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stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

DaisyGirl
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

I have just received my copy of the latest GH mag, it has a nine page spread on the "Good News (that) We're beating cancer together" and "how the experience can be surprisingly positive". All under the pink ribbon banner.

I actually had to stop reading it, it p****d me off so much!

Don't buy the mag unless you would normally, it is not worth the money just to read the spread. Nothing new but gives the impression that once treatment is over you are OK and specifically advises to get plenty of plant (phyto) oestrogens, even though the evidence as to whether this is beneficial or not is still inconclusive.

I am still spitting feathers!

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrr

DaisyGirl xx

J01
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Well, well Bobbin2 now we all know what our problem is?????? Everyone leave your current benches and take up residence on the 'It's my fault' or 'Guilty' benches.....So have you got that girls ...cure for breast cancer.....lose weight, stop drinking and eat cauliflower!!!! Now I understand the point on diet and health and weight etc...but really how patronising for a good many of us...I for one rarely drink eat loads of veggies and certainly wasn't overweight when BC struck for the 1st time!! ( am now, 2 kids 14 years and one round of BC later)Not to mention the BRCA 1/2 gene carriers??? What next!!!!!... I'm off on me hols feeling better knowing that!!!! Choccie keep that bench warm,!!!!! Jeanette XX

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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Maybe it was this article katytc. Nothing new there then!!

http://www.goodhousekeeping.com/health/diseases/outsmart-breast-cancer?click=main_sr

katytc
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

DaisyGirl,my curiosity is getting the better of me, when you feel calmer and less ****ing furious can you please let me know what is in the article???

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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Oh dear seems like I need to spend a while on the guilty bench for even considering joining the "my OH is an a***" bench, because of course it is all my fault that we are not going on the holiday that I wanted - - I "misunderstood" him, and he thought I didn't really want to go........No stuff that, will be joining the appropriate bench after all. And then will be jumping to the "absolutely f**king furious" bench until I calm down.

But then....actually the guilty bench is oddly where I feel I belong just now having finally finished chemo.

DaisyGirl
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Angielav, I think this is a great idea! Can you imagine the scene when we all go to bed and take off our wigs, pressure sleeves and prostheses? Or someone crawling to the toilet after their second TAX?

And would certainly give the general public a more realist view of breast cancer treatment and how we are all "beating" it. The article in this months Good Housekeeping has really made my blood boil, I think I need to go and sit on the "absolutely f***ing furious bench" until I calm down!

DaisyGirl xx

angielav
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

this bench idea is sounding so much better than Big Brother .. can you imagine what great tv it would make .. just waiting to go in and the chat on the catwalk .. us all fat and bald .. then going in and nobody having any appetite and days when some of us couldn't do the challenges cos we felt like s**t.. oh the visuals are fantastic.. all of us on our relative benches each day ...though doubt nobody would watch it!

J01
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In which case we should have a REALLY BIG bench paint it bright colours and call it 'the really silly' bench or perhaps 'the especially cheerful today' bench???? mind you we had better keep it away from the furious/sad/guilty benches dont you think????

I agree DG gotta have lighter moments!!!
JXX

DaisyGirl
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

OH was off last week and so just caught up with this today and couldn't stop laughing, best thread we have had for ages! Good to lighten the mood! In fact I think it would make a good sitcom!

DaisyGirl xx

katytc
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Thank you DaisyGirl for making me laugh out loud, good bench!!

DaisyGirl
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Or perhaps the "thanks a f***ing bunch" bench?!

DJ007
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Not too sure if this is music for the 'feeling guilty' bench, or the'f*****g furious' bench - but Alanis Morissette does a good line in angst!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zXZj4O5T25I

J01
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

norberte - maybe your right, though Im not sure 2 weeks with 2 kids to walt disney in florida will allow for much rest!!!!! Im sure I be ok when we get there...perhaps it's abit of ity's been hanging on a string for so long that I don't really believe it will happen????

Yes please ask Choccie to keep the guilty bench warm Im sure I will need it when I come back and disrupt the kids again with more treatment.... they have found chemo tuff!!!!!

Tina... soon be firework season.... X JXXX

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Which bench can we play 'firework' by katy perry for? Makes me feel better for a bit....

