonderful. JCJ's brilliant carols perfomed with such harmony.  Katy, I never realised you could sing descant.  Gareth conducted beautifully and yes, I have a lasso and space in my under the stairs cupboard.  He'd better be wary! Smiley Happy

 

JCJ - thank you so much for our advent calendar carols. (What are you going to do next year?)  I have really loved it and you surpassed yourself today with that last verse.  So very, very true.

 

Pass me a mince pie and a glass of glitterberry juice please, let's start the party!

 

A very,very MERRY CHRISTMAS to you all!!!!!!

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Awesome carol, JCJ 😀

 

i get get deliveries from H***** and just love them. NOT.  They shall forever be known as H**pes to me now.  Absolutely perfect 😉. 

 

Have a wonderful Christmas xxx

 

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Christmas Eve. Last advent Carol. I've struggled with this one. Running out of inspiration?! 

 

Awake in a hot sweat (as requested by FF)

 

Awake in a hot sweat, throw covers off the bed,
The demons of cancer abound in my head.
The wind in my stomach causes pain when I lay,
Then lazy JCJ asleep half the day.

The camels are glowing, the donkey’s on skates,
But little dog Joey for The Duchess he waits

I love all my new friends, who understand my plight
Someone to laugh with in the middle of the night

Believe me, oh BCC, I thank you today

For keeping me sane, and I’d just like to say:
Bless all BC patients feeling tender and scared,
And take us to Benchland, to live guilt-free there.

 

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T4T, spoon theory: http://www.butyoudontlooksick.com/articles/written-by-christine/the-spoon-theory/

 

Awoke to doorbell at 10 to 8 this morning. 10 to 8. Christmas Eve! Threw dressing gown on. Dragged fingers through hair. Got to door. No-one there! Van at end of drive. No driver. Sh**. Expecting that JL parcel. Check porch (there's a sign on outside door saying parcels can be left in porch). Zilch. Van drives off. Sh**. Make mugatea. Pick up tablet. Email. From H***** (sounds like

 

disease causing cold sores!)  "Your JL parcel has been delivered 'to your letterbox'". What? No it hasn't! Opens outside door and there's the parcel: a cardboard box on the ground and it's starting to rain! It was lucky I was here because it's now hammering it down. My parcel would have been a soggy mess by now! Smiley Mad

 

I have re-written the slightly faded sign. Another delivery, D*L,  2 hours later, wrapped in plastic but left safely in porch! Smiley Happy

 

I've now been up over 2 hours and I'm still not dressed - or off the CBA bench- and I have a long 'to do' list before YD & her OH arrive. And wrapping delivered parcel isn't even on that list!!

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That made me smile, JCJ Smiley Happy. Do you know for sure Mad Dog Lady isn't one of us???  Hope you got back to sleep  and feel much better now x

 

FF, spoon theory sounds intriguing.....do tell 😀

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Hahahaha JCJ, she must have been reading our postsSmiley Happy!

No wonder your tummy is funny hee hee, was a smartypants obviously regarding eve's eve (not reading properly). After sitting on the "smug" bench for ages had to run to supermarket this morning, had FORGOTTEN something, grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr, at least I remembered today.

Sooooooooooooo for tonight's silent choir will be wearing a gold lycra bodysuit, scarlet tutu and nativity scene on my head. Mince pies and mulled wine and ofcourse the glitterberry juice, on the "yum, yum" bench!

tat & lavender hit the alligators as hard as you can cause we need them for the "aliburgers" xx

 

 

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Awake with stomach discomfort. Shouldn't have had that pork pie AND cheese, at the vineyard, for lunch. Not to mention the curry pickle. Or several mince pies, welsh cakes and chocolates this afternoon!! 

 

Anyway, I remembered something I meant to tell you. Something I saw going down our road. In fact I've seen her a few times in the last few days, and every time I laugh. You couldn't write it. Well, we can, and do, but this is where real life comes crashing into the virtual madness and takes you by surprise. You won't believe this, but honestly it is true: there's a lady who walks 3 dogs. But only 2 of them walk, on leads, pulling ahead. The third is in a walker, similar to KTC's 'chariot' but with 4 wheels, and it's pink! Yes, pink. Not only that but it is currently adorned with tinsel - presumably blinged up for Christmas - or has she heard about the chariot race??? The lady pushes the walker and the 2 dogs pull from the front, the third dog sits up looking like royalty, and they all career down the street. Hilarious, in the light of our recent Benchland madness!! :-) I think she may even be wearing knee highs - but no sign of a tiara!

