Norcambe Nuptials perhaps?????
MRI scan tomorrow to find out what's wrong with my ears - diazepam in handbag to take at hospital if I feel all jittery.
Tat, do get as much info as possible, and don't be pushed into a decision before you're ready, a few more days won't make a difference. Big hugs for now.
Tat, the words "rock" and "hard place" occurred to me after reading your post. Hugs from me too. Have placed a hangover cure beside your bench. Guaranteed to work within minutes! Hopefully you will will get more info/better news on Monday.
I think we all ought to wear the orange cakes on our heads. Yes, they'll look lovely and will be on hand, I mean head, if supplies of cake get low.
Setting up a wedding organising business is an inspired idea, we'll make a fortune. What shall we call ourselves? Weddings 'R Us? Benchland Brides? Morecambe Marriages? Camels Cause Carnage?
I have heard of people having 25 rads and 15, but not 33. Perhaps you are having a gentler dose to reduce the risk of sarcoma, so you need more doses?? Just a thought.
Make a list of all your questions/concerns and go armed with them on Monday. Don't be pushed into treatment you are not happy (totally wrong word to choose, but "comfortable" not much better??) with. Remember, it's YOUR body!
Has Chemo been mentioned? (Forgive me if you've already told us you've had it/can't have it - I'm too Friday-night-after-first-week-back-at-school tired to hunt back through the posts to check!)
Have a look at some of the rads threads. I found it really helpful to talk to ladies going through it at the same time. "Starting rads in February" sort of thing! More hugs.
Thanks, ladies, hugs gratefully received. Have you ever heard of anyone receiving 33 rads? I'm sure it must happen, but I was a tad surprised and a lot dismayed. It could be mid March before I'm cooked!
Aaah tat, maybe your seroma man/woman will have different options for you, big hugs flying your way xx
Oh that's a really sh***y "choice" T4T. Piling up tissues, cake, and hugs for you by your new bench.
*Tat appears, stage left, carrying an 'Angiosarcoma Sucks' bench, a picture of the consultant who failed to biopsy the lump, a large pot of (poisoned) darts to chuck at said consultant's face and a huuuuuge bucket of G&T*
Poor onc (lovely lady) had the job of explaining the two options agreed by the MDT to deal with the teensy margin on part of my tumour. I could choose 'extensive' surgery to remove ribs, and the subsequent ribcage reconstruction, scarring, physio, recovery time, etc. She could tell she wasn't selling that to me as a first option, so the next offer was 33 rads. 33!! That's SIX AND A HALF WEEKS of rads!
We get to sleep (haha!) on that for the weekend before seeing the sarcoma consultant on Monday morning where we may, or may not (back to the rare cancer thing again), get more hard data on risks vs benefits of rads for a cancer that can be caused by rads. Aaaaargh!
And I was on the money re the turf war between breasts and sarcomas over who leads my care! The nurse was very diplomatic in everything she said, but her face gave it away in the seconds before her mouth started working 😉
If anyone needs me I'll be on the Dribbling Drunk bench for the forseeable future 😉
Glad to be of service T4T. Hope your onc appointment went OK. Yes, explaining Benchland (and its associated shouts of laughter) is always a tricky thing! One usually gets blank stares at best, ranging through "yes dear"s, hastily changing the subject right up to phoning for medical assistance! 🙂 Definitely a " you had to be there" type of humour?!
This has been an extraordinarily long week. I am so glad it's Friday evening at last. Looking forward to be trip to the chippy. (And pretending my jeans aren't too tight!!)
Yep def agree soft wool please, everything is looking fabulous JCJ, think your daughter must be over the moon!!!
A kayak would also be fantastic, what an arrival!!
Am thinking I will wear the orange cake on my head, matches outfit, love the big cake but may be a bit heavy.........soooooooooo if we run out of cake.............it's there, yum yum.
Am off out to lunch today, our late Xmas get together, no turkey in sight.
All the best for your appt tat, fingers crossed xx
Saw the latest suggestions and snorted with laughter. Impossible to even begin to explain to the OH why 😉 A good laugh is just what I need today - seeing Onc this afternoon and a few visits to the terrified bench already this morning...