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J01
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Not yet got mx/recon oct 3rd, will have to have tamoxifen but oncy said to wait til after my hols!!!!! maybe its post chemo blues??? pre op blues??? Who knows??
XXXX Jeanette

katytc
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

J, are you taking tamoxifen??? x

J01
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Another bench suggestion... 'I Know I should be grateful..but...'?? posted my woes on the post I put up asking if anyone ached more after chemo??? Cant explain again...I havent any energy today..feeling super miz...can you believe it when it's my 13th wedding anniv, bank hol and I go on my holiday of a lifetime this week???????? Wots up with me???JX

ChoccieMuffin
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Don't know so much about "If I said you had a beautiful body would you hold it against me?", more like "If YOU said I had a beautiful body I'd take you to Specsavers"!

Slendablenda
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

W-O-M-A-N. I'll say it again..............
Lay your blanket on the the Ground
If I said you had a beautiful body would you hold it against me?
!!!!

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J01
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

And 'stand by your man' also by Tammy W for the 'OH is a diamond' bench?? or does having a diamond OH put us right back on the guilty bench??? ...And so it begins again...... XX

ChoccieMuffin
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

How about Tammy Wynette's D.I.V.O.R.C.E. for the "my oh's an a**e" bench...?

J01
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Definitely stop all your sobbing- the pretenders- for katytc's sobbing bench....barbara striesand guilty?? for the guilty bench...or are they also too obvious??X J

katytc
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Ok move over Chocciemuffin I am back again on the crazy lady sobbing bench, my breakdowns are always very public (only had 3 but feels a lot more) so feel a bit guilty about that. I was in town yesterday and there was a small show taking place by a childrens dance company, as I stood watching the kids I started to feel very tearful and before I knew it the tears began to fall. OMG what's wrong with me???? I did not know anyone in the show, what was I blubbering for??? Beat a hasty retreat. Then was reading the posts about the music and thought straight away about Abba's Dancing Queen, started blubbering once more. This tamoxifen has a lot to answer for. X

DJ007
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Don't get me started! Unfortunately, all the cheesy/obvious ones immediately spring to mind..

I will survive - GG
Always look on the bright side of life! Monty Python
Reasons to cheerful (part 3) - Ian drury et al

lol

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J01
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Ah yes good point...that impression of an elephant is me lumbering off to the 'there,there feel better' bench....Aaah!!!...but the snack bench is still calling..????!!! pass the earplugs!! XX

DJ007
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

J - and don't forget these are turning into musical benches, so we'll all get lots of exercise! And because everyone will be moving about so much, we'll all make new friends and never get bored of the old ones.
Dx

J01
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Choccie, I'M ON THE GUILTY BENCH!!!!!! or is it the furious bench??? Is there a 'time for a snack bench' with those plastic boxes underneath full of goodies???? ...perhaps not or the guilty bench will collapse under the weight!!!

Im just happy to have my tastebuds return, and keep eating to make sure???? Oh no now I feel guilty for having tastebuds (after 9 weeks of everything tasting YUK)

I AM CONFUSED... Will it be the snack or guilty bench , the fat bench?? now I feel like crying...the sad one ..Choccie....HELP, send me to a bench...I need to sit down!!!!!!!!JX

Edited to say Phew! D, you have just added a'there, there feel better' bench XX

DJ007
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Starting to sound like these benches are made out trees that have come down in the 'dark, dark woods'! Nothing wrong with that - the recycling lowers our carbon footprint and gives us less to feel guilty about.
Dx

angielav
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Just want to know .. on the 'its my fault I got cancer bench' .. do you have to be wearing yellow wellies? Cos it is my fault but dont have yellow wellies??

ChoccieMuffin
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J, you're not allowed on there. I'm on the guilty bench! It's all my fault, I edited the post because I couldn't remember all the benches, so I'm guilty because I couldn't remember, and because I edited the post, and because it made you feel guilty and, well, just BECAUSE!!!

Oh. I think I moved onto the ******g furious bench without noticing! Ooops!

J01
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

crossed posts with choccie??!!

Edited to say just read properly choccies post and now I think we should have a hysterical bench, perhaps with one of choccies spare buckets in case we don;t make the loo...sorry TMI but the old crock impressions mean it's tough to get up the stairs in a hurry!!?? XX

Edited again to say I am heading back to the guilty bench for not reading choccies post properly first time!!!