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Oh yeah, well done me.  Got off the CBA bench and everything is wrapped and ready to go.  Unfortunately the realisation that I have got eldest grandaughter.....nothing....has also dawned. Whoops, think the fact she had her 22nd birthday on the 18th Dec. removed Christmas present from my mind while it was concentrating on her Birthday present!  

Fortunately a voucher available from local supermarket will be purchased tomorrow. PHEW!  Also she will much more appreciate vouchers to spend on what she likes. I no longer know what 22 year olds like Smiley Happy

 

Tat, such a difficult journey you're on and the holidays don't help. At least Nurse 'B' gave you a plan.  It is the not knowing and the waiting that scares us most.  A zumba bench....ok, fine, as long as you don't expect me to be on it. Benchland could do with a good dusting and the replenishment of tissues and spoons! Seen the spoon theory?

 

JCJ - tomorrow- Away In A Manger?  Twelve day of Christmas was an absolute masterpiece. Can't wait to sing it "silently" tomorrow.

 

Katy- we are all at son's this year, We all usually get together on Boxing Day but this will be the first Christmas Day dinner that we have all shared for 10 years. so looking forward to it. It will be special.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Hi Jill. I posted on your AS thread to wish you a lovely day tomorrow, with absolutely NO hospitals or AS involved Smiley Happy

 

The sarcoma team and breast team are technically in different hospitals, although on the same site...sounds complicated, and definitely works out like that!  I don't want to create any tension or bad feeling with the breast team, but I am effectively voting with my feet and will ensure I have regular contact with the sarcoma team from now on.  The consultant is a bit lacking in bedside manner, but the nurses are all lovely, thorough and thoughtful.  Hopefully I'll have my path report before I get to see sarcoma man.

 

We're off to my parents' tomorrow for Christmas for forcefeeding Smiley Wink

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So sorry to hear of your meltdown Tatty , but soooo understandable , you seem to have had the most awful time with your appointments and results . Please stand your ground and insist that you are treated by the Sarcoma team , rather than the breast team . This disease is so rare you need the expertise of those who have treated it before , and sooner rather than later . 

 

Bummer that Christmas and New Year hols delay everything !!  I was diagnosed on Christmas Eve last year , and had to wait to see Sarcoma Team on 2nd Jan which seemed an age to me !! Realise now he saw me early , and performed my radical Mx on the 13th Jan , for which I am eternally grateful !! 

 

Hope you manage to keep your brain occupied with the bench dusting and tissue re-placing , but don't hit too many alligators with those rocks , they might get agitated and chase you round the benches , they move fairly swftly when provoked !! 

 

Hope everyone including the camels has a great Christmas ...

 

Hugs,

Jill xxx

 

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Thanks JCJ.  Got it now!  Brain obviously had a holiday last night.  NOOOOOOooooo, not charades please.  

Any thing but charades!

 

Not done a lot today, now I have to get off the CBA and wrap some gifts.

 

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Ali, it's true you learn a lot about your 'friends' after a cancer diagnosis *wry smile*.  I did all of my secondary schooling in the far east and school friends are now scattered all over the world, but I've had cards, flowers and obscene amounts of chocolate sent to me by them.  A relatively new friend sent me a box of things useful for hospital and the early days post op.  She'd researched it and everything was perfect, right down the button front PJs and a can of G&T!!  Another friend downloaded and knitted me a 'knitted knocker' and designed several seasonal covers (Rudolph, complete with sparkly nose; a Robin red breast, of course; and a Blue Booby, a real bird!).  Shed a tear over most of those gifts - people are mostly good, kind and generous Smiley Happy

 

Warning - long and ranty post.  Stop reading here if the camels/kids/OH need feeding or a cream cake/box of chocolates is calling to you Smiley Wink

 

I had a big meltdown at bedtime last night - spent a lot of time on the crazy sobbing lady bench - but it had been building for a couple of days.  I'm so frustrated over the delays in appointments... My op was 26/11, results appointment 14/12 and was told an appointment with the onc would be forthcoming as rads are on the cards.  I also requested a copy of my histopathology report, but have to make a formal request to access my health records, so I'm making my third request to complete (I hope) the full set from all 5 hospitals that have been involved in my misdiagnosis (local hosp), diagnosis (tertiary hosp) and now tertiary treating hosps....