I really think we're on to a business idea here ladies; we're naturals at wedding planning and with all your prior experience of big events we have it sewn (or knitted) up 😀
Cakes are absolutely fantastic, we must have all of them and I'm sure we can find some more just in case we run short!
Yes please, JCJ. I MUST have that underwear. Please knit it in a very soft wool though as anything scratchy will result in all bridesmaids squirming horribly during the service and that just won't do! And I've got no idea where the fleeces are from either, you're just being too cryptic
T4T, so know what you mean about dignity, took me quite a while before I could walk into a room full of strangers and not immediately feel the need to strip to the waist!
Welcome Jan, glad we entertained you. Just joined us and already you have a starring role as a bridesmaid, that can't be bad! No, I think purple knitted pants,orange lace and green knitted scalloped edges
Glad your snotty nose is better Katy and hope the new sleeve will help Lynn go away, preferably for good.
Hahahaha! I love the internet. Look what I found: Shall I knit us all some of these? One size fits all (or nobody) as they are laced up!!
Ha ha! I like your daughter, JCJ 😉 And I like the Benchland cake rule too!!
And cakes on our heads is a no-brainer. I found this for you KTC, obviously we'll have to tweak the colour to coordinate with our fabulous dresses.... or is this actually a dress?
Welcome aboard, Jan 🙂 Hope you read the first few pages of Benchland and Norberte's description. It's how I knew I was in the right place!
Love, love love the pizza cake T4T!! But I'm not sure there are any of "those who don't like cake" in Benchland!!? As afternoon tea at The Madlands has demonstrated......3 times!! 🙂
I sent YD the pizza cake picture and she said "but what would the guests eat?" So much of a hit that the brides would scoff it all!
Current wedding plans include a pub, a chippy van and a hog roast. Sounds good to me! 🙂
hahaha love the cakes tat, perhaps we could wear them on our head???? That would be a statement indeed!!
Now JCJ, have no idea where the fleeces are from? Am obviously hopeless.................glad you like them xx
...and for those who don't like cake...
I'm really on a roll now. I'm going to keep all these ideas for my kids' nuptials 😉
Is that the cake, FF, or the head attire? 😛
Will it be chocolate inside? Or fruit? Or maybe one of each? Non-fattening, of course, because it's benchland!
Definitely getting lighter in the evenings. Home from work only slightly earlier than usual and my first job isn't drawing the curtains! Yay! It was trying on 3 fleeces bought online from a company whose name sounds like they shouldn't be where they are: 1 purple hoodie, 1'ink' microfleece and 1 heavier weight 'top layer' fleece all a size smaller than current fleeces which are too big on me. So I am fully prepared for the dance of the 40 fleeces at the wedding!! 🙂 New fleeces feel rather snug. Different brand from usual as size 18 is XXL in T******* (really??) and they don't do anything bigger, so I've not been able to buy from them before. Perhaps it's the extra Christmas weight. They stretch though, so it'll be fine.
However, it is still horribly dark in the mornings. Sooooo hard to get up and go to work in the dark! 😞
Welcome Kayak, you joined just in time to be a bridesmaid woo hoo!!!
Thinking purple knitted knickers will be perfect, can you knit those too JCJ??? To make it easier just do one size, large..............can be pulled in for thinner ladies with flat tums, knicker elastic that's the job, just pull tight!!!
Am also loving the gloves, we can change head attire am thinking bigger feathers??
Yes grumpy there will be cake, are we doing cake?
Was up at Lynn place yesterday, hand and forearm looking good but upper arm distinctly bigger, boo hoo, new sleeves to be ordered, feel lovely and soft so we'll see.
Also snotty nose is calming down, thank goodness!!!
Still lots of rain here..........
Great news tat about your notes, lovely when someone listens xx
Will there be wedding cake?????
Otherwise Meg will decline her (virtual) invitation..........
Dignity? What's that? Half of the medics in my area have seen me stripped, so I have no recent experience of dignity. My family and I have been coming up with (mostly unprintable) suggestions for my new skill of being able to have a perfectly sensible conversation with strangers whilst naked from the waist up and often while they are 'hands on', if you get my meaning 😉
I'm counting on these bridesmaids outfits to restore my dignity and I am convinced the PVC dresses will look perfect with big, knitted knickers, preferably in a contrasting colour. Or a rainbow of colours. Discreet, classy...what more could a bride want?