J01
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Choccie that explains it!!! I got OH to lift me off the bench...sorry beanbag/s.....well he is a powerlifter..... I then pulled myself together & started packing, happy to report 4 cases lined up in the dining room!!!...guilt, what guilt..turn the music up!!

Spendablenda not sure if the music stops??? do we just keep moving benches? does anyone know, does the music stop????
Jeanette X

ChoccieMuffin
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Depends where you are.

If you're in the CBA beanbags you just shuffle a bit and mumble "nah, can't be ar, erm, bothered" under your breath.

If you're on the ******g furious bench, you leap up and down and scream "who turned off the ******g music!!!"

If you're on the guilty bench, you reach for the tissues and feel more guilty than you did before because someone else was out instead of you. Or because you didn't try hard enough so you're out. Whichever, you feel a bit more guilty and then sit down again.

If you're on the snoozing bench, you just snort a little, roll over and give a little snore.

If you're on the had enough of this bench, you stomp off muttering "I'm not playing any more!". And then sit back down on the bench.

If you're on the we're all equal bench, nobody's out and the game starts again.

If you're on the fat b******s bench, you stay where you are and reach for another cake.

If you're on the is it me? bench, you automatically leave the game.

If you're on the sad bench, burst into tears immediately and use up all the tissues.

If you're on the my oh's a b****** bench, turn to said OH and hit him hard, screaming "YOU did this, it's all your fault!"

Slendablenda
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

What happens when the music stops??

ChoccieMuffin
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

J, that's not a bench, it's the massive pile of beanbags in the corner! (Even if you WANT to get out of a beanbag it's next to impossible!)

J01
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Is there a very soft, cushioned bench ..maybe I have stumbled on it and cant get off....I propose to name it the ' I havent got the energy, and if I had I cant be bothered' bench.... perhaps we should remove the cushions or the 'guilty' bench will get too full??? XX
Jeanette xx

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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Thank you Norberte for giving me such a laff. My ribs are aching sooo much. It certainly makes me feel less isolated with the feelings I'm going thru' and I almost feel normal in these circumstances now..wooo hoo. It's really nice to be among people that understands exactly the feelings and emotions we have and thanks to you Norberte it will be great fun choosing which bench to sit on at any particular time. It will certainly be good daily exersize....lol. How good are you at diagrams?

Hugs to all of us. xxx

ChoccieMuffin
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Good plan, good plan...

katytc
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Thank you Chocciemuffin it's a bench I don't want to be on very often, let's move over to the ****ing furious bench, don't feel guilty about moving CM, bypass guilt and go straight to furious x

ChoccieMuffin
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Katy, I've been on THAT one a lot recently, have warmed it up for you.

katytc
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Norberte,
Can we please have the "crazy, sobbing lady" bench? This bench will have to be strategically placed somewhere in the background so as not to upset the guilty crew or get on the nerves of the ****ing furious! x

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Id like to perch a buttock cheek portion on a number of benches, but after a night without sleep with my friend mr steroid (had chemo today) I wonder if theres a bench i could have a lie down on, perhaps the "if youre really tired you'll go to sleep" bench that my husband would suggest??? I can bring my own newspaper blankets( though wont need them thanks to hot flushes) and can of special brew which I think is mandatory for sleeping on a park bench. What joy!!

ChoccieMuffin
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Not just cancer, everything's my fault some days! But thanks for pointing out that certain I gothic wrong, which puts me firmly on the "my fault" bench!

DJ007
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Choccie - it is there..

"just behinf the large circular ****ing furious bench you'll find the fat b******s bench - reinforced, obviously - which is conveniently close to the it's-my-fault-i-got-cancer bench (queue there as well, sorry, we're working on making that one bigger)"

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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Norbette
Brillant, can you give me instructions to the "had enough of this " bench guessing it's not far from the "sad" bench!
T x

ChoccieMuffin
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

You're right, you did forget one. There's the "It's my fault" bench. This one's pretty full too, and I reckon most of us jump onto that one for all sorts of reasons, not only BC but the fridge breaking down, the washing machine flooding, the car costing a lot of money, etc etc etc... It's right beside the "guilty" bench, for ease of access.

J01
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Hillarious...

might have to cancel my Florida holiday to try out all the benches???.... Yeah right!!!

have fun has someone got the music???

Love to all
Jeanette xxx