 

Unfortunately, I arrived at my results appt late and flustered; I'd allowed over an hour for a half hour drive and parking, but heavy traffic meant I was a few minutes late and I forgot some of the questions I wanted to ask.  It also seems there is a bit of a turf war going on between the sarcoma team and the breast team over who leads my care (or who gets to write up my case in the medical journals?  I'm such a cynic, but with less than 0.05% of all cancers in the breast being primary angiosarcomas, I'm pretty sure I'm right to be).  The day after my op, my breast surgeon cancelled the sarcoma appointment saying the results wouldn't be back by then......and then made an appointment for me at the breast clinic on exactly the same day!!!!  I have specific questions about angiosarcoma and spent far too much time online yesterday, with predictable results :'(

 

This morning I called the sarcoma CNSs, all of whom are lovely and very proactive.  The BCNs are OK, but I've seen/spoken to a different one every appointment/call and they have never called me.  So, the lovely Nurse 'B' calmed me down and worked out a plan.  She's organising an appt with the Sarcoma consultant and I can make an appointment at the sarcoma nurse-led clinics any time I need to.  She also told me that the onc I have been referred to has clinics on Fridays which means the earliest appt will be 8th Jan - isn't it a good job there's nothing I want or need to do or plan for January, eh?   At least 7 weeks between op and onc appointment and much longer, no doubt, before I can start rads Smiley Sad

 

Still felt a bit wobbly today, so forced myself to go to Zumba (can we have a Zumba bench?) with my daughter and a couple of her friends - always puts a smile on my face - and a long, long walk with the OH and our dog.  Keeping busy helps me, so I might pop in over Christmas and do a bit of dusting around the benches, top up the tissues (only fair since I've used most of them) and throw rocks at the alligators, if that's OK?  

 

I hope you all have utterly fab Christmasses with your nearest and dearest.  I'm sure you will all be on Santa's 'Nice' list for the way you keep Benchland in running order and welcome and support newbies Smiley Happy  Hugs to all xxxx

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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Hello all!!! Your post reminded me of one of the surprises of my cancer diagnosis Tat, which was the reaction of friends. One very close friend was in tears , offered to take me to appointments, shave her head as a fundraising (hah, that's a topic all of its all own!!!!!!!!) , love me forever....you get the idea. She then disappeared into the woodwork. But two ladies I was on nodding acquaintance with turned out to be absolute superstars! One would text me very rude jokes while I was having the chemo, another messaged me every day to see how I was and never took the hump (camels again) if I felt too rubbish to reply. Something I never expected! Although I think there's a saying that people come into your life when you need them Smiley Happy xx

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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Christmas Eve eve, KTC, what my family call 23rd Dec.ie the day before the day before Christmas!

 

I made some chocolates for my neighbour yesterday. Well, actually, I rolled the left over marzipan into little balls and coated them in melted dark chocolate, putting a white chocolate chunk on top. I'm really pleased with them. I had loads of melted chocolate left, so rather than waste it, I experimented with coating Clementine segments. Just had several of them on my cereal! Such decadence!!

 

On the 11th day of treatment, my BC gave to me:

 

11 nights asweating,

10 cramped leg leapings,

etc

 

On the 12th day of treatment, my BC gave to me:

12-monthly mammos,

11 nights asweating,

10 cramped leg leapings,

9 ladies dancing,

8 meeting in Morecambe

7 hairless months

6 fleeces flayling,

FIVE YEARS ON MEDS,

4 weeks of rads,

3 blue tittoos,

2 nasty scars

AND....the...Breast....Cancer.....Care....Forum

 

No idea what Carol will be tomorrow. Any requests/suggestions?

 

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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Whew sooooooo glad you practically spelt it out JCJ, cause I was having difficulties too!!!

Now I assume you were at the glitterberry juice last night as one, you are ramming people in the cafe and two it's not christmas eve today........................Smiley Very Happy! hahaha!

FF, glad your daughter's house is now superly cosy, are you going there at Xmas?

Isn't it funny how yummy things just appear in your trolley?

Tat, your head will be all over the place just now, do what YOU want, when YOU want, big hugs to you xx

Will play charades but after small forests???? can't see me doing well, haha!! xx

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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Listen carefully, FF. 'Small' is a synonym for 'Little' and 'Forests' for 'woods'. Smallforests. Get it now? Or do I have to spell it out in words of one syllable... Which would be tricky, as this particular retail establishment (possibly now defunct, and may never have been 'darn sarth'??) has 3 syllables! Smiley Happy

 

Shall we play charades for our next Benchland escapade? Lol. 

 

I'm going to a local vineyard/delicatessen tomorrow, with OH, so he can get D-I-L-to-be her Christmas present. I hate to imagine what's going to "fall" into my trolley?! Smiley Tongue We're planning on having lunch in the cafe there, if it's not too rammed, it being Christmas Eve eve tomorrow! Smiley Happy

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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Thanks ktc, comforting words Smiley Happy xx

PS hope the takeaway (with added lettuce & sweets) was delish!