Ok, professional advice as requested. Orange and purple, a classy and popular combination ever since four weddings and a funeral (love that film) because of its ecclesiastical connotations. Apparently. The green wet look frock is of course bang on trend, what with the rain and the floods. My professional advice would be - knickers. Large and all encompassing, when disembarking from Dink (DO NOT USE HUMP!! Unreliable, easily distracted, eats feathers) one does not want to display one's nethers , does one? One needs to preserve one's dignity. :):)
Welcome to Benchland Funny Farm, Kayak. I'm glad we've kept you entertained. It's wonderful to see a new 'generation' of women (and men??) being helped through the sh***y times by our antics. 😄
I'm circling the Jittery bench at the moment. Just realised that my (4th) annual check up with surgeon is a week on Monday. Oooh er! That came around quick! I am determined not to get myself worked up about it (Yeah, right?) After all, this time last year I was undergoing tests for liver mets?!!
Of course, we should consult Ali about the wedding attire (as well as the camels) because she is a professional. I was forgetting that!! 🙂
Phew........ I don't need to knit orange knee highs. Thanks JCJ. I was regretting my rash offer, might have had one glitterberry juice too many there Oh yes, elbow highs will be fabulous and really finish off the outfit.
Glad they came good for you, T4T, some people really understand that the waiting is the worst part!
I'll knit the orange knee highs, and how about matching elbow highs? (gloves. Not elbow high tights - they'd just be 'tights'?! :p)
Katy, I seem to have lost the 'L' from my (as you called it,) flat stomach. Either due to no longer being on that ridiculous fatless diet, or due to Festive overeating. Aha! So we have discovered the reason why 'Noel,' is sung at Christmas??! :D. I hope it's the latter so that eating normally will stop the blob. I've kept my old clothes just in case, but it'll be nice not to need to wear them!
What a shame that these days we expect hospitals to hide behind policy and how heartwarming it is to hear that someone has shown a compassionate side to them. Perhaps someone in medical records has been there? It's so good that you will have info before your appt T4T.
I can knit orange knee highs if necessary, if MOTB will be too busy. Hers would be perfect, mine might have a few dropped stitches ( and that's where I came into Benchland, with dropped stitches! look back if you have the time/inclination/lost the will to live).
I hope you are feeling better today Katy. Daughter? Well, it's difficult to say, she's much better than she was, most of the time no-one would realise anything was wrong. She's coping and is now on a waiting list for further therapy, hope it's not too long!
Lovely day here today, sunny and bright. A nice change from all the rain of the last few days.
I'm sitting on the warm and fuzzy bench tonight, ladies. No, not a gin induced state, but a general 'aren't people lovely' kind of state.
Yesterday, I snivelled down the phone to the medical records department when they told me it would be at least a fortnight before I would get a copy of the pathology report from my op. I really wanted to have it and read it before seeing my sarcoma consultant on Monday, but the Christmas hols scuppered that and I burst into tears! I've been a bit wobbly now everyone is back at work/college/etc and hospital appointments are starting again....real life is a bit scary after all the distractions of the Christmas period.
Anyway, this afternoon a lovely lady from the medical records department called to say they had expedited the collection and copying of my notes and would be sending them via Special Delivery! It was so unexpected; they could easily have hidden behind the bureaucracy of the trust's policies and procedures, but someone bothered to set that aside and show compassion. Needless to say, I cried again, but this time they were good tears 🙂 Just written a thank you card to the department as I didn't make a note of names.
Future D-I-L's favourite colour is green, so they'll be perfect for the bridesmaids dresses! She'll be (virtually) thrilled!
I was watching Don't Tell The Bride last night - well just the end of it, as it was on when I turned the tele on. I found myself thinking of our plans and how much better they were. 😛
If you love it FF, and everyone else agrees it will be our official Bridesmaid Dress, I know it's gorgeous.........the search is now on for orange knee highs, if we can't find any perhaps MOTB could knit them for us!!
Brings a tear to my eye everytime I think of MOTB dismounting from Hump or Dink, truly breathtaking and spectacular, Norcambe will never be the same again!
Doing the usual here pouring with rain...............sooooooooooooo fed up of getting wet!
How's your daughter doing now FF?? xx
Back to work today. No children, just the teachers to clean up after and for once they hadn't made too much mess. So not too bad. Hopefully there will be no more glitter for a while which will give me a chance to get rid of what is still left, which is quite a lot.....it just gets stuck in the carpet fibres!
Went to daughter's after work for dinner, a touch of leftovers 'r us but delicious. SIL wanted my advice about a knotty problem he is trying to resolve and seems to think I'm some sort of oracle and have all the answers.
When I was younger I always ran things past an older member of the family to get their opinion and help but now I find that I AM that older member of the family.......
Katy - was that outfit just for you or is it for all us bridesmaids? I love it!
Aaah JCJ, back to reality tomorrow then???
Just enjoy the "CBA" bench while you can!
tat did you enjoy your break?
Still on the "snotty" bench, truly it's the worst cold since I was about 12..............nose itchy, pouring, coughing and ribs aching, would join you on the "CBA" bench but don't want to pass it around!
Phoned and manage to arrange patient transport for my lido's am well pleased cause sometimes feel a bit dizzy and have a bit of nausea so it's door to door, woo hoo xx
Glad it was OK, apart from having to get up before 11 😉 I've never had a January where I haven't been returning to work as well - feels very strange! It'll just be me and the dawg soon when OH goes back to work and son to uni. Some time in this century I'm having rads too, so then it'll just be the dawg... she's bound to gnaw on the benches and eat the snacks people have kindly left out
Thank you T4T, I survived. No children in today, so that makes it easier. Getting up at 7 was nearly a killer though!!
Back "properly" tomorrow: kids and all, so I'm firmly on the CBA bench tonight!!
Bleurgh! I'm up. I'm dressed. And it's nowhere near 11am - (the earliest I have achieved both the aforementioned in the last 2 weeks!) It's still so DARK!! 😞
I'm back from deepest, darkest Dorset where t'internet is harder to find than sunshine. Been catching up and loving the way the wedding mood board is progressing. Your daughter must be thrilled, JCJ 🙂
Christmas decs all down here too and a houseful of people who don't want real life to start again tomorrow.... can I join you on the G&T bench?
Just taken down the Christmas tree & decs. Trying not to cry. Back to work tomorrow. Soooo not ready. Then I saw your outfit, KTC, and laughed out loud. Thank you! I love Benchland - always a tonic! (Ooh! G&T anyone??) 😄
This is my dress, thought orange bag and shoes would match perfectly!
Quite demure as you do not want to upstage MOTB, though don't think anyone could xx
OMG! Handbags! I completely forgot about handbags! *Dashes off to shops*
Don't panic, girls. I've found one that'll match perfectly! 😄
YD has asked me to send her my school holiday dates so she can plan the wedding. Yay!
I'm thinking of contacting her future M-I-L so we can co-ordinate. Matching MOTBs?! 😄
Good you're back delly, do you wanna be a bridesmaid too??
Am on the "totally snotty" bench, some start to 2016, am fed up already and it's only third day haha! Ribs are aching etc just the usual, grrrrrrr!
Up to see about lynn this week, she's such a pest and blood results also, am not worried at all now, funny how 24 hours changes your head space haha.
Did you manage to wear shoes grumpy? Just wondering if they are comfortable, we'll be wearing them for hours and dancing in them ( will have to be careful re the handbags?? ) xx
Oh WHAT - THOSE shoes - ha ha ha!!
Hey grills, I've been out of it over Xmas and New Year.
GRUMPY - Hey what a day to have a birthday !! Happy Birthday from me too
JCJ - YUM YUM, I love your lasagne. Get one of the "Clean you oven" services in and give yourself a present Darlin'. Just give IN to it. No Shame. No one likes having to clean their oven so WHY NOT ?? JFDI Just Flippin Do IT (flippin being the POLITE word !!!!)
You're all a load of NUTTERS - that's why I like you. HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU ALL !!!!
Awwwww, so much love from me, Delly xxxxxx